My now ex boyfriend dumped me. It
wasnt him that called and told me it was a
friend of his, that i later found out the
she is having his baby. Well thats not
what I need the advice for. I have been
having some pregancy symptoms. So as you
all might know i might be with child by my
ex boyfriend. Well the thing is since that
friend of his called I havent heard
anything from him. Well i am trying to
figure out something.
Since I have not heard from him, I am
not sure if i want to tell him if I find
out that i am carring his child. But the
other part of me wants to tell him. I am
feeling thesse cause he knows i might be
carring his baby but he hasnt called me to
see how i am or if I found out yet. I am
convused on what to do. I have not been in
this kind of situration.
Can anyone help me.
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Fairy*Godmother
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Hi Posted: 06-21-08 15:56pm
Not sure how old you are and why you were
not using protection. First, you came here
asking for help, I am bluntly telling you,
as I do not sugar coat. It may not be what
you want to hear, but its my opinion. If
this guy has not called you.....its a
sign. You do not need his friend to call
to tell you. This "friend" that called is
having "his" baby? some
friend..................If he suspects you
are pregnant and ahs not called, does this
not tell you something/ It speaks volumes
from where I am coming from. I would first
find out if you are pregnant. I would not
use this pregancy thinking he'll come back
to you. If you are NOT pregnant, Please,
until you are in a stable and providing
environment, do everything possible to not
get pregnant. Think about the future of an
unborn child. I fell sorry for the
"friend's baby".
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whitetiger22
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Dec 2007 Posts: 59
Posted: 06-21-08 22:07pm
Thanks Fairy godmother. I wasnt thinkning
the way you was. Well I never though of it
that way. What would you suggest if I am
with child. Should I get him for child
support or just say i dont know who the
father is and not tell him what so ever.
Again Thanks,
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Fairy*Godmother
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HI Posted: 06-22-08 14:47pm
How old are you? Can you support this baby
and provide a nurturing home for it? If
you are pregnant, and your do decide to
keep it, I would most certainly tell the
father and als get child support from him.
He was man enough to have sex with you
unprotected....he can help pay to spuuort
this child. Not sure of your living
situation, your age, if you are in school,
or work or live alone.....I do feel a
child brought into this world needs to
have both parents. I was raised in a
broken home. I also feel this child should
be given every opportunity there is
available for hte best life. I have a
wonderful neice and a nephew, thanks to
two Mothers who decided to give them up
for asoption becasue they could not
provide a quality life those kids deserve.
My brother and his wife could not have
kids..........now I have two wonderful
kids who call me Aunt Fairy*Godmother! So
amny options you have to decide. First,
find out if you are pregnant.
