Crotchless panties mean she's cheating ? Posted: 03-15-08 16:04pm
I have been married for going on 30 years
now and have always considered my marriage
to be strong and have had no real reason
to believe she has cheated on me. Lately,
I have noticed what I feel is a difference
in the way my wife treats me. To be more
specific, at times, she seems somewhat
distant and cold towards me. She seldom
initiates a hug or kiss goodnight and
sometimes seems bothered when I take the
initiative. When I try to talk to her
about it she will blame it on the stresses
of her job or she will just get mad and
say something like %u201Cwhat did I do now
and how should I act.%u201D which solves
nothing. Some of the problem may be that I
gained some weight recently, (about 35
pounds) and she did complain about that
and I am trying to improve. (by the way, I
have never complained about her weight
when similar gains happened to her) Sex
life is okay but she seems to want to get
it done with quickly then there is no
hugging or cuddling afterwards. I
don%u2019t mean to sound like whimp but I
miss the affection we used to share.
Now, the reason I have suddenly become
more concerned about our relationship. She
was away from the house today so I thought
I would try to do a little extra around
the house so I started the laundry. In the
pile of dirty clothes I found a pair of
crotchless panties that I have never saw
before. Actually, she has always been
very conservative about clothing like
that and I didn%u2019t even know she owned
anything like that. Additionally, they
looked a little faded like they had been
through the wash more than a few times so
it%u2019s not like she just got them.
Yes, there is more to the story, there
always is, but I don%u2019t want to write
a our life story down.
So, should I be concerned about the
clothing and should I ask her about them
knowing that it will make her mad?
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meblonde01
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Posted: 03-15-08 17:29pm
You are her husband; yes you should ask
her you have a right. Don't accuse her
just ask her.
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IMCONCERNED
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Posted: 03-16-08 06:19am
Can I change my name to IMFOOLISH because
I overreacted big time. Here’s what
happened; my son’s washing machine broke
down so he brought his laundry out to our
house. Like most sons, instead of doing it
himself, he dumped it on good ole Mom and
his clothes got mixed with ours and the
crotchless panties belong to his
girlfriend. Actually, had I looked at them
better I would have realized that they
were a few sizes too small for my wife.
The good news is she got a real good laugh
from my err.
We also had a heartfelt talk about the
other stuff and we agree that we both have
things to work on and I’m convinced
things will improve.
It’s unusual for me to overact as I
did…I obviously worried myself over
absolutely nothing.
Part of me feels foolish for airing this
out on a forum like this but if it helps
someone else to not overreact than it was
worth it.
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meblonde01
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Posted: 03-16-08 09:54am
well, it tuned out good for you. That's
refreshing..
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Hart74
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Posted: 03-16-08 10:13am
May I ask how old is your wife? Have you
ever think the posiblity of menopouse?
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mominashoe
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Posted: 03-21-08 22:16pm
LOL that is a good story, and thanks for
the laugh at your expense. I bet you feel
much better! I'm glad everything is
turning out ok
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Doodle3232
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aww Posted: 03-21-08 22:32pm
You had everey right to be concerned.
Its because you love her. But the fact
that she laughed it off too insyead of
getting mad of you accusing her was great.
How embarassing to find your sons
girlfriends undies. Poor guy.
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Galaxy
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Posted: 03-22-08 06:07am
Ha, that is the best laugh I have ever had
on here! Thanks for that!
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 03-22-08 07:29am
I too am happy it worked out that way. I
wish it would have been that way for me.
How bout you cleaning your RV 5th wheel
and by the bed you find a folded piece of
paper and on it say " Hot coffee for you
hon, Love Ya". You open it up and it is a
motel receipt! Yep, in two months I was a
free unmarried woman. Now if that is not
proof, nothing is. Hey, did you think she
may be starting menapause? That can
trigger many mood swings and libedo
changes.
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IMCONCERNED
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Posted: 03-30-08 08:53am
We had a long talk and the problem seems
to be stress from work. We both work long
hours so we understand that it is
something that both of us have to work on
and I am sure we will.
Thanks for the input from everyone.
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mikky
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Posted: 04-13-08 08:37am
maybe you shoudl buy her a pair of those
ha ha
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Xalleah08
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good for you! Posted: 06-01-08 18:55pm
It's awesome that you care so much for
your wife, and I'm glad you worked it out.
You are not a wimp for wanting you wife's
attention. You are a loving husband who
takes it to heart when things suddenly
change. That is understandable and nothing
to be ashamed of. Next time you find
somethign odd in the laundry ask her where
it came from.
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