my husband wont have another baby Posted: 07-28-08 04:15am
My husband wont have another baby with me.
We have three beautiful boys but he says
if it was with someone else he would as we
fight a lot and have a lousy sex life. i
feel he is just being spiteful and find it
hard to forgive him
if we breakup I would be loney. Any
advice
Thanks
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Carifairy
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Posted: 07-28-08 14:37pm
IF you fight a lot, then you definitely do
NOT need more children!!
What makes you think that fighting is GOOD
for children?
BABIES do not make marriages happy... DO
you see how many pregnant women are harmed
and killed every year? Their bodies are
burned and hidden...
You need to WAKE UP and save yourself and
your 3 CURRENT children from a
relationship of fighting.
I have been married for 4 years now, WE
NEVER FIGHT.
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kymm
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Posted: 07-28-08 15:16pm
I totally agree with Carifairy.
How will having another baby solve
anything at all? When you and your husband
fight, i hope it's not infront of your
children.
I had to take my 2 kid's and leave cause
the fighting was so bad,thank goodness I
didn't have anymore.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 07-28-08 15:27pm
You can't make someone have a baby that
doesn't want to.
If he says he would have another baby with
someone else, just not you, why the hell
are you still married, no offense.
Fighting will only get worse in time.
I think you should get out and forget
about having another baby-that is the
least of your problems.
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bigminty
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Posted: 07-28-08 17:47pm
Thanks for your replies
I dont want to have another baby to solve
anything or make our marriage happier -i
love children thats why and wanted a big
family-even more so since my relationship
isnt that good
I have lots of friends who separated and
are NOT happy. My husband and I have a
great LIFE together -friends parties
holidays -just not a great relationship
sexually which causes resentment and anger
.At my age 46 i would not necessarily be
happier on my own-probably lonely. Also he
agrees that having our third boy is the
best thing that has ever happened to both
of us as he is so adorable-and he didnt
want a third for same reasons-but now we
hardly ever have sex because he cant come
inside me very often-this is why he is so
angry
Any comments welcome thanks
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NightStar
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Posted: 07-28-08 18:13pm
Maybe it is something he can go to the
doctor and ask about - see if the doctor
can help. There are pills men can use now.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 07-30-08 08:07am
Yes, I agree with NightStar, tell him to
seek professional help. It takes a lot of
courage for a man to admit he has a sexual
problem, so it might take some time for
him to accept medical help for this
problem.
Another idea to help your sexual life is
to try new things together. Rent a dirty
movie and watch it together. Buy some
toys, buy a sexy costume, just explore.
Try new positions. It's always fun to try
new things and who knows, maybe that will
make things hot for the both of you.
Bow-chicka-bow wow
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Georgia59
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Posted: 07-31-08 11:35am
Have you thought of marriage counseling?
Seems obvious to me. If he whines about it
tell him it will improve your sex life,
because it will.
Don't even think about more kids until you
work on your relationship!
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worrywart01
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Posted: 07-31-08 12:24pm
Why cant he come inside you? Is it because
he doesn't want the outcome to be another
kid? Go on birthcontrol but definitely
work out YOUR relationship before you have
another kid...idk why people think kids
are the miracle solution to a
relationship..if anything it just makes
you work harder at the relationship...i
agree with everyone else when they say
couseling is the best..it sounds like both
of you have some resentment there and have
made no effort to talk about it and if it
isn't talked about it wont go away...you
need to sit down with an unbiased 3rd
party and just talk things out
