Joined: 28 Nov 2003 Posts: 113 Location: pennsylvainaia
Please Need Advice Asap Posted: 03-09-04 22:33pm
I have a question, im 33 years old , I
have a 14 year old son , I really want
another baby but I am so scared, I have a
great husband who isnt the father of my
first and I know he would love to have a
child of his own, I feel like im to old,
then I think 14 years is a huge gap to be
having another child, im so use to my
routine now, sleeping all night, not
having to worry about a baby sitter, etc,
but then I think of all the great things
a baby can bring, im like so nervous, I
dont know if im being selfish, or what, I
told my husband I wanted to try he had
tears, he was so excited he told everyone,
I would feel horrible to back out now, my
son says hes excited and would love to
have a baby, god I feel like crying, has
any one ever felt like this, am I to old
to have a child, also im kind of nervous
because my first son was 2 months
premature, I have 2 herniated disk in my
lower back, and 2 bulging disk in my neck,
so I worry about that my orhtropedic
doctor said I should be fine although I
will probally half to have a c section, I
would just like to hear someone elses
input, also is there anything like
position wise to have a girl , I heard it
was up to the man to determine the sex,
just curious please somebody help me
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Cin
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jul 2003 Posts: 27 Location: Waterloo, In
Not Too Late Posted: 03-09-04 23:32pm
Bootsie
hello, I am 32 years old and have 2 boys
who are 11 & 9. I had my tubes tied
and then ended up remarrying a guy who has
no children. I had a reversal done 1 1/2
years ago and we are ttc. I was like you
at first and in the same routines,but
between myself, my husband and my boys, we
all would love to have a little girl
around the house. Don't think your too
old, think how young she will make you
feel when your holding her in your arms.
I wish you the best of luck and i'll be
praying and sprinkling baby dust for you.
Cin
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bootsie840
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2003 Posts: 113 Location: pennsylvainaia
Posted: 03-09-04 23:40pm
Thank you for your input, thats just it
knowing how great it would be to hold a
baby again, I know if I dont try now, and
years past I will probally reret it, I
know my husband will be a great dad, hes
raised my son for 10 years and is
wonderfull to him better than his own
father, I guess because it has been 14
years, its been a long time, I think its
just the whole idea again thats scary
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Cin
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jul 2003 Posts: 27 Location: Waterloo, In
Posted: 03-09-04 23:45pm
I hear what your saying. Scares me too.
Anymore though, you hear woman getting
pregnant at 40 and older. I couldn't do
that. I would like to be done by 35 at
the latest. I want to be able to enjoy
life after their older. Best of luck.
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Amberlee123
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Dec 2003 Posts: 185 Location: Tennessee
Posted: 03-10-04 02:01am
You are not to old, that is for sure. My
parents had their last child whom is now
eight, when they were 37. So too old, no.
Having a child is a wonderful thing, and
after she came into your life i'm sure it
wouldnt bother you that she made you
change your schedule around. Its all
worth it.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 03-12-04 02:28am
I was 33 when I had my daughter &
almost 40 when I had my son & I admit
it was hard going back to dealing with
nappies etc etc & as I too have
serious back, hip & knee problems
among other things I know what you mean re
worries about coping with the pregnancy
& birth much less the carrying
(esp.With all that baby gear!!) the baby
afterwards - & they do insist on
growing & gaining weight before they
can walk etc etc!!
It was hard, to go back to having a baby
around & it has taken a toll on my
health but I wouldn't be without him for
anything, all the pain relief or lack of
health problems in the universe wouldn't
make up for not having him.
In terms of surviving the pregnancy, take
calcium, iron, multivitamin & damn
there's another one that you should be
taking before you fall that reduces the
chances of health problems for the baby,
damn it. Get rest but also keep up gentle
exercise so as to stay fit, eat healthy
foods, prepare as much as possible before
hand (like getting nappies etc etc etc so
that you don't have to worry about all
that for abit after the birth).
For both of mine I chose to bottle feed
& in terms of age & health that
was a god send the second time around as
it meant my husband could do more &
that allowed me to get rest when I needed
it. You also might get your older son's
help (but don't count on it, at 14 he has
his own life & friends & you don't
want to risk him going off the rails due
to jealousy & annoyance at always
having to babysit etc).
As to improving your chances of having a
girl>> sperm that create boys swim
fast but die sooner, sperm which create
girls swim slower & conserve their
energy so last longer therefore if you
have sex right at the time of ovulation
you're more likely to have a boy (which is
why the vast majority of ivf babies are
boys) & if you have sex a couple of
days before you ovulate you increase your
chances of having a girl. But nothing is
foolproof. I've read other ways to
improve your chances but don't recall them
maybe trya search engine & something
like how do I increase my chances of
conceiving a girl.
