Joined: 26 Jun 2007 Posts: 133 Location: wellington, New zealand
Open relationship boundaries Posted: 04-17-08 02:25am
My partner and i have been dating for
about 13 months. Im bi-sexual, and our
relationship is open- we can sleep with
anyone we like so long as we dont trade
each other in. Recently, hes found a girl
hed like to sleep with, which is fine
except that shes getting a little too
close to him. She tells people hes close
enough to being hers, and he has lately
been telling people he has two
girlfriends. This was not part of the
agreement, also he spends a lot more time
with her than he does with me. We arent
very touchy-feely, but he and her are and
im worried that its gone past just being a
physical attraction. He also says the only
things stopping him dating her is me and
his family (they know her and there is bad
air there). I dont know how to tell him
that i cant handle him saying things like
that, and i want to know exactly how he
feels about her, but i dont know how to
ask. i feel so betrayed and hurt. Im also
currently 31 wks pregnant. What do i do,
and how do i talk to him about this?
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-17-08 11:59am
i would just come right out and tell him
how you feel, he needs to respect the way
you feel. you are 31 weeks pregnant, you
do not need that much stress around you.
and maybe you could try not having an open
relationship anymore, it sounds like that
is the reason you are having all this
trouble.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-17-08 13:51pm
I think your type of relationship would be
fun for a while but when it comes down to
it and your serious about each other
wouldn't you want him all to yourself? I
think there comes a time when enough is
enough, and it sounds like thats now. You
need to talk to him about how you feel and
find out what you need to know to get
everything in order.
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kerryn
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Posted: 04-17-08 14:35pm
im going to try to talk to him today, ill
let you know how it goes, and thankyou for
your support
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-17-08 14:37pm
good luck, i hope everything works out for
the best for you and your baby.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-18-08 06:10am
I also hope everything works out. Please
make sure you give an update. Good luck sweetie!
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kerryn
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Posted: 04-19-08 02:38am
i spoke to him, and told him that i was
scared they were getting too attached, and
he said that he might act like theyre
together, but hes only got one girlfriend
and thats me. also he had an arguement
with her and she asked what he wanted from
her and he said friendship and respect,
nothing more. hes also less touchy-feely
with her which is good, so im happy and
things are good between us again
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-19-08 09:37am
thats good to hear, I'm glad talking to
him helped! I just hope things stay this
way for you, good luck in the rest of your
pregnancy.
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kerryn
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Posted: 04-19-08 20:39pm
so do i! thankyou for your support
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Willa Weintraub
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Good luck sweetie!