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speak up your mind guys on JEALOUSY Posted: 04-24-08 05:30am
Would you agree with me guys if i say
jealousy is something a lonesome
mentality? Jealousy is always an issue
within a relationship. Even among family
members or in friendly relationships,
being jealous is common. Why does a person
feel jealous? Does it indicate a weak
relationship? Also, is there any room for
jealousy in strong relationships? Or could
we say, it is genetic? Please let me know
guys what are you thinking...
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Posted: 04-30-08 15:47pm
It's definitely not genetic and you do not
have to be in a weak relationship to be
jealous at all. Jealousy is a natural
thing and it does not always become a
problem in all relationships. I like my bf
to act a little jealous. To me it shows he
cares about me. What would I think if some
guy tried to talk to me and my boyfriend
just stood there and didn't mind? I'd
think he didn't like me as much as he let
on.
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Posted: 05-01-08 05:05am
My response is based on personal
experience and observation, so I stand to
be corrected.
Jealousy is a natural and sometimes very
strong emotion that we experience from a
very young age. I’m sure you are
familiar with ‘sibling rivalry’.
Children aren’t born with a healthy self
image and are very insecure. Parents then
build their self confidence by paying them
a lot of compliments, and give them a
feeling of security by hugging and
cuddling. Yet, when a new baby arrives the
older sibling will become jealous. This is
because the child does not have a strong
enough self esteem to deal with the little
newcomer.
Jealousy in relationships sometimes works
on the same basis. If a person does not
have a strong self esteem, every person of
the same sex is seen as a threat,
regardless of their appearance, age or
social status.
Another reason people get jealous is if
they know that they themselves cannot be
trusted. These people will constantly
accuse their partners of cheating. (this
is personal experience speaking)
People with emotional baggage from a
previous relationship (in the form of an
unfaithful partner) will also project
these feelings of insecurity on their new
partners.
Just as there are different reasons for
people to feel jealous, people on the
receiving end of jealousy react
differently to the situation. Willa for
instance feels secure in the fact that her
boyfriend is a little jealous. She
interprets it as him loving her. (And
she’s most probably right)
I just get annoyed out of my skull. Lol.
I’m not the type of person that will
EVER cheat and my boyfriend should know
that by now. Regardless if I spent the
entire evening talking to an elderly
gentleman 70 years my senior, who has
probably been impotent the past 20 years,
a gay youngster, or Brad Pitt.
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