My Husband of a Year Does Not Want to Have Sex!! Posted: 11-16-05 14:28pm
I'm a mother of a 2 month old and my
husband does not want to have sex. I get
hit on by men all the time, so I don't
think i'm ugly. I knew him for 3 months
before I got pregnent and he asked me to
marry him. We had sex all the time, now
its an every other day thing when I am
initiating it. I want sex all the time
and he doesn't. Is it a medical thing or
he's being unfaithful? I'm hurt and I
don't have a clue on this. I never have
heard of a man that does not want to have
sex when offered! All men, please reply!
And all women that have had this kinda
situation(!?) please help me out here!
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Jessica_CF20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 207 Location: NM
Posted: 11-16-05 17:00pm
Omg see I thought it was just my man when
I want sex its no no no I dont want to but
like days later when I am finnally
comfortable not getting sex and the sex
drive is gone he wants it and if I tell
him no he getts all butt hurt ????? I
dont know either I would just say its
normal?????? I would like to know as well
any responses will help thanks
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summer17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Mar 2005 Posts: 26 Location: Seattle, WA
I Think Its Normal Posted: 11-16-05 17:12pm
I think its normal because when I want to
have sex he tells me no. And he also says
that a relationship is not based on sex.
He says that he wants to hold me and be
intimate.
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Re: I Think Its Normal Posted: 11-16-05 17:24pm
summer17
wrote:
i think its normal because
when I want to have sex he tells me no.
And he also says that a relationship is
not based on sex. He says that he wants
to hold me and be
intimate.
i wish my husband would be like that more
often. He wants sex all the time and I
would just like to be held more. Don't
get me wrong, he is very affectionate
(spelling??) but there are times that i'd
rather be held then have sex.
Teresa
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angel6932
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2005 Posts: 788 Location: US
What to Do Posted: 11-16-05 17:30pm
Yeah I know how you all feel my husband
wants it but we have a 5wk and 3day old
baby so you can imagen. I have tried to
talk him into it and then we get started
then bam the baby cries. I just dont know
what to do. I really want to be with him
I mean its been so long. What do you all
think
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Posted: 11-16-05 17:34pm
It will get better. Plan to have sex when
you know your baby is going to be sleeping
for atleast an hour. Plus, it want hurt
your baby to cry for about 10 minutes
(make it a quicky!). Besides, you should
wait 6 weeks post before having sex
anyways.
Teresa
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Jessica_CF20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 207 Location: NM
Posted: 11-16-05 21:28pm
Well he doesnt want to cuddle either
dangit
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betterknow
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Nov 2005 Posts: 9 Location: USA
I Tried to Hold And Cuddle! Posted: 11-17-05 09:20am
First of all thanks for responding. Well,
I thought about the cuddle thing too.
When we watch a movie, he sits a little
farther away, when I give him a nice
squeezy hug, his arms seem looser, and he
seldom initiates sex! He has something to
blame everytime, like, I don't like the
food I ate, my stomach hurt, why am I so
tired, and its almost like he wants to get
away without having sex and wants me to
sympathise with him! He doesn't have it
even though all the the time I say, "i'll
do the work", but the other night he's
like, may be you should try something new.
And ladies, I am as adventure lover as it
goes! He does work with his ex, with who
he had a miscarriage and somewhat good sex
life, well, he wanted more than sex and
the girl told him right upfront that she
is in it for sex only. You think it has
something to do with it??
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 11-17-05 23:23pm
Sex is so overrated. But then again, my
sex drive is completely gone.
But that's a whole other issue. Lol
good luck hun. I'm sure your man will
come around.
