Persistent erection - no orgasm Posted: 06-21-08 18:14pm
Thought this would be the best place to
ask this.
My boyfriend (of 5 months) and I are
preparing to be sexually active as I am
about to start taking birth control and
keeping condoms on hand.
Recently I was over at his place and we
started to fool around - shirts off , bra
off, pants on (jeans and bikini briefs for
me, khaki and boxers for him). I didn't
feel up for anything further past that and
he was fine with that and we partook in
some outercourse (dry humping). I was able
to orgasm fine (twice) but I could still
feel his erection after a good 10 minutes
of this. I asked him if he "came" and he
said no. I told him that he go ahead and
finish but another 15 minutes later he
still wasn't able to orgasm.
I was concerned and asked him if he was
started to hurt or feel uncomfortable, he
told me no and just mentioned that despite
it feeling good my jeans felt "different"
when against him. Feeling bad about this,
I offered to get a condom for handjob; he
laughed it off and said that I didn't need
to do that and insisted that he wasn't in
any pain and we ended up just sleeping
until morning.
I feel really bad about this. Is denim
known to be that much of an uncomfortable
material when partaking in dry humping?
We're both beginners with this sex
business so some enlightenment would help
out.
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luvumason
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Posted: 06-21-08 18:22pm
Maybe like he said, it's just the
material. When there is no insertion and
lubrication it may just be hard for him. I
wouldn't worry about it. I am sure when
you two are ready for the real thing,
everything will be just fine and if not,
he can seek medical advice from his
doctor.
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Izzie
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Posted: 06-29-08 13:35pm
The same thing happend to me and my bf, I
think it's definitely the jeans
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furrytail
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Posted: 07-21-08 19:59pm
Another thing to consider is some guys
just don't ejaculate unles the penis is in
the vagina where it is warm and wet. Many
times this can be simulated through oral
sex, but sometimes even sucking will not
do it. I have guy friend who is like this
and can stay hard for a very long time and
I have only been able to get him off but
either vaginal sex or a good harding and
very wet sucking.
Wendy
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dreavgona
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Joined: 14 Jul 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 07-23-08 01:27am
Honestly, dry humping never actually did
anything for me. Sure, its nice and feels
good, but never even got close to orgasm.
Just cant and wont happen for me, not that
sensitive, and clothing just makes it
worse. Also, some guys would take quite a
bit more then 10 minutes of intercourse to
achieve orgasm, so duration might be the
issue, aswell as limited sensitivity due
to the clothing.
