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severe test anxiety Posted: 09-23-08 14:25pm
My daughter is 19 and attending her 1st
year in college. She has always been
timid: not trying any thing new,
preferring to engage in any activity with
a friend rather than alone. She has come
a long way by pushing herself to meet new
people and socialize more. School has
never been her favorite as she is not
really academically inclined. During her
entire school career she has experienced a
high level of stress at test time, not
scoring as high as she should, although
she prepared well. Now, in college, she's
been excited and more open to new
situations. Last week, there was an
unscheduled Math quiz. She made an excuse
to leave class and called me crying,
saying she just went blank; that
everything on the test paper looked like
Chinese. Next semester she has to take a
Speech class and she's already strssing
over it. What can we do? How can I help
her?
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Birch
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Posted: 09-23-08 14:43pm
Hello,
Alot of people find that they do not
perform well on tests, which is
disporportionate with their actual
abilities. Usually on college campuses
there are test centers or tutoring
services available that can assist with
this kind of problem. Ask her if she
could find out and contact them.
Other thoughts that came to my mind:
Does your daughter have any learning
disabilities or has she ever been tested
for learning disabilities?
Does your daughter have any issues with
depression or does she have panic attacks?
Has she ever discussed her anxiety with a
counselor? She may have an adjustment
disorder or an anxiety disorder.
Does she frequently call you over these
kinds of issues? What do you say to her?
Do you think you could be encouraging a
kind of codependent relationship with
her?
Just some thoughts.
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Diamond Girl
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Posted: 09-23-08 15:33pm
Hi Birch. Thanks for your response. She
does know about tutoring and there is a
math lab, both of which I told her to make
use of before she enrolled, knowing that
Math is not her strong subject. She had a
couple of visits with a psychologist when
she was in 8th grade for these same type
issues. She was tested for learning
disabilities, but was ok, except short
attention span. At that time hers was 10
minutes and average for her age at that
time was 20 minutes. We put her on
natural, herbal supplements which did
help. She quit taking them once she felt
ok without them. This college math seems
to have set her back again. The phone
call I mentioned was the 1st time she'd
called me this way. I told her to talk to
the prof about taking the quiz later. He
said it would not count too much towards
her grade and just to let it go. No
anxiety disorder has been diagnosed. as
far as depression? I don't know....She's
a teenager. Sometimes life is great and
then at times she may be a little moody;
but not in a bipolar sort of way. After
she'd calmed down from the math episode I
asked if was had been prepared for class.
She said she probably should have studied
more. Perhaps not being well prepared was
a factor, but test anxiety is a long
standing issue. In the younger grades,
when I helped her study for tests, she'd
know the material at home, then choke on
test day. Codependence? I'll give it
some thought...
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Birch
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Posted: 09-23-08 16:13pm
Maybe do some research on test taking
strategies will help, and learn about deep
breathing and other relaxation methods
will help, too.
The speech class she has lined up might be
a perfect place to address many of these
anxieties she has. If she is in a good
situation she could discuss these issues
with the prof and get some helpful
feedback. Sort of change the way she's
thinking about this upcoming speech class-
not as a terribly scary situation but a
way to help her with her problems.
She sounds pretty normal except for the
extra heavy dose of anxiety. Poor kid.
College is stressful.
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Diamond Girl
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Posted: 09-23-08 20:49pm
Turns out she had a major math test today.
said she felt pretty good about it.
completed all the problems except for one
. She said she did some of it but was
unable to complete the steps. None of the
drama of last week. Who knows? I think
she's realizing that college is not high
school and there's no room for
half-hearted effort. I've told her: If
you know you're nervous about tests, you
have to be "extra special" prepared. I've
also insisted she set up a time for Math
Lab. As for Speech: Don't worry yet.
When the time comes, Man Up. lol