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krystineM
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Posted: 04-25-08 14:58pm
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rainstorm, its kind of a waste to say
that, because know matter how many times
young teens are encouraged to wait to have
sex, be it till their older, married
whatever, they are still going to do it
know matter what anyone else says. I mean
if young teens can go against what their
parents wishes are, for them to not even
have sex till their married, why would
they choose differently now?
If they do choose to wait longer,
great..but i dont think the chances of
that would be very high or likely. If they
are, good on them.
If this girl does in fact want to still be
with Anthony, then hopefully she would
respect his wishes, wait to have sex till
they or he thinks he is ready again. And
take it on time, otherwise if she cant be
committed like this, she will do what she
wants with someone else. OR this whole
roller coaster will start again.
Know matter how big someone makes the
situation [ex:possibly pregnancy, if she
takes bc on time, corretly etc.] those
questions get shoved aside majority of the
time and the only thing that is on the
mind is sex.
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rainstorm
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Posted: 04-26-08 22:06pm
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I have more faith in children, I guess. I
don't think they are all animals with no
self-control, especially after they've had
a close call/scare like the one the
original poster an his gf just had. Not
all young teens are having sex.
Most teens think more other teens ae
having sex than really are having sex:
"In a study presented at a meeting of the
American Public Health Association
?(APHA),
They found evidence that teens who have
intercourse tend to think their friends
are too, even if they're not. "You're 2.5
times more likely to have sex by the 9th
grade if you think your friends are having
sex -- whether or not they really are,"
says Katharine Atwood, assistant professor
at the Kentucky School of Public Health.
Plus,
teens tended to overestimate how many of
their friends were sexually active. Only
33 percent of kids in the study had had
sex by the 9th grade, but 31 percent said
that most or all of their friends had had
sex. "If you can persuade them that
fewer are having sex than they think," she
says, "that can have a significant impact
on their behavior."
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-26-08 22:15pm
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lol kids these days have changed over the
years.
Their dressing more provocatively, having
sex earlier, doing drugs way more that
before too.
Those studies are outdated.
Its great to have faith in them, but
reality is, times have changed, respect
for parents have gone right out the
window, and how the kids are controlling
the parents and doing what they want to
do.
"If you can persuade them that fewer are
having sex than they think," ... "that can
have a significant impact on their
behavior."
teens are gonna do what they want
regardless of what others are doing. There
is no persuading when their around their
friends for majority of the day and weeks
at school.
Those srudies have changed.
NOW kids are having sex earlier at grade
8, and the nmber of kids doing this goes
up as well when they reach highschool. I
think [not 100% sure have to ask my
fiance] they also said that only a small
handfull are not having sex. But majority
of them are indeed having sex and doing
other things too.
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manuftw82
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Posted: 04-26-08 23:25pm
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Even if studies show that kids really
aren't having that much sex it doesn't
mean that they aren't doing other
dangerous sexual things. I knew a lot of
people in high school who were virgins but
got on their knees for every guy who
wanted it.
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-26-08 23:49pm
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exactaly.
and another study shows, that these days,
more GIRLS are the ones wanting, having
and encouraging sex with their partner.
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Anthony1
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Posted: 04-27-08 08:48am
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Yea before I started dating my girlfriend
she was a good girl and didn't do anything
like she has with me.
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-27-08 09:06am
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sometimes a switch goes off
[hypathetically speaking]
and all of a sudden they [girls &
boys] are doing things they have never
done before, or told themselves they would
never do or let happen.
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rainstorm
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Posted: 04-27-08 10:27am
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| Anthony1
wrote: | | Yea before I started dating
my girlfriend she was a good girl and
didn't do anything like she has with
me. |
So is she bad now?
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rainstorm
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Posted: 04-27-08 10:29am
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| manuftw82
wrote: | | Even if studies show that
kids really aren't having that much sex it
doesn't mean that they aren't doing other
dangerous sexual things. I knew a lot of
people in high school who were virgins but
got on their knees for every guy who
wanted it. |
I'm not sure I would call them "virgins",
then. So why do girls do this? Are they
also getting oral sex from the guys?
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rainstorm
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Posted: 04-27-08 10:47am
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| krystineM
wrote: | lol kids these days have
changed over the years.
Their dressing more provocatively, having
sex earlier, doing drugs way more that
before too.
Those studies are
outdated. |
When do you think these studies were
done?
| Quote: |
Its great to have faith in them, but
reality is, times have changed, respect
for parents have gone right out the
window, and how the kids are controlling
the parents and doing what they want to
do.
"If you can persuade them that fewer are
having sex than they think," ... "that can
have a significant impact on their
behavior."
teens are gonna do what they want
regardless of what others are doing. There
is no persuading when their around their
friends for majority of the day and weeks
at school.
Those srudies have changed.
NOW kids are having sex earlier at grade
8, and the nmber of kids doing this goes
up as well when they reach highschool. I
think [not 100% sure have to ask my
fiance] |
Ask him what?
| Quote: | | they also said
that only a small handfull are not having
sex. But majority of them are indeed
having sex and doing other things
too. |
Who is "they"? Please
clarify this last part of your post.
Btw, it is very common for teens like you
to think more other teens are having sex
than really are having sex. Did you see
that in my post?
Here is a RECENT study:
Facts on American Teens' Sexual and
Reproductive Health
09/2006
SEXUAL ACTIVITY
•Nearly half (46%) of all
15-19-year-olds in the United States have
had sex at least once.[1]
•By age
15, only 13% of teens have ever had sex.
However, by the time they reach age
19, seven in 10 teens have engaged in
sexual intercourse.[2]
•Most young people have sex for the
first time at about age 17, but do not
marry until their middle or late 20s. This
means that young adults are at risk of
unwanted pregnancy and sexually
transmitted infections (STIs) for nearly a
decade.[3]
•Teens
are waiting longer to have sex than they
did in the past.
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-27-08 13:54pm
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see that study was done 2and a half years
ago.
We're in 2008.
A group, i can't remember who, did a study
on how many teens are having sex.
This group, found that more kids are
having sex in grade 8. and The numbers go
up when they hit high school.
Only a few teens are not having sex and
would rather wait.
But the rest, are engaging in sex and
other things.
Its not common for other teens to think
their friends are having sex, they talk
about it at school, I hear kids in my high
school talk about it all the time, you
cant pursuade them to think their friends
arent doing it when their around them
majority of the week at school.
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lele25
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Posted: 04-27-08 21:59pm
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Kystine......a 2006 study would actually
be considered recent. You have to
understand the enormous amount of time,
people, research, and refining that goes
into an thorough study that covers such a
broad spectrum of people. I took Political
Inquiry and Research Developement courses
in college and even for a small study of
say 10-15 people, we would easily spend
6-8 months. It's not like they just set up
a poll and let people vote.....no no no
its much more scientific than that.
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Anthony1
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Posted: 04-28-08 16:28pm
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No shes not a bad girl...We love each
other, and shes getting on birth control.
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-28-08 17:45pm
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well thats good.
at least you both have learned from this
whole experience
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Anthony1
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Posted: 04-29-08 16:29pm
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Yes definitely, I hate when she has her
period she gets mad easily
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-29-08 17:26pm
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lol ahh the joys of PMS symptoms
some women get really moody during their
time of the month.
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LeLe_F_BaBii
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Posted: 05-11-08 18:04pm
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shyt to be hoest i think she just want a
baby bad cuz me and my ex wants a baby
reall reall bad at first and its like 5
days i was hillucinatin lol however you
spell it lol and was eatin a lot hurting
etc... shyt but i came on my period four
days late then started hurting again and
it has now been 4 weeks and i been havin
stomach pains and what not but nolll i
doubt i am and i doubt she is she prolyl
just afraid she mmight be and the devil is
starting to work agaisnt her and put it
into her head and by her speakin on it
give the demon more to work with dude keep
your head up lol your not a daddy
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jessamyn
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Posted: 05-12-08 14:59pm
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her being sick and crampy also could be
due to teh fact she is only 14 her body
may not be ready for sex. Even if shes
already gettign her period.
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preggie meggie
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Posted: 05-12-08 18:10pm
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I think that if you think your to young to
be a dad then you probably shouldnt be
having sex... but atleast you are trying
to be safER... you so know the only way
that NOTHING can happin is if you DO NOT
have sex...? Just woundering...I just went
trough this with my little sister.
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