Reading this post
[http://ehealthforum.com/health/orgasims-t
133408-a1.html] made me a little worried!
See, I've been with my boyfriend for over
2 1/2 years but we live very far
apart--over 4000 miles apart. We don't
have sex with others while we're separated
so whenever we meet it's a ton of fun and
pent up urges can be let out. We are
planning on getting married eventually...
when he can move to this country... which
I can't wait for. But I'm worried that
after we've been living together for a
while, he'll get bored of sex or just not
as horny as he is right now. I don't think
I'll know what to do at that point when I
want sex and he just "doesn't feel like
it."
So basically I'm asking if anyone here has
tricks they use to get him to want it...
list any and all please!
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Pocahontas101
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Joined: 07 Mar 2008 Posts: 15
Posted: 03-20-08 14:19pm
Will I know my BF and I always find thing
to keep it exciting. Know if you want to
spice your life up you and your Bf can't
be scared or shy with trying it, just have
fun. Lets see you can try having toys
thats always fun. Try having sex in
different places not just the bedroom that
gets boring quickly. Try not to have sex
every single night. Yes, I know your both
excited to be together and just want it
every night but I've learned that gets
boring to. Role play is good. Dancing for
him is somthing else that can keep it
spices. Teaseing each other by sending
text messages while both of you are apart
helps. Candles, chocolete, whip
cream,syrup and all that good stuff work
to. Sex is not a rule its what ever you
want it to be. Just don't kill each other
or go to jail by getting cought. Okay I
hope that helped a little. Have fun &
good luck. XOXO
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jinkazama
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Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: , USA
Posted: 03-20-08 14:55pm
Dancing sounds fun... I always wanted to
learn how to tango and salsa and stuff
like that. I wonder if classes to learn
that are expensive. But I think you meant
more sexy dances, lol. I'm a terrible
dancer though--I wouldn't know how to do
some sexy dance. Teach me how? =P Just
kidding.
We've always wanted to role play too, but
I don't have any appropriate outfits nor
the money to buy them. Someday I will
though!
What kind of toys do you mean? He bought
me a dildo and a vibrator. The vibrator
does nothing for me and I think I
should've picked out a different kind of
dildo.
I too think it'd be fun to have sex in
different places, but that's not really an
option. I either live with my parents or
in my dorm, depending on the time of year.
And he lives with his mom too (I'm only 19
and he's 20 without the money for college,
so no living alone for him right now. He's
not a bum, just his family is kinda on the
poor side). Neither of our parents can
know we're having sex. And they're around
a lot too. Long story short, we have
spatial restrictions. But when we have our
own place that's definitely a possibility.
We could
drive someplace desolate and have sex in
the car... but that's not so nice, is it?
Would you suggest having sex in a public
park behind some bushes? Too risky, huh?
I'd rather not get arrested for public
exposure.
Hehe, my phone can't send or receive text
messages XD which really sucks. I used to
and we did have fun with that. I should
get them back again.
Ooh, I never really considered "food
sex"... is that fun? Or were you just
suggesting it and haven't tried it? And
did you mean candles just for setting the
mood, or candles like the fetish, with wax
dripping and candle penetration and stuff
lol?
Thank you very much for your suggestions!
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jinkazama
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Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: , USA
Posted: 03-28-08 01:32am
No more replies in this thread... gosh, I
hope I didn't sound sarcastic in the
previous post because I was being serious.
Does nobody else have any ideas?
I was looking at sex board games or card
games I guess you could call them. Anybody
have positive experiences with these?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 03-28-08 02:05am
Um, I'm getting into pictures.
I'm long distance too, so I think its fun
to send an email and tell him to open it
in private. I sent it the night before I
came home and he seemed to like it. We
take pictures together too, but I'm still
pretty new to everything so nothing is
outrageously racey or anything.
I also really like mirrors. Before we go
in the sauna there's mirrors in the entry
room. It's probably my favorite place
other than actually in the sauna.
I've never played board games. Thought
I've heard they can be fun.
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jinkazama
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Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: , USA
Posted: 03-28-08 12:27pm
Yeah, I've done some picture taking and
the like, with positive feedback... does
he ever send his own pictures and stuff to
you? I asked my guy to do that and he said
he would but I guess he forgot or he's not
very eager to.
I'm not sure what you mean by mirrors.
What's fun about them? And I've never even
been in a sauna before, lol.
If you don't wanna share that's fine, I
just wanna learn anything anyone has to
offer. Thanks for replying =)
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Maddie34
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Posted: 03-28-08 12:55pm
Well with mirrors I guess I just like to
watch while we're having sex. Just
watching everything happen in my mind is
really hot. I'm not sure if I'd like
placing mirrors around our bedroom though,
maybe I just liked that it was in a new
place and the mirror was just a new thing
too. Who knows? Its a fun change though
and we both really enjoyed it.
Yeah, he took pictures first and sent them
to me and it took me awhile to get the
guts to do it back (Although I also live
in the dorms so getting for sure alone
time doesn't happen often). He's more
experienced than I am, so a lot of the new
stuff we've done has been initiated by
him.
I live in an area where its common to have
saunas in your home-- lots of Finnish
people around. My friend's dad used to say
that the sauna should be made first and
the house should just be built around it.
hehe
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jinkazama
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Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: , USA
Posted: 03-28-08 15:06pm
Ah, I see what you mean about the mirrors.
I admit I always wanted to go to some
hotel with mirrors above the bed lol, just
to see what that's like XD And I recently
learned a dorm hall near the one I'll be
in next year has a sauna! I'll check it
out.
I'll have to bug the boyfriend until he
finally sends me some pictures. I think he
doesn't get why I'd want them cuz he
doesn't find himself attractive. But I
do!
Just thought of this--I know in Japan
there are lots of "love hotels" that have
rooms with different themes to them so you
have some fantasy sex experience. I was
looking around online and one of the rooms
I saw is made to look like you're on a
subway, lol. Another one looked like a
Japanese classroom and even had a Japanese
schoolgirl outfit with it. Crazy stuff
like that. Anyone know if that kinda thing
is common in America? I definitely don't
see it advertised anywhere...
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Maddie34
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Posted: 03-28-08 15:13pm
Eh, haha I don't think I'd go to a love
hotel. I cringe at the thought of going to
a hotel with a mirror above the bed! I'll
put mirrors around myself, that way I
never think "How many people have looked
into that mirror in this same bed..."
Barf.
You're very lucky. I'd kill to have a
sauna in the dorms. We have one near the
swim pool but too many people go in after
practice so it smells like chlorine too
much to be enjoyable.
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jinkazama
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Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 24 Location: , USA
Posted: 03-28-08 16:58pm
lol, well to each her own. I'm not
bothered about who's slept in a bed as
long as the bed and bedding is well
cleaned before I use it... which can be
questionable since some hotels are pretty
nasty... but I do like the idea of a love
hotel, I'd just like to not have to go to
Japan to experience that.
Yeah, whenever I picture a sauna I picture
sweaty guys stinking up the whole place. I
hope it's not a smelly sauna. =/
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