So my boyfriends lease on his apartment
runs out this month I believe...he wasn't
sure for a while what he was going to do
since there were complications with this
place he's at and most other places are
too expensive...he was going to just find
a place of his own again somewhere else
eventually or just move in with his
grandparents temporarily...however...last
night he informed me that his dad came up
with this BRILLIANT idea of him and his
sister moving in together...
THAT is my problem...She friended me on
myspace and what not and I see that in
pretty much every other picture of her
shes drinking and partying with her
girlfriends and they're clearly
drunk....I've had a few minor trust issues
with my boyfriend during the 2 years we've
been together...he's never cheated on me
however..there are a few things that he
just should not have done..and he knows it
and its just made me question things every
now and then...things have been great
lately with us though
..with that said..neither of us go out or
party or anything(we'd tried that while we
were long distance and it caused alot of
problems..so its just been for the best
for us and both of us are fine with it)
but his sister JUST graduated high
school...and now..i'm getting flashbacks
of the way I was freshman year of
college..and I REALLY REALLY do not want
to put up with the same drama and b.s.
that I did...and I just have this terrible
feeling that her and my boyfriends place
is going to be party central for her and
her friends and I'm just really
uncomfortable about it all...I dont feel
like worrying every weekend about whats
going down at his place or whos puking
their guts out in his toilet...or what
girl decides to yank her top off and go
crazy or what girl is passed out on the
couch...i'm just SO not into the whole
college party scene anymore..i'm over it
WAY over it..and i thought i wouldn't have
to deal with anymore crapfaced
people(drunk)..its not my thing..its
really not...and i'm just really worried
that its going to cause alot of problems
between us.....
He HAS talked to her...supposedly...but I
dont see her giving a crap...and I'm
really not one to bite my tongue..if
you're disrespecting me...or bothering
me...i'm going to tell you...and oy...i
just dont want drama..or problems...
First of all, have you talked to him about
this? I don't mean fight, argue or bicker
about this...I mean just explaning some
concerns you have.
Does he have any other alternatives? could
this be a temporary thing while he looks
elsewhere?
I feel like rather than ask us if you are
overreacting, you should talk to him.
Don't freak out of him (that would be
overreacting) but calmly explaning your
concerns I feel would be the best way to
start approaching this issue.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 07-15-08 13:25pm
well..when he first told me he could tell
i had concerns...he was like "i thought
you'd be excited about it"...ehhhh..not so
much...so no i didnt attack him about
anything i just told him i was worried
about his sister and her friends
habits...he said he talked to her about it
and there were going to be "rules" since
he is going to be paying more of the
rent...he said "no shes not going to want
to throw parties bc she isn't going to
want to mess the place up"...you can have
a few girlfriends over..get drunk as all
and not mess the place up...im not ok with
her having girlfriends over to drink and
act dumb period..she came over to his
place ONCE while he was living on her own
and he ended up babysitting her and her
one friend the entire night....and i'm
just so not into that anymore..like i dont
even wanna be around it...a bunch of
minors getting drunk at his place and
acting dumb and him having to worry about
them all night....no...not ok...i just
really dont see a way of talking him out
of it...because a 2 bedroom is much more
affordable than a 1 bedroom..his room mate
that he was going to room with only lives
here during the school year so that would
make things complicated with the rent so
thats out...so basically he moves into his
grandparents(which he definitely is using
as a LAST resort) or he get a place with
his sister...and it isnt the fact that its
his sister that bothers me..i'm totally
fine with that...i just dont want her
bringing her friends over to spend the
night all the time and pass out on the
couch when they've had too much to
drink...and i think the reason i'm SO
concerned is because I know how I was when
I first went away to college...i let loose
and had fun with my new freedom...but I'm
over that, i'm done with it..and really
want nothing to do with it anymore..and
now he's moving in with her I feel like
I'm unfortunately going to have to deal
with ALOT of drunken girl drama that I do
not care for...i just see it straining my
relationship
