Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 66 Location: Parker, CO
Sex and Pregnancy? Posted: 02-29-08 12:23pm
So I'm 26 and my husband is 25, and I'm
just about 18 weeks pregnant with my first
child. I'm also a newly wed as my husband
and I have been married for about 6 months
now. I've heard that women lose there sex
drive when there pregnant, I've lost mine
totally, of course my husband doesn't
believe me and says I'm making excuses to
not have sex with him, so I've been
forcing myself to have sex with him to
make him happy. But everytime we have sex
it's really painful for me, not only in
the vaginal area but I keep these shooting
pains up in my stomach that last sometimes
up to 24 hours after we have sex.
Sometimes the pain is so bad it causes me
to cry...is this normal? I asked my Dr.
about sex at my last appt, because early
on in my pregnancy it was causing me to
have some spotting problems, but the Dr.
said that was normal due to the large
amount of blood flow down there. Anyway I
don't know if anyone else is having this
problem but thought I'd ask and see if
anyone has any advice for me. Thanks for
your help.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 03-25-08 16:19pm
Hey there sorry to hear what you are going
through beleive me I know exactly how you
feel. I had these same pains for a couple
of weeks and I figured it was cause my
cervix was so low and he was hitting it. A
doc never told me this but I could feel
the cervix myself! Well after about 2
weeks that went away and now we can have
sex. But I have to be very careful at the
position. Usually we start off one way and
end up finishing in another. Doggy style
is the worst for me and missionary is the
best. But it really depends, cause my body
changes. So my advice would be to try all
kinds of different positions to see which
one feels the best for you. Also if your
hubby is long..hehe..then you may have to
ask him to not go in all the way. I have
had to do this with my hubby. All in all
you need to experiment.
I also have vulvar vestibulitis...painful
sex. I cannot take my estrogen cream cause
I am pregnant. SO sometimes I am so raw
from only one sex session that we have to
wait a week for me to heal. MY hubby has
gotten very frstrated and I too have
forced myself to have sex with him. But he
almost always knows when I am in pain and
tells me to stop. SO I know how
frustrating this must be for you. But its
also not fair for your hubby to blame this
on you. Maybe he can got to the doctor
with you and hear from the doctors mouth
that this is just a part of pregnancy.
Well best wishes
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Xalleah08
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Joined: 31 May 2008 Posts: 55 Location: Bellingham, WA USA
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make him read Posted: 06-01-08 17:29pm
Have him read up on pregnancy and all it's
pains. Don't have sex if you don't want
to. Your emotions can effect the baby, and
if you're not happy the baby knows it. You
husband should be more understanding. Tell
him that this is a temporary thing and
that you are not trying to trick him. (In
fact the sex drive in pregnant women often
increase again at about 24 weeks)
Men have a strange feeling that they
absolutly have to do something about thier
urges. I have never understood this, but
my husband and I have had long talks about
it and that's what he says. Still I tell
him to find some other way to deal with it
because I have a strange urge to not be in
pain.
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