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Starting the greeving process Posted: 04-23-08 14:52pm
My mom is dying of lung cancer. Well into
second stage, just about her third. Just
started needing pain pills and Hospice is
came out today to admit her (care at home)
and the Hospice nurse to change her
medications will be out tomorrow.
Now the greeving starts. I know that I
will probably try and stay strong. It is
my attitude with her other daughter I am
worried about. I don't want to say or do
something I will be sorry for.
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Strarting the grieving process Posted: 05-07-08 09:49am
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother,I
know what you're going through, I lost my
mom to complications from diabetes 9 yrs.
ago at theyoung age of 46.
As far as the other daughter,is it a half
sister,full sister,I definately take it
that you two don't see eye to eye on
things. I do have a good friend that had
the same problem when her mom was dying of
brain cancer,her and her sister-in-law
didn't get along (The sis-in-law was very
mean to the mom)however I have to give my
friend alot of credit because she just
kept to herself and didn't say
anything,just to keep the peace,because
she knew that her mom could still hear
everything that was going on.She also knew
that her mom wanted her passing to be
peaceful,and nobody fighting and
arguing,and she respected her mothers
final wishes.Now I can honestly say that
they no longer speak at all,which is fine
now and I can understand why my friend was
so angry.There was one person that showed
up at my moms funeral that I felt
shouldn't have been there,she was always
mean to my mom,and talked bad about her to
other people.But I kept my mouth shut and
kept the peace,for my mom. I think that
you should try as much as possible to keep
the peace for the sake of your mother.If
you want to talk feel free to PM me if you
want to talk.
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Posted: 05-07-08 10:33am
I am also sorry to hear about your mom. I
know that greeving is a very personal and
individual thing. No one goes through it
the exact same way. I am finally coming to
terms with this now and realizing that,
trying to spend as much time and showing
my mom as much love while I still have
her. I am personally greatful that mom and
I have always been close and never really
had a fight. Once I remember one over an
old boyfriend. Big deal, right? It is a
wonderful thing to know that you treat
someone with respect and love while they
are in this world and not the other.
Love and Hugs,
Carrie
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Yolita
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Thanks to Posted: 05-07-08 11:16am
Hi Carrie, Iwould just like to say that I
love this website it has been so helpful
to me,I would like you to take a look at
the story of mine under loss of your
mother,how to cope,it's kind of lengthy
but I want my story to be seen,so maybe
people can see,that sometimes there are
reasons that God takes our loved
ones,reasons that we don't see or
understand until later on.I just want to
say thank you to you and everyone on this
website who takes the time to listen,
tries to understand, and the courage to
offer words of advice or encouragement.You
are all such a blessing to me as I am like
I said an only child,and I've lost my
mother (my best friend).So thank you and
God Bless you. Your friend, Yolonda
P.S. I love your name on the site,
CarolDiane, my moms name was Carol,it's a
very special name!!!!
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