Yes, yes, I know what you are thinking...
wow just another teen pregnancy. But... I
am so excited that i finally have
something to LIVE for! Yes, I know it will
be hard... but im up for the challenge.
BUT, The bad part is....
There's always a BUT right.. lol!
I am pregnant by an african american man.
I am a white girl, from tennessee... and
thats really not acceptable to my parents.
I guess I just need someone to talk to
about it.
Also, im about 16 weeks, and i can barely
tell that I'm showing... is that normal?
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trijos21
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Posted: 04-28-08 20:39pm
have you been to a dr. yet??? Maybe you
are not as far along as you thought you
were???? Also ive read that smaller girls
take longer to show.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 04-29-08 08:25am
It's perfectly normal not to show at 16
weeks, i only showed properly when i was
24 weeks, i'll try and find thelinkfor
you. As for the race issue, your parents
need toaccept that this is 2008, race is
not and issue anymore and should not be.
This will be their grandchild and they
should love him/her whether they are
black, white, asian or purple with pink
spots
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 05-11-08 01:30am
If you have a tall torso, it's perfectly
normal not to show for awhile. I hardly
looked pregnant at all, and I was
technically 39wks when I gave birth (my
daughter weighed over 8lbs too)
My cousin was raised Catholic... school,
church everything... she turned 18, out on
her own, and about a month later was
pregnant to an African American man too.
My uncle always said "Just don't come home
pregnant to a black man" (they were pretty
prejudice) but he accepted that it's his
grandson, and they love him
unconditionally. It'll be hard to tell
them, but once they accept they are going
to be grandparents and see him/her for the
first time, they'll fall in love. I fell
in love with my niece (who was biracial)
when I first saw her and my sister gave
her up for adoption.
Good Luck!
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acnsoverberg8607
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Posted: 06-07-08 19:13pm
as for the race thing it should matter if
the baby is green with purple strips and
pink hair it is a grandchild and they will
except it im sure it may take til the see
and hold the baby the first time but they
will and i didnt show til late in my 6th
month im about 5 foot 2 and normal weight
is about 120
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torchwoodfan
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Posted: 06-26-08 06:08am
hi, i am 18 and have a daughter and
pregnant.
Your parents will take a while to get used
to the fact that your baby will be a
different colour but should love it no
matter what. Even if it was red, blue,
orange it is there grandchild and should
accept the fact that you are pregnant and
deserve to be treated fairly and so should
the baby.In time everything will be ok and
time will tell.
good luck with the rest of your pregnancy
and hope that everything goes smoothly.
When i was pregnant with my first child i
was 16 and did not start to show until i
was 28 weeks pregnant and she is now 18
months old and is healthy. She has no
problems.
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clynn176
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something to live for. Posted: 07-20-08 00:27am
i am 17 and 24 weeks pregnant. my baby
wasn't planned but now i realize i finally
have something to live for as well. so yeah, i know the
feeling.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 07-21-08 15:31pm
Something to live for?
What a great burden of an idea to place on
a poor child.
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clynn176
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response to amethyst butterfly Posted: 07-21-08 17:35pm
i appreciate your opinion, after all
that's why we are on here, i guess, but
there are many reasons a baby can provide
something to live for. for, example, i
have an eating disorder. for years my body
and food have been my enemy. now my body
is a vessel and food is necessary to have
a healthy baby so i do my best to be
healthy and enjoy it.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Re: response to amethyst butterfly Posted: 07-21-08 17:54pm
clynn176
wrote:
i appreciate your opinion,
after all that's why we are on here, i
guess, but there are many reasons a baby
can provide something to live for. for,
example, i have an eating disorder. for
years my body and food have been my enemy.
now my body is a vessel and food is
necessary to have a healthy baby so i do
my best to be healthy and enjoy
it.
I totally no what you mean. I didn't mean
it like that. But i feel that a baby is
not meant to be brought in to the world to
solve our own personal demons. Its not
fair to the baby. But I dod understand
what you mean. I was battling bulimia for
several years, I was also cutting, it
stopped when I got pregnant, because its
not longer about you. But I didn't get
pregnant, and think now I have something
to live for. When I got pregnant. I
decided i didn't want the baby to suffer
because of me, and that I wanted to be
healthy for my baby. I never wanted my kid
to see me like that.
i understand what you mean. and i can
relate to the cutting thing too. that is
not why a baby is brought into the world,
but that is what the baby has done for me.
like you, i never wanted my child to feel
neglected because i was in the hospital
getting fluids put in me, or whatever... i
don't want my child to see mye like that.
so we are saying it
differently, but i feel we are on the same
page.
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spyrogirlkim
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Posted: 08-13-08 15:27pm
As the mother of 3 teen girls I know your
parents will be upset for a few minutes
but there main concern will be you and
your baby getting the medical care you
need to bring your baby into the world
happy and healthy.My oldest daughter id
17,she has a 2 year old son who we love
very much and she is 6 mos along with baby
# 2,a girl.We cant stand the daddy of baby
#2 but we will love this baby as much as
my grandson.
so yeah, i know the
feeling.