Hi I've been dealing with alot of problems
lately with my sexual response on my gf
and had done extensive analysis of my
problem, but would like to get your expert
opinions on this. Just a bit about
myself: 26/virgin/exercise regularly
(running & pushups)/no drugs, alcohol, or
smoking/6ft tall/180lb/no prior health
problems. Also a little background about
my sexual habbits. I%u2019ve been
masturbating to hardcore porn ever since
start of high school almost everyday/every
other day. Regarding to my emotional
status right now, I can't say I am
depressed or anything, but I do have alot
of things on my mind: completing my
doctorate thesis, mortgage payments, and
finding a good career upon graduation.
Ok here%u2019s the deal, I just started
dating my first gf about three month ago
and I realized several problems:
1. Having hard time used to the lifestyle
of seeing somebody. However, I do feel
happy when we are together.
2. I feel like my erection is not strong
around her. My erections come and go in
cycles whenever we were cuddling on the
couch watching a movie. I am not sure if
this is a normal physiological response.
3. My gf and I had foreplay (non-oral
involved) couple of times, and I realized
that I can only take foreplay for about 10
%u2013 15min after of which I feel
extremely fatigued and cannot summon
another erection. During foreplay, I do
feel erections, but unsure how strong the
erections are. My first attempt at sex
with my gf was just after a tiring
foreplay and when I was struggling to put
on a condom, my penis just went to sleep.
I should say that it was my first time
trying on a condom and I panicked. Also
nervousness about sex was also there at
the time.
4. I find that when I masturbate to porn
movies (with no ejaculation), I can only
maintain my erection for 5 %u2013 7
minutes. If switched to a more arousing
porn, I can maintain it for 9 %u2013 10
minutes. I should mention that I pretty
much can only maintain my erection with
physical contact/stroking to porn.
5. I consider my libido to be pretty low
and I also think that I have some ED
problems with the scenerios I described
above. For many reasons, I believe that
my low libido and my thought of ED
problems are interacting with each other
through a negative feedback loop, which
makes my problems worse.
6. Because of scenario #3, I now dreads
the thought of sex when my gf comes over,
which somewhat intensifies my anxiety and
ability to obtain an erection.
I am not sure if my ED problems are
physiological in nature, but at least to
some degree. Afterall, I am able to
masturbate to ejaculation with porn and I
do get nocturnal/morning wood (although I
don%u2019t think they are strong
erections). My final conclusion is that I
have mild form of ED physiologically, and
mentally it%u2019s making it worse. I am
going to see an urologist about my problem
and get everything tested to rule out
physical causes. I would like to hear
about some opinions about my problems or
ways to alleviate or lessen my anxieties.
I really appreciate your genuine help.
