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Why Posted: 06-15-08 05:12am
I am 26 years old. I was pregnant twice
before. Once, in Novemeber 2006..I was
unmarried then and opted for an abortion
by the abortion pill. The medicine failed
to induce a complete abortion despite
using the back-up pills. Finally, a
surgical procedure had to be performed to
clear the residual fibroids from the
uterus. I dealt with 3 weeks of sheer
loneliness, rage, pain all by myself
because my the boyfriend and now husband
was in the army and "could not be spared"
- actually, I don't think he even tried to
come and be with me. I dealt with months
of nightmares and depression without
talking about it because discussing the
subject made my hubby feel "guilty".
Earlier in April this year, I miscarried
because I am congenitally hypothyroidic
and the TSH levels were not within the
normal range. I was not sure about
continuing the pregnancy because of my
earlier experience. I still don't know if
I ever wanted to have children of my own
because I can't get over the time that I
spent back then. I want to wait for some
more time, maybe another two years or so
before having kids and I told my hubby.
He pretended to be so understanding. But
then while we made love, I begged and
pleaded that he use a condom (he doesn't
want me using the contraceptive pills
since they cause weight gain and I'm
already quite overweight because of my
thyroid and have the tendency to gain
weight very easily) but he refused and
continued without it and now I'm pregnant
again.
I feel hurt, angry and betrayed. I am
alone again. He cannot come on leave, he
hasn't suggested it and neither have I. I
do not want to go ahead. I met the doctor
yesterday and she was so insulting. Why is
it always supposed to be my fault? I hate
myself. It makes me want to have kids even
less. If I cannot trust him with such a
minor thing as keeping in mind that Im not
prepared...am I supposed to fight him
physically everytime?
I have taken the first of the abortion
pills today after confirming that the
pregnancy is 4-5 weeks and non-ectopic. I
just hope it works this time. I don't care
if I have to use the pill and gain weight
after this. I don't deserve this pain...
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-15-08 14:11pm
NO, you do not deserve this...
I prefer surgical abortion.. It is
PAINLESS thanks to IV sedation, and you
KNOW that it is over with... No worrying.
Abortion by pill takes so long, and it is
not guaranteed to work..
You really do not deserve to be treated
like this..
If I were you I would say NO SEX until
either HE gets a Vasectomy, or you are on
BC.
I PROMISE, they do not cause weight gain
in all women. You do NOT have to use the
pill, there are other options..
You can get a NON HORMONAL IUD!! NO
HORMONES, NO SIDE EFFECTS! They last for
12 years!
PLEASE know that not all men are like
that.. My husband would NEVER EVER treat
me like you are being treated. You are
being abused, and it is NOT right.
There are men out there who would treat
you like a GODDESS, and truly love you..
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Alegria
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Taken Misoprostol 30 mins ago Posted: 06-16-08 05:35am
I have taken the next step...4 tabs of
200mcg each taken buccally because I had
already started to bleed a little with the
mifepristone and did not want to take the
vaginal route incase the pills fell out
instead of dissolving...not feeling much
except some cramping...I really do not
want this to fail...what will I do if it
does???
Thank u for the reply Carifairy...it
helped knowing that atleast someone is
there to listen/read what Im going thru...
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-21-08 12:42pm
If the med abortion fails then you would
get a suction aspiration abortion to
finish the process.
YOU can request sedation for that..
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Alegria
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Waiting... Posted: 06-21-08 23:26pm
Thanks Carifairy...I began to bleed a few
hours later with quite some cramping as
compared to my period which is
painless...I will probably head for an
ultrasound in another few days to check if
everything is done...else...I guess it
would be suction aspiration for me...
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Alegria
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Final Update Posted: 06-29-08 00:20am
Had the scan yesterday to check if
everything had cleared...and it has...
Feel relieved...a little sad but immensely
proud of myself for being able to do it
mostly on my own.
But I did realise something this time...
a. It takes a lot of patience but
relaxing, eating right and taking care of
urself helps like nothing else.
b. This is the time to think about me and
only me...it sounds selfish but its
true...no matter how much I love and care
for my hubby, I deserve my complete
attention at this time and if he cannot be
there, then its all the more important for
me to stay sane and be there for myself.
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Posted: 06-30-08 08:35am
I read this and was almost in tears, the
guy has no respect and basically he
physically assaulted you. My ex, didn't
want to use a condom and I refused, so he
decided to take it on his own account and
remove it as I said no a few times, it is
a form of sexual abuse or even rape but it
shouldn't be acceptable.
I am glad you did what you wanted to do,
the choice was your to make but I am happy
it is something you truly desired and were
confident about. My on/off spouse got a
vasectomy because I refused to have any
more kids but the hell I get from it, is
almost intense and really no one needs to
suffer that way.
I wish you all the best and if you ever
need to talk, I am a pm away.
first of all, dump his sorry ass. He
obviously has no respect for you or human
life. And the pill might make you gain
weight? Um, so what? And he just doesn't
want to use a condom? Is he stupid?
You poor thing. You do not deserve this.
If he is going to be like that then you
need to get far away from him!
