pregnancy effect on family Posted: 05-14-08 21:59pm
Everyone must read these topics over and
over again, but i just need some advice
and guidance. I am 16, and i might be
pregnant. I know usually everyone says
your parents will love you and support you
no matter what, but that is not the case
for me. I have had a discussion about this
with my parents before and well it didnt
turn out so great. My mom basically said
that she will of course be soo
disappointed in me and how she could never
believe it can happen to me and how im not
ready. But my dad said he would take me to
get an abortion which is not an option to
me at all; so he said then i simply cant
live there. My mom also said privately
that if i were to be pregnant that my dad
would blame her and kick her out of the
house as well as me. My boyfriend is very
supportive and definitly against abortion
and wants to keep the baby and so do i. If
i am in fact pregnant, i will have to
leave my house and i can stay with my
grandma or with my boyfriend and his
parents. I just cant take the fact that my
parents will not be there for me and that
i will rip my family apart...
-i need help.
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ur.commommy.bex.24.
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Posted: 05-15-08 05:11am
well im gona tell you now
as soon as they see that little bundle of
joy im sure they gona change there mind
my sisters bf and his family disowned my
sister after she got preg they only
dated 2 weeks ....he said its not mine
now my nephew has arrived and he so cute
..... after 9months of calling her a
dirty stop out and all the names under
the son he took a dna test and now his
family and him are asking to take the
baby over weekends
my father also my brother said im too
young (i was 21 ) anyways they didnt
aprove and as soon as my belly grew so
did there love for this baby growing
inside of me
im sure your gona be ok...... just give
them some time they will change there
mind
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anniek
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Posted: 05-16-08 07:46am
You can't feel as if your ripping your
family apart. It's their decision to not
support you not yours. It happened as many
unplanned pregnancies do. I have two
children that I did not plan but I love
them dearly! I was 17 when I found out I
was pregnant with my first. Luckly my mom
had had me young and knew I needed the
support. Yeah she was mad but after the
shock she let me know that they would be
there for me and support what I decided to
do. (Get married, keep the baby, or give
it up for adoption) I was also lucky I had
the support of my boyfriend (now hubby!)
and his family. It sounds like you have
half of all that and your parents will
probably come around after yes being mad.
I hope everything is going well for you
and hang in there!
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StacyHoll
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Posted: 05-16-08 08:11am
I am sorry to hear that you're baby isn't
being as welcomed as much as you would
like. I bet your parents are just scared.
When are you going to test?
Thats good that you have options to stay
with your grandma of your boyfriend and
his family.
Keep your head up be strong, and you have
support here too. You can show them that
you CAN do this. - YOU can love this baby.
Many teens do it everyday.
Anyway! Good luck!
Stac
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 05-16-08 08:44am
IF you are pregnant, I would go apply for
Medicaid and WIC right away. That will
assist you in medical costs and food.
Also, you can get public housing vouchers
in case you were to be kicked out. Gotta
do what you gotta do.
I do feel that if you are responsible
enough to take care of this possible baby,
then you should really think about getting
a GED and looking for a job to support
your new family.
It will be hard, trust me.
But there are plenty of mothers that did
it before you at 16 (sometimes younger)
and many more will do so after you.
good luck!
The women on these boards are really
supportive.
Try not to let the negativity get to you.
Every mother feels negativity at some
point in their pregnancies.
At 21 when I told my mother that I was
pregnant, she told me to get an abortion
right away. My father called me a
degenerate and the rest of my family
called my unborn child a bastard and
illegitimate because I was not married at
the time.
You do what you feel is right in your
heart.
But just know that the negativity will
subside once your family gets to meet this
possible baby and once you prove that you
can raise this child by your actions
alone.
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StacyHoll
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Posted: 05-21-08 20:43pm
How are you doing now its been awhile
since we heard from you..
