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mizzmeok

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quitting sex ?
Posted: 07-06-08 12:25pm

Ok well i have a problem. I love to have sex... ok but the problem with that is i think its the only way i can make men want me. I would love to have someone interested in me but not for what's between my legs. i have literally slept with every guy i've talked to. I just wish i could quit but its impossible and i've tried before. ???
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worrywart01

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Posted: 07-06-08 15:31pm

just say no...no matter how bad you want it..respect yourself..this is NOT the way for attention at all whatsoever..any guy that can easily get into your pants WILL NOT respect you or pursue a serious relationship...i cant tell you how many times I had to turn this one guy in particular down...he tried..o he tried especially when he got me drunk, but we weren't together(even though I wanted us to be) and i wasn't about to let him have his way with me and be done and then have him trash my name....think about your reputation
it isn't impossible...you just need to tell yourself NO
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Sydney123456

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Posted: 07-10-08 01:58am

Abstain from sex with others, and try masturbation. It's fun, and you're not putting any relationship in jeporady!
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bottledwater

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Posted: 08-08-08 15:08pm

most men have two ideas for a relationship and its decided by how a woman acts during the start of it, even when you just meet. one is for a long lasting girlfriend, the other is for fun. and by offering yourself up at the beginning your putting yourself in the fun catagory very quickly. and at that point its very hard to change, instead give him tastes on the way to glory, it will give him a goal to achieve at the end of his hard work. such as go on dates, only give him a peck on the lips (or cheek) at the first, and as you feel comfortable give him more, like full on kisses, making out, letting him touch you all over, and then start allowing small amounts of cloths.

this will build his need for you, and eventually you can get to the real fun stuff without jepordizing the relationship. keep in mind all in the above is over some time not just within the first few dates.
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Sukki

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Posted: 09-07-08 10:09am

I quit sex too.
my friend's case would be like urs, well she tried to quit but she has high hormones. well, and she just had a medical abortion Sad(

how old r u?
it was hard at first, but now i have confidence on my self control. im 22 now Smile)
sure i get horny at times, but the horniness often leaves my mind after a bath and a rest.. or i think of other matters
sometimes i talk abt it with my friends to alleviate my desires..

i dont masturbate fyi..i dont reali know how..and not into it..
i dont even need sex to get into a relationship.. im surprised..this is the opposite of my friend..
i have a bf, a long distance/online bf i met last year on holiday in singapore around december, and my classmate likes me (which i will all describe in another post)

good luck, ur case is similar to my best friend who is negative abt finding someone she loves, and her current bf is possesive and controlling, so she went for abortion
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danni_2_2

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same with me
Posted: 09-24-08 18:32pm

i use to be the same way. just sleep with who ever and then i meet my boyfriend for 3 months today. all i have to say is the night we first meet it was at a party and i wanted to have sex badly like a one night stand and he said no!!! this has never happened to me before but do what he did to me say no and then you can saw if he wants you or if he wants whats between your legs. i am not going to say it is going to be easy i did every trick i knew to make my bf have sex with me when we were first going out and finally after a week and a half we did. but you have to stay strong and say no. no matter how badly you want it.
love you and good luck
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mle

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Posted: 09-25-08 15:28pm

I have a hard time with sex to. um put it this way... I have a boyfriend who had been dating for almost 3 years... (in high school) and my senior yr I cheated on him with 3 other guys! yea. im not proud of it. and sex has always been a big deal to me. you cant just say no. I know how you feel. but now i am currently trying to control myself more and have more andmore respect for myslef and it feels really good. so... my advice is to try to keep in mind your future and all the consequences sex has that just might ruin it b/cuase the truth is anything could happen so we always need to be careful. good luck. mle
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