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Moving furniture after death Posted: 04-11-08 16:28pm
Is it recommended to move furniture or
give away clothing after someone dies?
Should this task be on hold for a few
months after a death?
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^Serenity^
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Posted: 04-11-08 20:18pm
Hi
Everyone is different as to when they want
to clean things out. I know when my
grandpa passed away, my grandma started
cleaning out his closets and dressers
within a month. I don't think she was
thinking properly at the time. I believe
it was reaction with her, because one day
we went down there and she had either
thrown things away or given them away. I
think it bothered me more than it did
her.
To this day I can not sit in the chairs he
sat in. Those are his chairs. Does that
make sense to you at all?
On a side note I will tell you to look
through her belongings purses, pockets,
etc..your grandma's generation was very
good at hiding things.
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Tmddyan
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Posted: 04-14-08 15:10pm
if it was me---id change it all
when ,my grandmother died grandad refused
to move anyting he wanted the same meals
the same eveything--then he got married
and his new wife changed it all. so i
think that its a personal decision
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mominashoe
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Posted: 04-14-08 15:38pm
It is a personal decision. You do what
you feel is right. However I personally
feel that everyone should take time to do
something like that because once something
is done and given away or sold, that's the
end and you can't get it back. It's
something that should be thought
about...you might want those things back
later or a relative might too.
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Posted: 04-14-08 15:52pm
I agree with mominashoe.
There are things that someone might like
to have but it is already gone. It's so
hard when we lose a loved one and the
decisions that have to made.
It's a good idea to have the person write
out what they want to go to whom.
I know my grandparents started giving away
some things so they knew who was getting
what and if some else had a problem with
that then they dealt with the grandparents
decisions.
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Tmddyan
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Posted: 04-15-08 14:49pm
i agree as well. personally id not get rid
of it--perhaps rent a storage space and
store it there untill you are ready to
deal with it
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pauljonesnow
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I need advice Posted: 04-21-08 03:16am
HI, I work as a care provider in San
Francisco, CA. The lady i'm providing care
for Is suppose to being paying me half of
my income and the other half i get a check
from the state (IHSS). At first she was
paying me but later claimed that she was
having financial problems and that she
could pay me the full amount when she got
a refund back from the state. But she
recently told me she needs to keep most of
that refunded money, offering me only a
little, when i asked her to give me just
50percent, she changed her story and said
that she wasnt getting a refund at all,
and could pay me nothing.
She is on SSDI for back problems, im
pretty sure she has full medical coverage.
Is there a way i can find out if she is
getting a refund. also, does she need my
signature to get this refund. Im afraid
she is making money off of me, in addition
to the free care shes getting from me.
what are my options, i dont really want to
get her in trouble for fraud, so i want to
be sure that she can get a refund back,
before i do anything against her. please
reply anyone who has advise.
