so my oldest cousin is getting married
this saturday to her boyfriend of 4 years
and I'm NOT a bridesmaid...I dont know why
it bothers me so much, she called me the
night he proposed to tell me....me and her
and her sister were and have always been
pretty close since childhood(or so I
thought). We've only recently become
slightly distant due to different
colleges. I've been very excited for her
but I cant help but feel slightly
dissappointed that I'm not in the
wedding...I guess I thought we were all
closer And I found out
tonight is the bachelorette party, and I
wasn't even invited to that! As happy as I
want to be for her, I am kind of bitter. I
feel like family gatherings aren't like
they used to be, things are sort of
awkward...and as much as I dont want to
admit it, I am upset about the whole
thing...anyone think Im overreacting?
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Beline
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Posted: 06-22-08 16:41pm
No, I don’t think you are over reacting.
When you love someone and have a close
relationship with them, it hurts to be cut
out of major events. I was in a similar
situation a couple of years ago and it
broke my heart.
The thing is just with weddings: its
chaos. It’s invitations, photographers,
venues, seating plans, accommodation
arrangements for family that doesn’t
live nearby, outfits, hairdressers etc,
etc.
It’s impossible to keep everybody happy.
I couldn’t. And obviously your cousin
couldn’t either. I’m sure that she
loves you very much, and it wasn’t her
intention to hurt you at all.
But that doesn’t help much, does it? It
still hurts.
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illustriously fickle
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Posted: 07-16-08 07:02am
I don't think that it's over-reacting
either. Have you told your cousin how you
feel? Watch out for resentments, though
(feeling anger over and over and over
again about the same issue)...from
experience I know that they are more
damaging to YOU than they are to her.
And I found out
tonight is the bachelorette party, and I
wasn't even invited to that! As happy as I
want to be for her, I am kind of bitter. I
feel like family gatherings aren't like
they used to be, things are sort of
awkward...and as much as I dont want to
admit it, I am upset about the whole
thing...anyone think Im overreacting?
