orgasm only with masturbation Posted: 03-23-08 22:05pm
I'll paint as full a picture as I can,
with times and everything.
I am a 17 year old male, born September
29th 1990.
Puberty came around 2003-2004, and with
it, the delights of masturbation. Since
then I've been partaking in it
increasingly, and in the four or five
years since I started, on average, I'd say
it was about 1.6 times per day.
At around March 2007 I started to express
worries about my penis - I did some
research and concluded that my foreskin
and penile frenulum were too tight. I
plucked up the courage to see the doctor,
which was harrowing. He confirmed my
suspicions and said it might sort itself
out, or he could write a letter of
referral to a hospital to see a
specialist. I told him that I would
consult him after my exams in June that
year. I didn't, and still haven't plucked
up the courage to do so.
I started having sexual experiences last
year - the first notable one was fooling
around with a friend of a friend in August
07, when I was 16 going on seventeen.
Since then I have had a few more, but now
since January I have a steady girlfriend.
She lives some distance away, and we only
see each other once a fortnight. To make a
long story short, we have sex. She has
polycystic ovaries (or something) which
means she's on the pill anyway, so I
haven't worn a condom.
This is fantastic for her (she definitely
has no problems in that area) but it gets
somewhat problematic for me because no
matter what we try, hand mouth or vagina,
the only thing that gets me to orgasm is
my own hand. Granted, sometimes after we
have sex and she lays alongside me
stroking my body and kissing me while I
masturbate, the orgasm is intense, but she
can't bring me there - only I can.
This has caused me a great deal of stress
and frustration. I am worried that the
combined factors of my foreskin/frenulum,
and adaptation to a specific masturbation
sensation, coupled with general stress and
insecurity associated with sex, are
completely crippling me. I've reached the
point where I can't hope and turn to the
internet for help.
Please, I beg you. I'm at the end of my
tether. What do I do to have normal,
healthy sex with my girlfriend?
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Papas
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 03-25-08 20:43pm
Don't mean to be a pain but I really would
like some help on this one.
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chnike112
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Mar 2008 Posts: 7
Posted: 03-26-08 01:17am
well in my amateur opinion I'd say that
you know your body better than she does
because you're accoustumed to pleasuring
yourself and knowing what feels good. She
cannot feel what you're feeling when she's
doing it so I'd say you should try and
communicate to her what's feeling good for
you. Tell her to keep going, or do this,
suck that, etc. I am on the other side of
the spectrum with PE so in my eyes you've
got the better of the two problems! Good
luck man
