My boyfriend broke up with me...help! Posted: 09-21-08 14:51pm
I am a gay male and I have been in a
loving relationship with this guy for
almost two years. Last week his father
died and I didnt hear from my boyfriend in
several days. I felt like I was being
pushed away. He finally called me and told
me that a long time friend that he had
just got back in touch with after many
years is going to move in with him and his
mother. This friend of his was there for
my boyfriend's mother after his father
died so my boyfriends mother wanted him to
move in. The problems is that my boyfriend
told me a few weeks ago that he had had a
crush on his friend a long time ago before
he met me and that he was tempted to cheat
on me after he hit on him. But anyway my
boyfriend told me that he just wants to be
friends because the death of his father
really screwed him up. Im really upset and
I dont know what to do. I want to be there
for him but at the same time Its a VERY
uncomfortable situation being around his
friend whom I have never met before. I
still love my boyfriend but I know things
are already set in motion for him and his
friend to start a realtionship. Especially
after helping him cope with his father's
death. I dont know what to do.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 10-03-08 17:44pm
I would say move on, It is hard, break-ups
are always hard. I understand he was
honest with you, which is a good thing,
communication works wonders and I can
understand why you feel the way you do.
My problem with it, is that it seems like
he is using his fathers death as a way to
break -up with you, it is like a
smoke-screen, he didn't want to hurt you
but really wanted someone else.
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Posted: 10-07-08 18:54pm
diamondsz and homer get my vote
too...........you play second fiddle in no
ones band....Move on and you will find
someone deserving of you....You are
special...You are bound to get your heart
really broken if you stay.....I also say
walk away from this nasty sitaution and
live a good life!
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JYoungBear
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Posted: 10-10-08 07:58am
Diamondsz hit the nail on the head.
Take your time to be with yourself, and
move on. Breakups can be harsh, but
remember one thing that is true that he
did communicate his feelings presently.
People often stay for a reason, a season,
or a lifetime. To find someone for a
lifetime is a challenge well met.
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12hello34
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Plenty of fish who deserve love in the sea Posted: 10-28-08 22:05pm
I agree with everyone here...
My feeling is that you need to move on and
find a man worthy of your love.
