My man of almost 10 years... Posted: 04-06-08 06:01am
is being a di@k att is so insensitive to
the fact i just loss my father and
recently (3 months on the 9th) gave birth
to my son. ive sspected him of cheating
several times (ive posted a bit about
that), my gut tells me hes lying and hes
so deffensive about the girl i so "accuse
him of". idk what to do. im depressed as
hell but i maintain a good side for my
son, in personal times i ? him. he denyes
everything, wont hear me out & will
barely help me with our son. im at home
mom, with son 24/7 so i cant just leave,
have nowhere to go. im hurt let alone a
mil diff things im going thru. i really
believe hes cheated on me when i was prego
and maybe a lil on the side now just cuz
my sex drive is a zero. also have
abnormal cervical changes which worries me
but i have to get checked (not cuz i want
to cuz im a baby) but for my son ya know.
seeing hes deffensive and un compassionate
idk what to do. i mean ive told him from
start till now i have issues, told him
why, when, how etc... nothings good
enough, all he wants is vagina. i resent
him sometimes, he can be good and bad at
the same time, but lack of help with my
new and only child hurts me a lot. any
ideas of what i can do to improve the
relationship i have? mind you, hes
stubborn, raised by drug addicts, never
had a male role model, his mom disrespects
herself (why he has hard time respecting
women), has been violent and sexually
aggressivve towards me etc.
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my3kids
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 29 Location: san diego, ca,
Posted: 04-06-08 18:22pm
Wow! It sounds like you have a lot going
on. If you suspect that he is cheating, I
would bet that he actually is.
Unfortunately, if he isn't ready to
change, there is nothing that you can do
to help the relationship. It sounds like
there is more going on than he is going to
be able to change by himself. The fact
that he has been abusive and raised in a
disrespectful enviornment proves that he
is going to have a hard time changing that
about his present environment. This is
what he knows and probably thinks is ok,
but in reality you deserve better. More
importantly than that though, your son
deserves better. He will grow up in that
environment and assume that his father's
behaviors are acceptable, and in turn
become just like him.
