jessamyn
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Teen moms in real life
Posted: 03-07-08 11:56am
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Aside from yourself, if you were a teenage
parent... Do you in your real life, not
online, or others your sought out, via
myspace, or forums or play groups, etc...
Do you know any other teen moms?
I am a Mentor/Volunteer for JSF Mentoring
Mothers in Real Life. Aside from the girls
I meet thru the program, I only personally
know one girl who was a teenage mom.
She got pregnant sophmore year of
highschool and dropped out, had another
child with the same man at 17-18.
Her boyfriend/childs father is a total
deadbeat but she is the hardest working
person ever and takes nothing for granted.
She just got her GED this year (we are
both 21) and I hope she finally sees how
worthless brandon is.
However I was talking to a friend of mine
whom lives in Lousiana and she said just
statistcally most girls that dont have
alot of money or education kind of end up
that way, pregnant or on drugs by around
14 or so... (not juding you at all if you
are from LA, I am simply stating what I
was told by a LA native).
I am born and raised, from San Diego,
California and yeah I guess there are
probably teens who where in my school or
what not whom got pregnant and secretlyhad
an abortion. I just only know one who got
pregnant, admitted to it and moved on.
I am simply curious about everyone
else....
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Posted: 03-07-08 12:07pm
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i kno a girl my age who got pregnant in
her last year of high school, she was
going to continue schooling but had a
premature birth so that was put on hold,
however i think she did corespondence
after, and is not pregnant again with her
second child.
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rosejackson
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Posted: 03-07-08 13:02pm
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yes i know loads myself. three from the
same year as me at school. two from my
sisters year. i know quite a few through
friends and through a group i go to. the
youngest teen mum i know got pregnant at
14. she is 15 now and cant get many
benefits to support herself as she is
under 16 and she lives with her nan. her
mum lives across the road, but there is
more room at her nans for a baby.
the people in my year, one girl was
pregnant while studying her GCSEs. we
didnt know at the time. we only knew when
she was heavily pregnant. her son is now 2
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Posted: 03-07-08 13:29pm
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I know a woman who was a teenage mom, she
is 30 now. Our daughters are friends,
does that count?
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Posted: 03-07-08 13:31pm
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i think that would count. i dont know,
there's loads of teenage mums in my area.
its become acceptable when a young girl
gets pregnant. its always been that way,
but its been getting worse. bobbys mum got
pregnant at 16 and her mum got pregnant at
17 with twins, but lost them
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jessamyn
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Posted: 03-07-08 13:56pm
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see thats just the thing, although in no
way am i putting down your home, or
anyones home or what not, but what makes
it acceptable in some areas vs not
acceptable in others. Even if not
acceptable but expected? My friend from
Louisiana said its just expected...
however here. It would be insane... she
would probably make papers or whatnot...
or it would be gossiped about... I mean
you go into Costco and see a young girl
pregnant... I'll admit I'm even looking. I
guess its just not accepted or expected
here. I mean I got pregnant at 18 had my
son at 19 and I was like OMG it was insane
for me to be pregnant. My son will be 3
years old in 2 weeks and all my friends
are just NOW having kiddos.
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Posted: 03-07-08 14:02pm
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Jess, to be honest, I think economics play
a large part, as well as the extent to
which any given community is religious or
not. You probably grew up in a fairly
affluent neighborhood.
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Posted: 03-07-08 16:28pm
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I'm from Louisiana.... and as sad as it is
i'd say about 70% of teenage girls have
children by the age of 18 and most had
them younger than 16.
Whats worst is more than half are living
off the state.
I wouldn't say that it's "expected" for a
teen girl to have a baby but that thought
comes to mind before them saying she
dosen't.....
I was one of the older ones in my friends
circle who got pregnant... I'm trying on
my second now at 19 and their all on their
3rd and fourth.
There are 2 girls who I am friends with
that I wish would really get their
****together but I have to say most of my
friends who are teenage or were teenage
mothers have done really good for
themselves.
My sons sisters mom, who is now like my
best frind she is 4 months younger than
me... she has her own 4 bd. rm house, her
own 08' galant, both her children want or
need for anything, and she has her first
at 14. She went back to school got her GED
and picked up a trade....I'm happy to say
thats the story for most of my friends who
had their kids young.
It's really common here in New Orleans
tho...
I was living in Tx. when I was pregnant
for Casey and already I'm short so I look
young but I did notice the snobby looks
and the attitude change when they opened
my chart and saw that I was only 16.
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Posted: 03-07-08 16:30pm
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| CaseysMommyJen
wrote: | I'm from Louisiana.... and
as sad as it is i'd say about 70% of
teenage girls have children by the age of
18 and most had them younger than 16.
Whats worst is more than half are living
off the state.
I wouldn't say that it's "expected" for a
teen girl to have a baby but that thought
comes to mind before them saying she
dosen't.....
I was one of the older ones in my friends
circle who got pregnant... I'm trying on
my second now at 19 and their all on their
3rd and fourth.
There are 2 girls who I am friends with
that I wish would really get their
****together but I have to say most of my
friends who are teenage or were teenage
mothers have done really good for
themselves.
My sons sisters mom, who is now like my
best frind she is 4 months younger than
me... she has her own 4 bd. rm house, her
own 08' galant, both her children want or
need for anything, and she has her first
at 14. She went back to school got her GED
and picked up a trade....I'm happy to say
thats the story for most of my friends who
had their kids young.
It's really common here in New Orleans
tho.... |
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Posted: 03-07-08 16:32pm
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No, it wouldn't be me.
My son has an older sister from another
woman.
His dad'd other child... not mine.
She didn't become a statistic, thats how
she has a large home and a nice car. She
got up, got a job, and worked for hers.
Went back to school and got her degree and
even a trade.
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Posted: 03-07-08 16:33pm
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Do I know another teenage mother (or one
that was) heck yeah. My niece (15) just
had a baby girl. But aside from that when
I was a teen mom 1/2 or more of my
graduation class was pregnant at the same
time. And no I was not following a trend I
was living in another state when I became
pregnant and moved back with my mom when I
found out how many was pregnant. That was
11 years ago this Oct.
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Posted: 03-07-08 16:39pm
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Holy crap, everyone seems to know so many
teenage moms. I don't know any personally,
one girl I went to elementary with has
one, but I haven't seen her in over 7
years. And we had 4/5 pregnant girls in my
school in my final year. Note that we do
have almost 2000 students, but yeah, we're
sitting at less than 1%. It is looked down
upon and it is talked about around here,
but we still support those who choose to
go ahead with it. I just can't imagine
having half of your graduating class
pregnant (RebelCats).
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Posted: 03-07-08 16:53pm
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Yeah it was a shock when I found out as
well. But the odd thing was it was not
like the popular girl got pregnant and
everyone followed suit. Most of them got
pregnant at the same time. It was freaky.
But like I said I lived out of state when
I got pregnant. And also it was a small
school. We had no where near 2000 kids.
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Posted: 03-07-08 21:25pm
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when i was still in school i knew at least
2 other girls who were pregnant (they were
in one of the same classes as me) there
were rumars that 2 other girls from that
same class were pregnant (i always would
joke that i started a bad trend cause i
got preg right before school started and
all these girls got preg after lol) then i
had seen probably about at lest 5 other
girls in the school who where preg, then i
knew one girl in that school who was
already a mum then at my old school i knew
3 girls who were mums (they were
sophmores/juniors) and back home (in
wisconsin) i know of 2 girls that have
babies (one is 16 and the other is 1  . also i went to a
parenting class where there were a few
teen parents the youngest i belive was 14
physically right now i dont have contact
with any teens who are parents/pregnant
other then myself, 3 of my neighbors were
but they are all older now
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Posted: 03-08-08 08:58am
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I don't know any teen mom in real life ,
just online...
that would have been cool cause then
people would stop talking about me and how
irresponsable i was ! lol
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Posted: 03-09-08 11:18am
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My sister had her son two months before
her 17th and her daughter 2 weeks after
her 18th and my best friend gave birth to
a little boy eight weeks ago. Oh and i
don't actually know her personally but
theres a girl at my old school who had her
son at 14
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Posted: 03-10-08 00:55am
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Wow, so Dannzibelle both you and your
sister are teen moms at the same time?
Are you both at home? How do your parents
feel about that? Why did you want to be a
teen mom when you saw your sister go
through it?
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Posted: 03-10-08 06:01am
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My sister is now 20 and married to her
children's father and living in a home
that they rent together so she doesn't
live here. Well understandably our parents
wern't happy about it but all of our
pregnancies were unplanned and happened
while we were on contraception (our family
is very fertile incase you couldn't
already tell!) so they couldn't be angry
with us for being irresponsible and having
unprotected sex. I never wanted to be a
teen mum so i can't really answer that
question but once i found myself pregnant
i knew i had the strength to do it
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Posted: 03-10-08 09:22am
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..i dont see how they couldnt be angry, if
you said people in your family are very
fertile, wouldnt they push for protection?
and wouldnt you always have protection cuz
you are so fertile?
that doesnt make sense to me is all
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Posted: 03-10-08 09:52am
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | (our family is very fertile
incase you couldn't already tell!)
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