my boyfriend left me during my pregnancy!! Posted: 05-08-08 00:46am
K, umm im 5 months pregnant, at the
beginning my boyfriend was sceptical about
having the baby but after about 2 days he
was ok & even happier than i was. then
2 months after we found out he just broke
up w/ me. i thought it was nothing &
he was just mad, he'll be calling me in a
couple of days & then a week went by
he didnt call at all so i decided to call
him on that friday...& i was like
whats going on? he was just like we're not
working. but he couldnt give me a specific
reason as to why everything was ending
completely. i called him a couple of time
trying to talk & fix whatever this was
& he was like theres no fixing it..i
was like well your over it im not what do
u expect me to do, he was like babe i
really dont care im not trying to be mean
im just telling the truth! so after that i
was like i cant allow him to hurt me
anymore so i just stopped calling &
stuff. when i found out we were having a
boy he called & we talked for hours
about everything, i thought he was turning
back into the guy i fell in love w/...but
come to find out he's back w/ his 2yo
daughters mother [but wait theres a catch
the child isnt really his, the girl
cheated on him & he found out through
some friends, so he got a blood test &
it was negative..he was there the whole
time so he just consider her as his.]
anyway me & his sister still talk so,
i guess the girl thought that i was still
talking to him also & she called the
sister asking if me & him stilled
talked...she was like she really doesnt
know! so i guess the girl took that as a
yes & her and my ex got into an
argument. out of no where once again he
called me & he sounded upset when i
answered the phone & he was like,
didnt i tell you from the start to have an
abortion, man i told you i didnt want
it...right then i was speechless! & so
he goes on to say, i know u talk to my
sister but do me & u talk.. i was like
no, where is this coming from? he was like
my babymama think that me & you are
still talking & messing around...at
that point i was upset so i was like i
really dont care what she thinks & i
hung up the phone! he called right back, i
didnt answer the phone, then he called me
around 2 in the morning...i had cooled
down by then so i decided to talk to him
& he was like im sorry for the way i
was acting earlier, you know i love our
son & i do want him...its just that
she(the babymama) told me i had to
choose!!!!! i was like what the medical
question, how does she expect you to
choose between your first child & your
first biological child? he said i dont
know thats why i think im going to leave
her b/c she's being unreasonable &
i'll be over there later on today so we
can talk. now i was excited at that moment
b/c i thought i was getting my baby back,
buuuuuuuuut he didnt show or call. the
next day i called him & he sent me to
voicemail! i havent heard from him since.
im not over him, i cry almost everytime i
think of him not being here, i love this
guy to death & i really dont want
anyone else! SHOULD I JUST WAIT ON HIM
UNTIL HE REALIZES THAT HE DOES WANT TO BE
HERE!...OR SHOULD I JUST LET IT GO, MOVE
ON, & JUST RAISE MY SON ALONE WHEN HE
ARRIVES?
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kerryn
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Posted: 05-10-08 01:39am
im almost 34 weeks pregnant, and my
partner of 14 months left me on thursday.
All he said to me was that he cant do this
anymore, that he doesnt want to lead me on
thinking something will happen when it
wont and to find myself a new man, and
then walked out. I was living with him at
the time, when i spoke to him later that
day he said he didnt love me and that he
never would, that i deserve better than
him. The stress put me into pre term
labour. Luckily i got to the hosp and they
stopped it, but they say im going to have
baby in the next couple of weeks. This is
all after he promised me he would never
leave and blah blah blah. I moved out
today when i got out of hospital, and even
though i love him, i am not waiting for
him- i am going to move on eventually
because if he can do it once, he can do it
again. this is my personal choice, and
nobody can tell you what to do. I hope
hearing my story helped.
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jlp
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Posted: 05-10-08 22:44pm
kerryn
wrote:
im almost 34 weeks pregnant,
and my partner of 14 months left me on
thursday. All he said to me was that he
cant do this anymore, that he doesnt want
to lead me on thinking something will
happen when it wont and to find myself a
new man, and then walked out. I was living
with him at the time, when i spoke to him
later that day he said he didnt love me
and that he never would, that i deserve
better than him. The stress put me into
pre term labour. Luckily i got to the hosp
and they stopped it, but they say im going
to have baby in the next couple of weeks.
This is all after he promised me he would
never leave and blah blah blah. I moved
out today when i got out of hospital, and
even though i love him, i am not waiting
for him- i am going to move on eventually
because if he can do it once, he can do it
again. this is my personal choice, and
nobody can tell you what to do. I hope
hearing my story
helped.
i understand where you're coming from..i
know i need to move on but i feel like its
impossible b/c i've never loved anyone
this much. he's the FIRST person i've
actually opened up to completely!
&& he actually lived w/ me @ home
w/ my parents, it seems like when he moved
out thats when everything just went
sour..we were still together but he was
just acting really weird. my sister told
me that he's going to come back as soon as
the baby's born..but i dont even know if i
will want him back after that b/c the only
reason he'll be coming back is b/c of the
baby! im just going to leave him alone!!
Thx for taking the time out to read this!!
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eeyore46
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Posted: 05-10-08 23:56pm
You are so right. If he does come back
when the baby is born, it will be short
term and then reality will set in, and he
will be gone again. It is his loss, and
he will eventually realize that some day,
but do not put your life on hold waiting
for him to get his priorities straight.
Obviously, he isn't responsible and cares
more about himself than you, his unborn
son, the two year old daughter, or her
mother. I know you think you love him,
but when someone else comes into your life
and treats you and this baby with respect
and the love you deserve, you will then
realize what TRUE love is. Cut all ties
now, your first priority is your health
and the health of your new son. I am sorry
you are going through this. I am not a
psychologist, I just feel sorry for what
you are dealing with. Again, RESPECT
yourself and tell him you have your
priorities straight, and you and your son
come before anything or anyone
else!!!!!!!!! BE STRONG!!!!!
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kerryn
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Posted: 05-11-08 01:11am
yeh, i love my ex still too, and as much
as i want him back, i wont take him back.
If they have the gall to leave at the time
we most need them, then theyll just do it
again when the time suits them. It sucks
but thats the reality of a lot of males
these days. At least your ex had to move
out, i had to move because the house we
were in was in his name, and it hurt too
much to be there anyway!
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preg and single in Housto
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Posted: 05-11-08 16:59pm
I am 5 weeks pregnant. I have been dating
a married man that said he was separated
and come to find out was not. He was fine
with the pregnancy at first then after I
contacted is wife after some suspicion she
told me everything and I did the same. He
is threatening me to get an abortion and
is wealthy with a wealthy family name. I
do ok, I work as a parallegal but am
stretched with buying a house and private
school for my 9 year old. Very confused.
Any advise?
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Posted: 05-11-08 19:55pm
eeyore46
wrote:
Again, RESPECT yourself and
tell him you have your priorities
straight, and you and your son come before
anything or anyone else!!!!!!!!! BE
STRONG!!!!!
Thx alot!! && next time he calls
im definiteley going to tell him this!!
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