Probably another ignorant question from a straight guy

Well, you know me sort of and I have always been gay. Never did I have a revelation or anything. I was born gay, have always been gay. Kinsey 6. I have never had sex with a woman and never had a fantasy or anything about women.. I am not fem or hyper masculine, just an average Joe. I lean towards the belief that i was born this way...heck, I know I was. I hope other GLBT people respond to this thread,it would be interesting to hear there stories.

Oddly enough, I remember in 8th and 9th grade, most specifically, having the craziest die-hard crushes on girls, but, at the same time, having similar feelings for guys as well.

I think that attraction is a combination of many things and to deduce it to strictly just genes or strictly to how one was raised (which is what pro and anti homosexual groups use to explain homosexuality respectively) is simplifying waaaa to much. It's a combination of first experiences, genetics, how you were raised, the environment you were raised in. All of these meld together to create unique people all over the world. Thankfully many of these unique people are gay. For some reason, I just think that if homosexuality was purely genetic, it would be much more common than it is now.

In any case, I came out about three years ago. I had been in denial for awhile. I tried dating women, but I was never sexually interested in them. I'd want to be around them a lot... it was almost like a crush but without any sexual interest. I know that's hard for a straight man to understand, but I think homerx, you'd get it.

I ended up telling everyone I knew that I was gay. For the most part, everyone's been very understanding... to the point of where they don't care if I'm gay. Which I like. It shouldn't be such a big deal.

In any case, we can't fully understand why some men are attracted to skinny blonde women with big boobs and why some men are attracted to voluptuous brunettes, just as we can't fully understand why some men are attracted to green eyed, dark haired men with nice bums (aka my boyfriend hahahah).

I can remember actually having a girlfriend back in the 8th grade. And somehow I thought I was into her. When I was 15, I started thinking more about guys. I had crushes on teachers, mainly. I suppressed the feelings and thoughts entirely until I got out on my own. When I was 20, I had my second girlfriend, then the third (and final) at 25. All along, I knew I was attracted to guys - I found some websites that were gay dating sites (actually where I met my first boyfriend, the two guys I dated, and my current boyfriend). When I first got out on my own, I was having more bisexual tendencies, so I guess it's safe to say I wasn't sure what I wanted at the time.

I became friends with a gay couple that lived in my complex, and I loved hanging out with them. They loved the fact that I accepted them as a gay couple. Unfortunately, I lost touch with them, and I know they parted ways a few years ago. I still see one of them online, as their screen name is on my AOL IM list.

Anyways, at the age of 29, one night I decided to try and make some contacts. At first, I was anxious, and my anxiety was running more rampant as I met some rather weird guys, who had really no clue how to get to me - they just wanted sex. I then met my first boyfriend, who showed me more about myself, and helped me to accept that I am truly gay. Since then, I've dated three guys, one being my current boyfriend.

As for my own situation, I have come out in small steps. There are still people from my hometown that don't know, including my parents, and I'm still very on the fence about coming out to them. It is just more of the way I can predict that they will react, and in my current situation, I have no emotional strength to endure that. Maybe one day...

I think back to why I dated the girls that I did. It was more peer pressure. Growing up in the town that I did, it was more blue collar, old-fashioned. There was hardly any GLBT members around, and if they were, they were harassed. I remember a lesbian couple in my high school that got constant harassment because they decided to come out one day. If anything, that made me shut the closet door and lock it from the inside.

That's my story.

Marvel and Homerx...two of my fav men sharing their stories! And you JYoungBear....wow these stories are so sweet. Makes me believe even more that we are who and what we are when we are born. You both have given me such strength and faith in the human race.

That’s bringing up a very good point. I’m friends with Homer and Marvel. Youngbear? Whazza matta with you, boy? Why aren’t we friend yet? Shame on you!

Beline, you know I love you already. But it never hurts to say it again

Okay! Now you’ve done it! You are going on my friends list! See what you’ve made me do now! (Better add Marvel too, hey? Shh! I forgot. Shame on me!!)

motherofhighspiritedones and Beline... stop it already! You are making me P my jammies!!!! and i added you both to my list LONG ago...well, Beline is family...and motherofhighspiritedones I just discovered and LOVE already...

Awww....you are making me blush.