My boyfriend and I came onto the subject
of 3 somes, he said he would like to have
one. Personally, I find it repulsive
because I think that intimacy between 2
people who love each other is for 2, not
for 3. Now, I can't stop thinking about
it. Everytime I run into something about
sex, I automatically picture him with
another girl. It's left me completely
broken hearted because I can't believe his
mentality, it's disgusting to me. I don't
know how to get over it or stop thinking
about it.
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fiona05
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Posted: 03-26-08 05:23am
how long have you been seeing him for? i
share your opinions about sex, i think it
is for 2 people who love each other. if he
is able and willing to have sex with
another girl then maybe you need to
question how much he cares about you. your
view of sex and his are obviously very
different so i think this is something
that is always going to drive a wedge
between you two.
having said that, perhaps when he
expressed his interest in threesomes he
was talking theoretically. we all have
fantasies, maybe it's an idea that turns
him on but he wouldn't really carry it
out.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-08-08 09:16am
you definitely need to talk to him about
this and let him know exactly how you feel
on the subject. Most men fantasize about
this but it doesn't mean it's right to
bring it up in a relationship.
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Truth_serum
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Joined: 07 Mar 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Oxon Hill , MD
Posted: 05-08-08 14:49pm
Imagine him asking you to have a threesome
with another man. The whole thing is not
morally right, and never works out. It's
about lust, and the American Dream ( I can
have anything in my grasp attitude). In
life we have choices, chose wisely it may
make or break your relationship.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-09-08 07:22am
Truth_serum
wrote:
Imagine him asking you to
have a threesome with another man. The
whole thing is not morally right, and
never works out. It's about lust, and the
American Dream ( I can have anything in my
grasp attitude). In life we have choices,
chose wisely it may make or break your
relationship.
I don't think she wants
to do it, at least thats what it looks
like she is implying.
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Beline
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Posted: 05-10-08 12:42pm
Fantasies in itself isn’t a bad thing,
but sometimes guys can get carried away by
them, and when the opportunity presents
itself, they will take advantage of the
situation or even create one.
He already tested the water by saying that
he would like to have one, so I would
strongly suggest that people in situations
like this one should discuss what is
acceptable and what isn’t in their
relationship. If both partners don’t
agree, then it is time to move on.
This post is almost 2 months old but I
hope the original poster made the right
decision. It’s very traumatic to find
out your partner has been cheating.
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