I have no idea what to do. I am 10 weeks
pregnant and I dont want the babys dad
involved. We had dated for three years
and we only lived together for 4 months.
It just didnt work out. I had to wake up
every morning at 4:30am to take him to
work. He had an anger problem, he was
controlling and not once stopped to think
that his so called fiance was pregnant.
He insulted me and made me feel like a
nobody. He is never going to change. He
promised and promised to change but
nothing. He calls and looks for me at my
parents house but I refuse to see him.
Most of my friends are willing to pay for
an abortion. Is that what I really want?
The baby is already growing inside of me.
Would that be a wise decision? He will
never leave me alone. He will always be a
shadow behinde me especially with a baby.
He claims he is sorry, he claims once
again he will change. I got tired of it.
Thats why I left. Do I love him?
Yesss.......... I do and nobody
understands. Its just not gonna work
though. It wont. Should I become a
single mother. My parents hate him. My
entire family does. They gave me a
choice. If I pick him, if I forgive him,
my mother has said she will no longer
support me in any decision I make. How am
I supposed to feel? What do I do? Help..
Please...
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kacy_82
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: British Columbia
Posted: 10-16-05 20:00pm
I'm not sure what you should do. I do
know that an abortion is not the answer.
It's your choice though only you will know
what is right for you. I ended up having
an abortion at one time when I was with my
ex and he pretty much sounds like your
boyfriend, I was alone and just made the
decision to not go through with having his
baby. It hurt me for a long time it took
2 and a half years to get over having that
abortion. I would never suggest to
anyone to have one, its so painful as in
painful I mean to your heart. It's so
hard to know what the right thing to do
is.
No guy should ever be like to a girl.
Says things to put you down and make you
feel like crap, I think he should get some
help. If you two stay together he will
probably never change.. It's funny they
can say they will, but they never do... I
really wish I could help you. I hope you
figure something out and all works out
well for you. Please keep in touch and
let me know how things go. :)
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sonya99
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2005 Posts: 4
Difficult Decision Posted: 10-21-05 03:22am
Well, getting an abortion is something
that you will have to decide for yourself.
But you have to ask yourself some
questions -
1) do you want to be with your boyfriend
even though you don't seem to like him
much? Get a restraining order on him,
consult a women's help group or simply
move away from where he is.
2) if you have the baby, are you
financially capable of looking after
him/her? Your mom seems to be ready to
support you if you get rid of your
boyfreind, which is good.
3) being a single mom is really difficult,
but then every little victory is also
yours alone to enjoy.
All I can say is, don't bring a kid into
this world if you are not going to give
him/her a happy life. Also, if you go
ahead and have the baby, be strong and get
rid of the nuisance in your life first.
You have to eb brave and tell the guy to
get out of your life if you don't want
him. And don't be afraid of being
alone...Once you get out of this
relationship, you will feel more free than
you ever have.
Good luck with your life. Please be
strong and stay happy...
