read in cosmo 5 things never to tell your guy... Posted: 03-09-08 22:00pm
so yea i got my new issue of cosmo and
i've been going thru some things(most of
you have read my posts) its titled 5
things to never tell your guy
1. past hookup
2.how you spend your money
3.the way you feel about his family
4.what you really think of his gift
5. INNOCENT FLIRTATIONS
number 5 is what surprised me cause i've
read some books on
relationships and why do they all they all
keep saying that innocent flirting with
other men/women is healthy in a
relationship as long as it doesnt go any
further? supposedly they say that it boost
your self esteem especially if your stuck
in a rut type relationship(i.e your
boyfriend doesnt compliment you,takes you
for granted etc and for guys they love
their girl but still wanna feel that the
opposite sex is still attracted to you
etc.) its a male thing....
i forgot the title of one book but it even
said that the feel good feelings that you
get after innocently flirting is something
you can bring into the bedroom. whats your
opinion on this ladies? i was giggling
when i read all this but it somehow makes
sense cause i did that once with a guy i
was dating years ago lol
we werent in a serious relationship just
dating but i knew he flirted with other
girls but didnt take it any further an so
did i. in the end we both felt good cause
we had our egos boosted and were feeling
that we still had it goin on even though
we were together lol
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ladyT02
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Posted: 03-10-08 22:10pm
anybody? any input?lol
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fungugitusorsomething
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Posted: 03-10-08 22:36pm
Well, im a guy. The way i see it, if you
both love eachother still, its kinda like
a play thing you got going on. You mess
around with a few people, than you come
home for the real fun..
As long as it stays that you like him, and
he likes you, and you can tell, itll
probably happen..oh what do i know lol
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Reptar
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Posted: 03-10-08 22:43pm
I got this issue too, and really, I never
listen to Cosmo when it comes to stuff
like that. You shouldn't tell him how you
spend your money? Well, once you start
sharing a bank account, you might want to
start being a bit more open about it.
To be honest, I wouldn't innocently flirt
with someone and if I were to, I think I
would tell my SO. I think things like that
can escalate, and you hear about it all
the time. I'd rather keep the lines open,
and if either of us has a problem with it,
we can stop it before it gets too far. I
think that if the relationship isn't
serious, and you're just dating, then it's
not really a big deal. But in a long term
relationship, keeping things from your SO
usually won't lead to anything good.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 03-10-08 23:12pm
I read that article with my boyfriend. I'm
not a flirty person in general so I feel
like I don't really apply, especially that
when I realize I might be flirting with
someone else I get uncomfortable very
easily. I'll flirt with my guy and get
confidence through him. Unless my
boyfriend is up to visit I mainly where
sweatpants and a sweatshirt so I'm not
really in a confidence-boost mood unless
he's around anyways.
He tells me when a girl starts flirting
with him. I don't care though because I
know he's into me and not anyone else.
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run4life10
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Posted: 03-11-08 10:25am
I agree... I don't need to flirt with
other guys to boost my confidence, nor do
I have the desire to. I know my bf is
attracted to me, and he doesn't flirt with
other women. And I don't really care what
other guys think of me.
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justinsgirl21
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Posted: 10-26-08 19:59pm
i have a bit of a problem...because boys
will flirt with me all the time..and i
dont really flirt back..but its like
everything i say people make it come off
as flirting...but idk how to change that.
but im somewhat flirty but not to the
extreme...and i have a little insecurities
with that and a bit hypocritical because i
dont want him to flirt with his "girl"
friends but i still flirt with my "guy"
friends...somewhat.
you know what i mean...but i mean,i dont
do it intensionally!
because i love my boyfriend and i dont
look at any other boy in any other way and
i try to tell myself thats how he
feels...but idk.its hard to believ that!
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worrywart01
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Posted: 10-29-08 00:57am
pfft past hook ups! thats one of the first
things I asked my boyfriend! I think its
wrong to hide your past sexual history..I
dont wanna be with a guy who feels the
need to hide that sort of thing..I wanna
know how many women you've been with
before I get physical with you! My
boyfriend has only been with one other
girl(his ex) and i've only been with
him..i think any guy with a long sexual
history would automatically be a deal
breaker for me...I just think its nasty to
share juices with so many people...sex
should be special and if it isn't
then...i'm not going to bother with a
relationship with that person ..thats my view on
things..i agree with what the other person
said on the topic "how you spend your
money"..when you get married whats mine is
yours and whats yours is mine..so yes its
my business how you spend OUR money bc i'm
not forkin out all the dough for the
bills!!! the others I guess I could agree
that those could be left alone and kept to
yourself...innocent flirtations ehh..i
mean i'm not a flirtatious person, my
boyfriend kinda is..i think it'd make me
upset to hear about his innocent
flirtations(which is dumb I know) so i'd
just rather he keep them to himself bc i
know he loves me...as for me..if a guy
gives me a compliment or hits on me i'm
not going to run straight to my bf and
tell him to try to make him jealous..yea
it makes you feel good but big deal..i
wanna hear i'm beautiful from MY man not
some random dude
..thats my view on
things..i agree with what the other person
said on the topic "how you spend your
money"..when you get married whats mine is
yours and whats yours is mine..so yes its
my business how you spend OUR money bc i'm
not forkin out all the dough for the
bills!!! the others I guess I could agree
that those could be left alone and kept to
yourself...innocent flirtations ehh..i
mean i'm not a flirtatious person, my
boyfriend kinda is..i think it'd make me
upset to hear about his innocent
flirtations(which is dumb I know) so i'd
just rather he keep them to himself bc i
know he loves me...as for me..if a guy
gives me a compliment or hits on me i'm
not going to run straight to my bf and
tell him to try to make him jealous..yea
it makes you feel good but big deal..i
wanna hear i'm beautiful from MY man not
some random dude