No sex for 4 months!!

Can you talk to him about it at all? It's not a good thing if it's getting you upset. Do you get love from other areas of the relationship or is he just completely selfish? I know my partner gets bored easily so there are periods when we don't have it either but he shows he loves by doing other things. I'm only 29 too.
4 months is quite some time though. I would definately talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel ( which is not that great i know ) maybe there are things that are getting him down like for eg finances or something.

Take care,
Harmony1 xo

No, sex definitely does not equal love. but then again, neither does sitting in front of the computer all the time and ignoring you. love needs attention. it requires communication and understanding on both ends. More often than not, sex usually follows as a result of all those aspects of love. If it were simply his lack of sex drive that was the reason for no sex, then that should not be a problem because if everything was still good in the relationship then he should still be willing to please you, whether sexually, or even just by snuggling or paying attention to you. Usually, sexual problems are caused by deeper issues in the relationship. It's up to you to determine whether lack of sex is really the underlying problem, or if lack of love is leading to lack of sex

I have the same problem. I went a year before I had my son ( 1 year old) without sex. I got 6 months sometimes and we have been 10 years together. The problem is that we have a good marriage and all other aspects of the marriage work too. Am I supposed to leave the marriage because I lack sex? I think so sometimes. We've been through therapy and the therapist confirmed that I was not the problems but he holds grudges for small everyday disagreements and this is his way to punish me. What bothers me the most is that sometimes I catch him masturbating to porn on the computer and it upsets me that I have to compete with strippers when I am just as beautiful. I am only 27 and I have been married for 8 and together for 10. We had the best sex before marriage and he just turns me down all the time. I also feel neglected and abandoned. I almost feel like cheating just to get attention and to have an orgasm. The last few times that we have had sex, I have faked orgasms just to be able to stop because I am embarrassed to be naked in front of my own husband. I feel like he's looking at all my flaws and comparing me to the perfect stripper. Yet, I never had a problem getting naked before. In fact, we loved having crazy, hot, romatic sex, everyday. For 3 years we did.

I really feel for ya. I went through exactly the same thing! I've been married for going on 12 years now, and by the time we hit year 6 or so, we stopped having sex as much. My husband literally acted like it was no big deal, and after a while I just gave up and pretended like I didnt care either. All that did though is make it worse, and we ended up going 8 months without sex. I didn't want to be naked in front of him either because it embarassed me. I wasn't used to being naked with him anymore.

But then I was diagnosed with pcos and endometriosis, and suddenly COULDN'T have sex anymore anyway because it was too painful. I was in terrible pain everyday, all day long and only felt better temporarily while hopped up on painkillers or asleep. It really freaked my husband out, because we do love each other. The whole experience and recovery made us closer, and when I felt better we started having sex again.

I've made sure since then not to just let it slide. I keep a sex journal, and write down everytime we have sex. When it's really good, I write about it- how it felt physically and emotionally. It's nice to be able to read those things back, and sometimes I share them with my husband so that he KNOWS how I feel. I make sure to touch him everyday- scratch his back, hold his hand, fix his hair, lol whatever to keep contact going. Oh, and I frequently grab his ass. Out of nowhere I'll just throw my arms around his neck and kiss him. Little things, but they add up, and we haven't gone without sex like that since we got over our problem. If love is there, I think sex can always come back, but it wont do it on its own. You have to go after it.

Would I would advise (having been there myself), is to just start with the little touches here and there. Don't have sex be the end game though. Just be flirty and fun, and it'll help him relax. He's spending time on the computer or whatever, because he's getting his needs met there. Not sexually, but some kind of emotional need. Maybe he uses it to unwind after a long day at work? If you're relaxed and fun, he might rather spend time with you than it.

Keeping a journal would be nice too. Write down things about him that you like, rather than just venting stuff. Or you could write him a letter with nice stuff in it and stick it in his wallet, letting him discover it when he's away. Tell him how much you miss him, and how much you like his smell or his smile or whatever. He'll dig it, and it'll make him feel more important. Whatever you do, don't nag about wanting sex, or get onto him about not taking out the garbage, because that puts pressure on him. The key here is to get him to relax.