so my boyfriend and I have been sexually
active*not protected* although i do not
know specific days we did anything. my
period in june was very light but it
lasted for six days, one less than usual.
this time, my period was suppose to come
on monday, the 14. but as you can tell, it
is four days late. i dont have alot of
symptoms but i have been having a funny
feeling in my upper stomach, and abdomen.
it's kind of a sick like feeling and it
makes me hungry, but when i eat i feel
like vomiting (although i have not). as
well as this i feel rather constipated,
but then it's like a wave hits and i have
diarreah and it is not pleasant. last
night i went to bed at 9, and did not feel
like getting up until 1... so as you can
see i am also exhausted.
i took a preg. test today but it was neg.
should i still be worried? actually i am
not even stressed about this so thats no
reason for my period to be late... and i
dont know what else could be causing it to
be.
and my boyfriend is very worried because
him at 18, and me at 17 we are both headed
to college and he wants me to get an
aboriton but i want to have and keep it or
give it up for adoption. i dont believe in
abortion but i cant get that past him
because he is freaking so much. do you
think he would ever become accustumed to
it and just accept that i wont have an
abortion? dont worry i would never be
forced into it. i will have that child if
i find that i am pregnant. but i was
wondering how i could go to a doc. to see
for sure because my mom will find out i
was at the doctors and i cant have her
know. so please any suggestions would be
good. and tell me what your first signs of
pregnancy were
thanks so much. sorry for it being way
long!
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 07-17-08 20:03pm
there is always a chance of getting
pregnant when having unprotected sex. You
can wait a few more days and test again
like maybe a week or so or just go see
your doc and have them give you a blook
test.
If you are not ready for children please
use some form of protection. You too are
still young and obviously you can see that
ur b/f is not ready for a kid. That
should be a red flag. Ya'll 2 need to sit
down and talking about this. It's very
important. It's ur future.
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lovebird08
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Posted: 07-17-08 20:07pm
trust me. i know we are not ready ... but
im accepting whatever happens and learning
from a lesson. we have talked about it but
never stopped. its what happens its life.
i cant go to the doc my mom will get a
bill
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 07-18-08 10:03am
oh okay well then just wait a few more
days and test again. You can miss your
period or it be delayed for a number of
things not just stress.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 07-18-08 12:33pm
There are free pregnancy testing centers
in almost every city in the US. Look one
up on the internet or in your phone book.
They'll test you for free and won't tell
your parents. They might also be able to
help you with free or low cost birth
control.
Never have unprotected sex unless you're
okay with getting pregnant. You're playing
with a loaded gun, and your luck WILL run
out.
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Reptar
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Posted: 07-18-08 12:52pm
Just so you know, increased hunger isn't a
sign of pregnancy. Most women lose weight
early in their pregnancy. Everything looks
awful except the one thing you're craving.
And morning sickness (or all day sickness)
comes from not eating. Feeling sick after
eating something sounds like something
else (people usually get sick in the
morning because they don't eat during the
8 hours they're sleeping). Keep testing or
go to your doctors because you need to
find out why you're feeling sick even if
it's not pregnancy. I can't tell you if
your boyfriend will ever come around. Look
at it this way, he has NO say in what you
decide to do. You've already made up your
mind. If he wanted the child and you
didn't, he still would have no say. If you
decide to keep it, he has to pay you for
the next 18 years for something he doesn't
want. It's hardly fair and so a lot of men
don't come around. I'm not telling you to
abort because it's what he wants or to
keep it because that's what he wants. I'd
just like to show you what he might be
feeling like so expect it to take some
time for him to come around if he does.
And also, you need to accept
responsibility quick. Saying that you're
accepting whatever happens and then NOT
going to the doctor is not showing the
kind of maturity required to have a kid.
Tell your mom and go to the doctor. You'll
need prenatal vitamins as soon as you find
out, you'll need to go in for regular
check-ups if you want a healthy pregnancy
and baby. Your mother will find out
eventually and you might as well get it
done now so you can take care of what's
important: the child you're bringing into
this world.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 07-18-08 16:16pm
well then he should have used protection.
An abortion is not a form of birth
control, and can permanently destroy your
system. If he didn't want a kid right now
he should have been more intelligent.
Instead of worrying about college course
he should have been thinking about sex ed
courses.
Its your body, nobody can make you do
anything. And I think if he is insisting
you get an abortion, he is being selfish
and not considering your feelings. If you
aren't pregnant, start using protection.
You get on birth control, and he should be
using protection as well. You can still
get pregnant on the pill. Thats why its
best to use more then one contraceptive.
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Reptar
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Posted: 07-18-08 18:32pm
They should of used protection but didn't.
That's no longer the issue. Anytime a
woman gets pregnant (whether or not she
uses protection) she has the option of
getting an abortion. A man doesn't have
ANY say in what she does. He can wear a
condom, have it rip, and then have no say.
If this situation were reversed, people
would be hollering about him sleeping with
a girl who believed in abortion. He just
can't win unless he wants the same thing
she does, so that is why I'm telling her
to consider why he might not come around.
Oh, and lovebird08, first general signs of
pregnancy are very similar to your period.
Cramps, exhaustion, etc. The first good
sign is that you've missed a period. After
that, morning sickness, sore breasts,
headaches, food cravings. There are a LOT
of signs, which is why it's easy to think
you're pregnant even when you're not.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 07-18-08 20:05pm
Abortion does not damage your reproductive
system unless you have a massive
infection. You stand a greater chance at
damaging your reproductive system with
pregnancy or childbirth than you do with
early-term abortion.
