My girlfriend has never had an orgasm Posted: 03-31-08 23:13pm
Hi I know there are many other similar
post on this forum, but I thought I'd ask
for advice specific to my particular
situation. My girlfriend is 21 years old,
I"m 25 (she is my first partner) and she
has never had an orgasm. She has had other
partners in the past and before we even
engaged in any sexual contact she told me
she has never climaxed; because she
brought this up prior to our first
interaction I'm very confident it isn't a
story to protect my ego. We are reaching a
point where we are very comfortable with
our bodies and sexuality and because I've
no experience with helping a woman reach
climax I'm trying to enlist her help with
pleasuring her. She tried to help me
figure out what felt better to her,
clitoral or vaginal stimulation (because
she seems to have a bigger reaction
sometimes to vaginal penetration) but she
seemed really really uncomfortable with
even touching herself and told me she
never masturbates.
I REALLY REALLY enjoy going down on her
and I've told her that and she get's
really grossed out and almost guilty
knowing that. She actually told me that
she hates subjecting me to "that" and I
keep assuring her I enjoy it, and that her
vagina is a clean healthy and nothing to
be ashamed of. I'm guessing that she has
some kind of mental block that's holding
her back from climaxing because I've
brought her to what I assume is the very
edge, body stiffening and shaking,
grabbing and squeezing my arm to the point
where bruises are left and she makes all
kinds of noises, but then she just kind of
calms down with out ever reaching.
If anyone feels like they have any
information, suggestions, or similar
experiences that could help us figure out
how to give her an orgasm we would greatly
appreciate it. I don't want to put
pressure on or stress her out about
climaxing because I know that could just
make the problem worse, but I do love her
very much and would like nothing more than
to be able to make sex feel as amazing for
her as she does for me. Thanks
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Hilly
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2008 Posts: 4 Location: Down South,
Posted: 03-31-08 23:44pm
I am a 25 year old woman, and it took
quite a while for me to get comfortable
enough with myself so I could figure out
how to orgasm. My suggestion is to
possibly introduce a small clitoral
vibrator. The intense clitoral
stimulation may help, seeing as how it
does get to the point quicker. As for the
oral, just keep reassuring her that you
enjoy it. Although there is a chance she
may never orgasm, some women just don't.
Good Luck
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msquared24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Mar 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 04-01-08 18:59pm
I will suggest it, but when I brought up
the idea of a mechanical device, ie
vibrator, she said that she thinks she
would just be wierded out by it. Do you
feel like it would be acceptable to just
go out and purchase something for her
myself and then just perhaps break it out
as I'm eating her out, I think she might
be much more willing to try it if I
already have her worked up.
Other than vibrators do you have any other
suggestions? She claims that I am amazing
when I perform orally on her and she says
no one has ever brought her closer and she
is enjoying sex but it want so badly to
help her reach so any other suggestions
are VERY greatly appreciated.
