Teen Boys More Conservative then Teen Girls Posted: 03-02-08 12:18pm
I initially found this information because
I was trying to see how many teen fathers
married the mothers of their children.
You'll find this information first,
followed by the entire report about the
values of teen fathers. I was very
impressed and amazed by what I read (not
by the first data, but by the info about
their values):
Eight of ten teen fathers do not marry
the mothers of their first children.
These absent fathers pay less than
$800 annually for child support, often
because they are quite poor themselves.
[url=Eight of ten teen fathers do not
marry
the mothers of their first children.
These absent fathers pay less than
$800 annually for child support, often
because they are quite poor themselves.source
Reducing teen pregnancy is closely
connected to the
goal of promoting responsible fatherhood.
Research
shows that involved and committed fathers
are important to
the well-being of their children.
Unfortunately, children
born to teen parents are often denied a
close connection
with their father because the relationship
between their parents
frequently dissolves over time.
• Children who live apart from their
fathers are five
times more likely to be poor than children
with both
parents at home.1
• Boys and girls without involved
fathers are twice as
likely to drop out of school, twice as
likely to abuse
alcohol or drugs, twice as likely to end
up in jail, and
two to three times more likely to need
help for emotional
or behavioral problems.1,2
• Teen girls who don’t have a father
in their life are two
times more likely to initiate sexual
activity early and
are seven times more likely to get
pregnant compared
to girls with fathers present.3
• Also, teen girls who have a higher
quality relationship
with their fathers are less likely to
initiate sexual activity
compared to those who report a lower
quality relationship
with their fathers.4
• Teen boys who live with both parents
initiate sex at an
older age compared to teen boys in other
family situations.
5
• Over two decades of research confirms
that parents –
both fathers and mothers – are an
important influence
on whether their teenagers become pregnant
or cause a
pregnancy.6
There is growing attention to the
responsibilities of boys
and young men in preventing teen
pregnancy. At last
count, 40 states had strategies to prevent
unwanted or tooearly
fatherhood. This emphasis on primary
prevention for
boys and men is a welcome trend. Still,
too many young
men are not waiting until they are ready
– emotionally and
financially – to become fathers:
• The
good news is that sexual activity
among teenage
boys is declining; in fact, less than half
of all teen boys
report that they have ever had sex.7
• More teen boys are also using condoms
when they have
sex, and almost one in four sexually
active teen boys
report that they used dual methods the
last time they
had sex (they used a condom and their
partner used a
hormonal method).7
• When it comes to marriage, divorce,
and non-marital
childbearing, teen boys tend to have
slightly more traditional
attitudes compared to teen girls—only
about
half of teen boys approve of non-marital
childbearing
compared to almost two-thirds of girls;
close to threequarters
of teen boys think that getting married is
better
than staying single compared to about half
of teen girls;
about 4 in 10 teen boys approve of divorce
as an solution
to marriage problems while close to half
of girls
agree.8,9
Teen Pregnancy and Responsible Fatherhood
Eight of ten teen fathers do not marry
the mothers of their first children.
These absent fathers pay less than
$800 annually for child support, often
because they are quite poor themselves.
• The best available data show that
after increasing 32
percent between 1986 and 1991, the teen
birth rate for
fathers aged 15 - 19 decreased 31 percent
between
1991 and 2004.10,11
• Eight of ten teen fathers do not marry
the mothers of
their first children.12
• These absent fathers pay less than
$800 annually for
child support, often because they are
quite poor themselves.
12
• Some research suggest that teen
fathers have lower
education levels and suffer earning loses
of 10-15 percent
annually.12,13
Clearly, there is more that could be done
to send a strong
message to teen boys and young men that
they should wait
to become a father until they are ready to
have a lasting —
ideally married — relationship with the
mother of their
children and are able meet their financial
and emotional
responsibilities to their children. In
addition, there is more
that could be done to build on efforts
within the teen pregnancy
prevention field to reach out to boys and
young men
through what are sometimes called “male
involvement programs.”
It is also important to recognize and
support the
important role that fathers can play in
helping their own
sons and daughters avoid becoming teen
parents.
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Posted: 03-02-08 16:19pm
I like this data. I've always thought that
young men should be more educated about
the responsibilities associated with the
consequences of sex. It seems as though
now, and in the past few decades, the onus
was always on the mother.
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What Is It Exactly? Posted: 03-02-08 20:44pm
The lack of a father's love in a girl's
life that makes the girl so desperate that
she will initiate and pressure the boy for
sex? Most young boys (aside from the guys
with their own problems of proving they
can perform for their sport's buddies)
from the ones I have known are pretty
naive and innocent.
Why do young guys want to impregnant a
young girl. Surely, the momentary
satisfaction isn't much better than
masterbation with a risk that will put
them in jeoprady for a lifetime. That is
if they stick around. The girl? Well,
let's face it. She is going to be branded
the school tramp and anybody can get to
her; therefore, walking away even if this
guy knows in his heart she was actually a
virgin, is just walk away time.
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Posted: 03-02-08 21:11pm
i think that your question can be answered
like this,
girls look up to their fathers and theres
a special bond between each, not a sexual
bond but a loving bond that the daughter
and father share. The daughter respects
the fathers decision more than the mothers
mainly because the father is the one who
is more strict and the mother is the calm
one. When there is no father theres no
rules really even though the mother makes
rules, they dont take her seriously very
much. theres no father daughter bond or
connection which can lead them to strive
for a male companion to show them what
they think and feel is love and
acceptance.
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Posted: 03-02-08 22:14pm
Krystine, even though that hurt my
feelings to read (because I'm a mom), I
think you are mostly correct.
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Posted: 03-02-08 22:26pm
sorry if it hurt your feelings..what part
exactally did..them not respecting the
mother?
its not that they dont respect them at
all, its just that the father is more
strict with the child and has a fun and
loving relationship too, but the mother is
more a calmer not so agressive strict
parent, i mean think about it who does the
child run to after getting in trouble with
daddy? runs to mommy. the mother does
discipline too but they immediately stop
what ever they were told to stop when dad
steps in where as with mom they would push
her buttons a little more to see how many
times she has to say stop.
but im sorry i hurt your feelings, wasnt
intended
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Posted: 03-03-08 17:34pm
Very interesting. I think it's way
overdue that we give boys as much
responsibility here as we do girls.
I see this with my neice and my daughter;
she is 7 years old and she is already
starting to be boy crazy. Her mom and dad
have been split up for about 4 years now
and any time she is around a boy or a man
she will act up and try to horse around
with them. I feel so bad for her because
she just wants that male attention that
she gets from her dad. She also sees her
mom with different men as she has dated
and lived with different guys since they
broke up. I'm so glad my daughter will
have her daddy around to give her the love
and attention she needs so she doesn't
have to look for it elsewhere. I remember
too, when I was a kid and my mom dated
men, I hated it so much. It made me feel
ashamed and just awful. I can't even
really explain why, except that it was
like bringing a strange new dad into the
house. My mom was far from promiscuous
and I'm not saying she didn't deserve to
find companionship, but it still always
made me feel awful when she would have a
boyfriend. I don't think I could ever put
my daughter through that.
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It Is A Lot More Complicated Than That Posted: 03-03-08 17:42pm
Let's look at the hormones racing through
these young people's bodies. The pressure
to do well in school, to please their
parents, to be accepted and liked by their
peers.
Frankly, I think these kids don't give a
hoot for the most part when they engage in
these activities. Do they stop and
consider what it will do to their own
personal reputations and lives? Do they
care at the moment the pain it will cause
their parents? I don't believe they do.
They are human beings, just like the rest
of us. They get into the heavy petting
and kissing thing and their bodies become
in control, not their brains.
I do not agree that a father or a mother
is the one here who is going to influence
any young child to the point the child is
going to say, "Oh, I see what you mean
Dad, or Mom sure I am going to listen to
you." I was once young and when you are
in a situation of sexual stimulation, a
lot of thought doesn't go into the cause
and effect of your actions and the
subsequent consequences.
We, who have children, do the best we can
and for the most part our kids turn out
great. They are not carbon copies of us,
but individuals with their own dreams,
their own lives and their will to live
their own lives. Would we really want
them to be little robots, parrots just
giving us back what we want to hear? I am
glad my children are have made it on their
own in the lives they have chosen. I am
thankful for all the good I have received
from them and the good they do for others.
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Posted: 03-03-08 17:50pm
there have been therapists who see
children from divorced families and have
seen theres a big change in their behavior
after a divorce.
children from families of divorce end up a
little more rebelious than those of
families who stay together.
parents play a big part on how they turn
out. ya you said your children are
individuals, great but you had some
influence in what they do to turn out the
way they are today, good caring people. if
theres no influence they do whatever the
hell they want! Children arent robots, but
when a parent sets rules they are to
follow them to start some structure in
their lives. When their divorced you have
mixed messages, 'mom can i have this
cookie?' no eat your dinner first' 'but
dad lets me when we have dinner together'
observe a child from a divorced family,
youd be surprised as to how they act.
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It Is Time To Be The Parent Here Posted: 03-03-08 18:38pm
It is a true fact of life. Divorce. What
you are describing is a child who has now
taken control. The child is the
manipulator. The child tells the parent
what is going to happen here.
Let that happen, you get into deep
trouble. Better have pretty high boots to
walk through that ugly mess.
Going back to the post very intelligently
put on by Futureshock, the consequences of
Teen Boys More Conservative Than Teen
Girls, I believe what we are talking about
here is the data Deb brought up. She is
an excellent researcher.
All I can state is my personal experience
of growing up in the 50's. The few girls
who became pregnant where literally throw
out of school. Not the kind of person you
want to have around the other students.
Would just have destroyed their
sensibilities and corrupted them. The
boys? Nothing happened to them.
You can have parents who stay together and
do a lousy job raising their kids. I have
a lot of respect for Jinck's love and
information given to her kids. She knows
what is happening. That is the key.
These kids should be getting sexual
information from their parents, their 6th
grade teacher if you really have to wait
to that point, or for goodness sakes maybe
their grandparents if their parents are to
squimish to do the job of informing
them!!!!!!
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Posted: 03-03-08 18:47pm
parents dont think they need to have the
sex talk at that age they think its later
in high school. i got it when i was in gr
10 and it was a forbidden thing to talk
about in my house. and they dont kno what
they should say. they should..no need to
be informed earlier cuz more and more
children are having sex at an earlier age
and going through puberty at an earlier
age.
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I know girls who get their period at 9 Posted: 03-03-08 20:28pm
Well, that puts them in what? The 4th
grade? Menistrate, little girls can get
pregnant. What is wrong with somebody
standing up for goodness sakes and letting
these kids know about what can happen when
boys and girls together can make a baby?
What is this idea of waiting until
somebody is in 10th grade? It is far too
late at that point. They are going to
have sex at 15 if they feel like it. Or
earlier.
Parents maybe feel uncomfortable giving
the "birds and bees explanation" because
they are going by their own feelings of
wanting to run out of the room when their
very own parents were stumbling around
trying to find the means to explain it and
somehow can't bring themselves to honestly
open themselves up to their children.
One thing I will certainly say for my
daughter, she taught her three children
about sexual matters, STD's even when they
were young. She wasn't afraid. She did a
good job. Those kids did fine. Made
their own choices.
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Posted: 03-03-08 21:10pm
but then you get those who think they kno
everything, but dont know what to do when
a situation occurs on if they could be
pregnant. they dont even kno to take a
test if theyve missed a period or go to
the doctors to test. or have unprotected
sex because, what the hell, who cares!
since alot of people here feel it should
be talked about i dont think it will be
avoided when the time comes to tell our
children.
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Posted: 03-03-08 22:00pm
I talk to my DD about sex and stuff and
she's 10. She was on of the first among
her friends to know where babies come
from. I couldn't believe how some parents
ignored the topic altogether!
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Posted: 03-03-08 22:22pm
thats just like my 2 younger sisters who
love with my dad and step mom.
my step mom is really open with anything
they want to kno and doesnt shy away from
explaining a thing like where babies come
from, my sister who is now 14 knew where
babies came from and sex when she was
like...8 or 9 and i was 15 when i got the
talk from my mother.
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KrystineM Posted: 03-03-08 22:54pm
I am just now realizing real pain from you
in this post. Just got to let go of the
lack of response when we somehow ask and
don't get back the answer from the ones we
love and who love us. All I can say is
Krystine, everybody is walking a hard
road. Nobody's life is easy. There is
always a reason for everything.
Be well.
Bobbie
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Posted: 03-05-08 07:44am
real pain?
what real pain..its a reply not pain.
how did that show real pain in what way
shape or form did that show pain. i see no
pain there. I already kno ppl go through
different things in their life i dont need
to be educated on that. this is a reply
and other comments were opinions.
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Posted: 03-05-08 15:54pm
krystineM
wrote:
i think that your question
can be answered like this,
girls look up to their fathers and theres
a special bond between each, not a sexual
bond but a loving bond that the daughter
and father share. The daughter respects
the fathers decision more than the mothers
mainly because the father is the one who
is more strict and the mother is the calm
one. When there is no father theres no
rules really even though the mother makes
rules, they dont take her seriously very
much. theres no father daughter bond or
connection which can lead them to strive
for a male companion to show them what
they think and feel is love and
acceptance.
I have to disagree with
you here. No one I know respects their
mother less than the father and not all
fathers are the ones who lay down the law
in a home. I know plenty of mothers who
are more strict than the father and the
father is the one they go crying to. Being
a mother doesn't mean you receive less
respect than a father.
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Posted: 03-05-08 16:00pm
It depended on the kind of trouble I was
in lol. I go to each parent for different
kinds of support. Although my Dad gets
angrier and certain things, he's better at
consoling me. My mom is a little looser,
so say for instance when I confessed I'd
smoked a cigarette, I confessed to her,
not my Dad.
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Posted: 03-05-08 16:17pm
because shes a more calmer parent right,
thats what i meant, just came out wrong
now that im reading it. i dont disagree
that a mother can be more strict, but when
they both live in the same house, it works
better that way, in divorced situations
its different one can handle things
better, like discipline better than
another one can.
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