I don't feel welcome round here anymore.
I'm not making this post to get attention,
I'm just stating how I feel. I know a lot
of you think I'm stupid for having another
baby, but to me family is the most
important thing & my main ambition in
life is to be the best mother I can to my
children. Some may think that's sad, &
think that I should get a degree &
aspire to be a doctor or a lawyer or
something.. but that doesn't interest me
one bit.
So yeah, maybe I should have waited a few
years before having another baby.. but why
should I let society decide when I have
children? I'm happy with Jonny, we're
financially stable & we love Jenny
more than anything.
Anyway, I'll still visit these forums, I
physically can't stop myself.. but I doubt
I'll be making many posts. I'm a
supporter, so if people need it I'll offer
my support.. but that's about it.
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Jules
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 3789 Location: Merrie Englande, UK
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Posted: 03-29-08 11:23am
Hey, what on earth has made you feel like
that hun?! I for one think it's nobody's
bloody business what you do with your life
and you've shown you are a good mother of
one so I'm sure you will be just as good a
mother of two. Besides, it's not like
you're some 13 year old kid who just wants
a baby as a toy. You know exactly what's
involved and you're very mature.
I must have missed the posts where people
have judged you because I didn't realise
you'd been made to feel bad.
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tiamccoy819
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Oct 2007 Posts: 585 Location: Elkton, Maryland,
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Posted: 03-29-08 12:15pm
I agree with Jules....no one should tell
you when you should or shouldnt have
children. That is your decision, im sorry
you feel this way I must have also missed
the posts where people were judging you.
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jessesgirl
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Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 2877
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Posted: 03-29-08 12:35pm
I must have missed something.
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rosejackson
Supporter
Joined: 23 Dec 2005 Posts: 4360 Location: hertfordshire, england
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Posted: 03-29-08 12:54pm
I think i have also
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Ingi
Moderator
Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8880 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
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Posted: 03-29-08 13:17pm
I'm lost, Zanny. Who told you that you
shouldn't have another baby? That is a
100% personal choice!
Yeah i feel lost i never heard anyone say
that! As long as your financially stable
and have someone with you I dont see a
problem with having another baby, i was
nervous to tell my parents i was pregnant
the 2nd time even though at that time me
and jason were married but joseph was only
8 mths old when i found out i was pregnant
again! My mom took it alright but i waited
for ever to tell my dad, i had to tell him
when i gota double stroller and i asked
him to help get the box out of my car
because he woulda known anyway i mean why
else would i need a DOUBLE stroller. Im
excited that your pregnant again, its
awesome when they have a sibling to play
with, lol just today joseph grabbed
jordynne around her neck and well she got
tired of that and she bit his hand! It
hurt him, they both got in trouble but
then there are the times when they sit
there giggling with eachother and playing
together its sooo cute!
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OctoberBaby06
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Dec 2006 Posts: 4617 Location: , US
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Posted: 03-29-08 16:34pm
I'm sorry you feel unwelcome Zanny I'm happy for you!
I'm one of those people who doesn't really
want to do anything else in life besides
be a Mommy also, it's one of the most
rewarding things you can do. I hope you'll
continue to post!
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tigresacanela24
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 03-30-08 08:27am
Don't sweat it, Zanny. I'm happy for you
and I personally don't think you should
give a happy @#$% what anyone else thinks.
There are always going to be plenty of
narrow-minded, judgemental, self-righteous
people in the world. Just ignore them.
Joined: 23 Oct 2006 Posts: 3784 Location: South East, England
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Posted: 03-30-08 11:21am
I don't think that about you. If i wasn't
in college when Mika is Jenny's age i
would have another baby in a heartbeat. I
really happy for you and Jonny and of
corse Jenny too! If being a Mum is what
makes you happy then be a mum because you
are so good at it
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*star*
Supporter
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Posted: 03-30-08 12:33pm
Im with everyone else, Im not sure where
anyone was saying anything about you and
your choices on how you should live your
life. I dont think you should give two
rips about how people feel about anything
in your life and your choices. Its just
that YOUR life and YOUR choices.
Please share with us where you felt that
you are being outcasted and pushed away so
that we can work on fixing the problem.
If this is just a feeling in general, I
hope that you feel better about it soon.
ohhh hun you are loved very much here you
are one of my favorites that has always
been nice to me and to everyone else. I
have not seen one neg post about you. hugs
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-Tanya-
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Dec 2007 Posts: 600
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Posted: 03-30-08 20:06pm
If this has anything to do with the
questions I asked in your other post I'm
sorry, that wasn't my intentions at all.
Though I might just have a big head to
think it has anything to do with me.
I think you are a great mom to Jenny, and
that you are a clever girl. If I was in a
situation where I was with the right boy
and we had our lives sorted I would love
to have another baby.
I'm happy for you!
I'm one of those people who doesn't really
want to do anything else in life besides
be a Mommy also, it's one of the most
rewarding things you can do. I hope you'll
continue to post!
There are always going to be plenty of
narrow-minded, judgemental, self-righteous
people in the world. Just ignore them.
