I am 28 years old and my girlfriend is 24.
About 1 year ago she was raped and beaten
to near death by her ex and another man.
She admits to purging for around 5-6 years
. Her family is a military family and she
was sent to a safe house while the police
tracked down these 2 men. They have been
in jail for about 3 weeks now and she has
told me that she hasn't purged in around a
month which i do believe, naive or not i
trust her. She has a counselor and a
nutritionist that come to where she is
daily. 3 days ago she got a feeding tube
put in which she isn't comfortable with
and tells me i cant see her like this. Her
father loves her but doesn't try to learn
about what she is dealing with he just
gets angry and tells her to just come home
which is in Texas and we are in Michigan
and that house is where she was attacked.
Its so hard knowing that the woman i love
doesn't want to see me though i try to
understand. She has nightmares alot and
every night i sit on the phone with her
while she sleeps just so she knows im
there. She recently called my dad and told
him everything that was going on so i now
have someone i can talk to but i thought
maybe i would look for others who have
dealt with similar situations and reach
out for advice. I love her with everything
i am and i only want whats best for her
and i think im realizing that i may not
know all the answers to that question. i
have this empty feeling in my chest that
doesn't go away. i just want to hold her
but i cant. i cry almost daily and i feel
guilty for wanting to hold my girlfriend
because i know she is getting help. i
apologize for rambling but i just dont
know what to do and i am desperate for
anything.
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Wingnut
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mags27
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Joined: 16 Jun 2008 Posts: 5
hats off to you Posted: 06-17-08 10:35am
I have bulimia since I was 18 now 31 and I
was sexually and physically abused in my
youth which has left me with a marked
personality. I dearly love a man and he
loves me but over the past year any time
we have tried dating I end up pushing him
away because I am full of fear. He is the
most loving person I have ever met and I
am totally crazy about him. I think about
him 24/7 and yet I have such emotionally
issues that prevent me from getting close
to him the way my heart and soul desires
to. He has tolerated me freezing him out
on countless occassions and always
maintains his love for me and says he is
always there for me. Its truely amazing
you are standing by your girlfriend and
obviously it is deeply hurtful you cant
have the intimacy you crave with her. All
I can say is with counselling she love and
support and a fresh start possibly not
returning to the scene of the attack, She
has a great chance of recovering and I
hope you two can share your lives and love
each other the way you deserve. She will
never forget what you have done for her
and I think this will make your bond so
much stronger. Keep the faith and try
look after your own needs as she has a
great team behind her there. You also
need to talk and maybe an open meeting for
E.D or victims of abuse could help you
share with other loved ones struggling in
this frustrating and lonely place. Best
wishes *hugs*
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