hi yourll have helped me in the past and i
would like yourll to help me now. firstly
a few weeks back , when me and my g.f were
alone we tried oral sex.for some reason my
penis was kinda getting hurt in the sense
maybe it was due to her teeth ...so is
this suppose to happen or what?i mean when
a girl performs oral sex on a guy ,
besides how is it supposed to be done??? i
mean im pretty sure she wasnt doing it
rite but it was ok , it was her first time
so i dont blame her
secondly while performing oral sex on a
girl ...i tried licking her down there and
the usual fingering .. she extracts a
fluid when shes excited.. is tht safe to
swallow? the same goes for a girl , is it
safe for a girl to swallow precum.(we both
dont suffer from any std or diseases)
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Keeba88
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2007 Posts: 223 Location: ,
Posted: 04-15-08 10:31am
Yes, it is safe to swallow for both
yourself and your girlfriend. As for the
fluid she puts out, its totally normal,
its her lubrication, every girl does it.
(if their lucky )
About her performing oral sex on you, it
shouldn't hurt. It does sound like she is
using to much teeth like you had
mentioned. You did say it was her first
time, so you let it slide? I'm glad you
thought about that. My first time i was so
scared, i was afraid of rejection, so its
a good thing you let it go. I would say
give her another shot and see how things
go. If it still proceeds, just maybe say
something like "babe, that was great, next
time could you try using a little less
teeth?" Make sure she understand that she
doesn't suck at it! Make sure you don't
put her down, it could make her never want
to do it again if she feels like she isn't
doing anything right down there. She'll be
afraid of rejection and she doesn't like
the feeling of not being about to please
you.
...just look at her from her point of view
too. (which seems like your doing a great
job at anyways! )
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PenguinsRus
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Joined: 05 Nov 2007 Posts: 1224 Location: New York, NY United States
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Posted: 04-15-08 10:45am
I agree. I would gently mention to her
that she is using too much teeth but in a
way where she still feels secure in her
actions. You sound to be doing a great
job of supporting her so far!
As long as you have no STDs, swallowing
cum/precum, as well as a woman's
fluid/lubrication is perfectly safe. It
will not cause any problems, and there is
no possible way of pregnancy or anything
like that to occur from this.
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coolkenny13
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 04-15-08 11:29am
first of all penguin and keeba ...thank
you so much both for taking time off and
replying. i would like to tell you that no
matter if she does it wrong or uses even
too much teeth a 100 times , i wont leave
her just for that
.shes too nice and supportive of me and i
respect that.
secondly we dont feel like having sex
right now due to risks and other things.
is there any alternative to a dildo ?? i
mean is it alrite if i take a cucumber and
put a condom over it and insert it in her
vagina. or is there any other sugguestions
are greatly helpful
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PenguinsRus
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Joined: 05 Nov 2007 Posts: 1224 Location: New York, NY United States
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Posted: 04-15-08 11:35am
Vegetables like a cucumber are safe as
long as you are sure to put it in a condom
so the dirt/juices/etc do not cause an
infection. Dildos feel better and are
safer, though (you can order them online
and get them in a plain brown package if
you are worried about parents knowing or
getting to a sex store). Also, things
like electric toothbrushes (but not the
bristle end!) can feel good on a girl's
clit, kind of like a vibrator.
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coolkenny13
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 04-15-08 11:48am
i would love to go myself to a store that
if i could find one. i live in india , and
although we are growing at such a fast
rate, you know they would definetly not
open a sex toy store here as indians are
still to shy to do such a thing.there are
a few places but they are just to far. now
i would love to order by credit card.but
im sorry i dont have one. ill be getting
one next year..but i cant wait
haha.anyways i guess ill have to use the
cucumber ... any other ideas where we can
make our oral sex more interesting ?
thanks
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Keeba88
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2007 Posts: 223 Location: ,
Posted: 04-15-08 17:43pm
You could always use food? lol whip cream
that kinda stuff. I used butterscotch
once. That i don't recommend lol its to
sticky and a BIG mess. Chocolate although
it can get messy isn't as sticky.
As for dildos or vibrators... since you
don't have a credit card or sex stores,
yet, you could buy a back massager... i
have this bee back massager and it works
like a charm, not as good as my real
vibrator but pretty damn close. It has
four, i want to say legs, that come off of
the body that vibrates. Use it on the
outside or throw a condom on it and put it
inside...whatever she pleases! They are cheap,
like $10 max. They are just hand-held
little things.
Think the back massager is an option?
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coolkenny13
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 04-15-08 21:49pm
how safe is this -->
first i start off my performing oral sex
on her... then she put on her pants on
(just for the safety part of it ) and
perform oral sex on me. after we r both
done we plan on having bath together? is
that safe. i mean the remaining cum which
mite come on the either of our hands ..
although we will wash it off, is it safe
to finger her in the shower too