pregnant with bi-racial child Posted: 05-18-08 22:38pm
So I come from a very judgemental racist
family. I am the first female in the
family who has exceeded in academics and
has earned the oppertunity to go to
college, in hopes of becoming a doctor.
Although, this past year was my freshman
year in college, where I met a
african-american man who I dated for a
period of time. I just came home and am 18
weeks pregnant with a bi-racial child. My
family has no idea yet (luckily I still
look good, with no signs of being
pregnant) and I have no idea how to tell
them. My brothers all know and are
accepting of it and have left it to me to
tell the rest of the family. I was going
to wait until im 20 weeks and know the sex
of the baby to tell everyone else.
Unfortunately, me and the father are no
longer together, and i'm concerned this
fact alone will prove all their "theories"
of black men are correct. I want them to
be able to accept my little blessing, but
have no idea on how to tell them to make
it easier. Any suggestions are
appreciated
By the way, my parents have always assumed
i've dated black men, and have always
noticed I have had way more black friends
then white throughout my life, so this
isn't a new thing.
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Muthoni
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DiosBlankita Posted: 05-30-08 23:05pm
You and the baby are going to be fine.
I got a child Jessy with a man from
Mozambique, a different country than my
homeland Kenya. The child's family lived
in Kenya as refugees. My heart is beating
just thinking about it. My family could
not hear of it, a refugee? It was in 1990
when my daughter was born. They became so
hostile at home for having sex before
marriage and having a child out side of
wedlock. Violence was a factor and so I
left home with my daughter. We suffered
quite a bit but with time, they really
loved Jessy. Now she is long dead and all
I have are memories.
Don't take any abuse.
I am sure you will do fine. I never told
my family I was pregnant until I was six
months pregnant and kicked out of college
for being pregnant. It was a Catholic
school.
Oh yea, the baby will be one heavens of a
cute baby. No doubt.
All the best with that. You don't even
have to tell them if you find it is
difficult to tell them. But again you say
you have many black friends who they know
of so it won't shock them. How about just
saying you are pregnant and not saying any
more? And then SURPRISE!! Lot's of
options.
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congradulations Posted: 06-07-08 11:04am
Congradulations on your baby.
I am married to a Black Man and i have 2
children my father passed two years before
i had my son but he was racist.. kinda my
fathers family found out i was pregnant
and they had no choice tolike it or not to
I was having the baby anyway, You and your
baby are goingto be beautiful. My family
and my fathers family accept it because
they love me. I am still who i am it
doesnt matter the race of a child or who
you are with as long as you love them and
they respect you for who you are.
If your family love you they will see this
is what you want and that you are happy.
A PERSON IS A PERSON NO MATTER WHAT RACE
THEY ARE!!! ESPECIALLY IF IT IS YOUR
BABY...
SONT FORGET TO POST PICS OF THE BABY AND
YOU...
CONGRATS AGAIN
SINCERELY,
WENDY
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Posted: 06-07-08 11:31am
You lost your daughter Muthoni? I'm so
sorry!
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Jules Posted: 06-07-08 12:11pm
Jules
wrote:
You lost your daughter
Muthoni? I'm so sorry!
Yes, Jessy passed away at six years ten
months. She was in Kenya and I was here.
After mourning her for 10 years, I let go
and I was healed. Thanks for your
sympathy Jules, much appreciated. If she
had lived, she could have been 18 years
old in August.
I am sure she is in good hands.
Always
Muthoni (Mson)
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Re: Jules Posted: 06-07-08 13:07pm
Muthoni
wrote:
Jules
wrote:
You lost your daughter
Muthoni? I'm so sorry!
Yes, Jessy passed away at six years ten
months. She was in Kenya and I was here.
After mourning her for 10 years, I let go
and I was healed. Thanks for your
sympathy Jules, much appreciated. If she
had lived, she could have been 18 years
old in August.
I am sure she is in good hands.
Always
Muthoni
(Mson)
Oh that's just so awful, such a young
age.
You're a brave lady and I bet Jessy is
proud of her mummy.
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Jules. Posted: 06-07-08 13:08pm
Jessy died of a penicilin reaction.
The dispensary was so unequipped that they
strapped Jessy one the baby sitter's back
and sent her home via transit bus.
Unreal. She was already dead.
Always
Muthoni (Mson)
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That is sad ): Posted: 06-08-08 23:10pm
I lost our son full term he lived for 90
minutes and passed away from Brittle Bone
Disease. Born Aug,11,2005 and passed Aug,
12, 2005. When was your daughters
birthday. i am not a religious person
but,
I do believe God only gives us what we can
handle.
Wendy
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Wendystallings. Posted: 06-08-08 23:43pm
Sorry to hear about the death of your son.
Thanks for your strong words.
Jessy was a Virgo. August 31. She would
have been 18 this August. I cannot even
imagine.
