Been On the Fertility Rollercoaster For Years! Finally Happy Posted: 07-13-07 13:33pm
Infertility has been a struggle for my
husband and I for about 8 years. I am
writing this so that I may give someone
some hope, I know how frustrating and
difficult trying to get pregnant can be. I
am now 40 years old and I do have a happy
story...although going through it I did
not think it was happy. When I was 32 I
got pregnant for the first time, the
pregnancy was not planned so it obviously
came easily. By the 8th week I had
miscarried. I got pregnant 4 more times
until I was 35 each ending in a
miscarriage. Doctors determined that I
have the anti cardio lupin antibody which
I guess causes miscarriages. But it is a
fairly easy fix, a low dose aspirin and or
a daily shot of heparin. My husband and I
tried for the next 2 years to get pregnant
again and it would not happen. We decided
to go to the next step. We started
fertility treatment, I did IUI first, and
then we did 2 full IVF cycles and 1 frozen
embryo cycle. No pregnancy but lots of
money gone! The doctors told me at that
time that my eggs were too old! The
financial burden and the emotional and
physical strain was enough and we decided
to move on. By this time we were ready for
adoption. Also a very long road. I had
always seen adoption as a last resort and
also as a failure to my fertility. But I
promise you, once you get to being truly
ready to adopt it is such a blessing. Not
a failure! My story does not end here. We
were blessed with a healthy 1 day old baby
boy 11 months ago. He is my world! I could
not love him more! Again my story does not
end here. I truly did let go of my
fertility and stopped keeping track of my
cycle...to me I was not going to have a
biological child...well I was wrong. I
found out about 5 weeks ago that I am
pregnant...I am now just over 12 weeks and
I still cant believe it. I dont feel that
I am completely out of the woods yet but I
am the furthest along I have ever been. I
am taking the daily dose of baby aspirin
and things seem to be going well. I would
not have believed this could happen to me.
People always said to me, relax it will
happen.... I wanted to yell at them... you
try and relax when your husband is
sticking a needle in your butt and you are
charting your cycles and your
temperatures, and your whatever fertility
drug they have you on. It is a journey and
unfortunately we do not know the outcome
but it is a journey I know I had to go on
to get to where I am now. I have never
been happier and I really hope others that
are truly suffering watching their
friends, family and co-workers get
pregnant all around them will know that
there truly will be a peace at the end of
their long journey. Good luck ∧ dont
give up...persist..and if I can help
please post a message.
my husbands mother had a baby then 12
years later with a new husband but had
being trying since my husband was 6 years
old anyways she was pregant and the baby
died still birth then at forty just when
they had been accepted by a christian
adpotion place they found out they were
pregant and that was when my husband was
17 his mom was 40 when she had another
child so I guess relaxing helps. I do hope
you carry to term,. I am and will pray
for you daily. I have lost many babies to
miscarriages only eight of them were
confirmed at a doctors but now I do not
even go I know what to expect and only go
if something abnormal happens.
I see yu are my neighbor... I am from
thunder bay ontario.
Do you have any children or have you had
all miscarriages. I am wondering this
because I have an antibody that causes
miscarriages and it is a really easy fix.
It is the anti cardio lupin antibody (i
may have spelled it wrong). Once they
determine you have it (blood test) they
will put you on low dose aspirin daily
even when you are not pregnant (in case
you get prego). Depending on how high the
antibody is they may also want you to give
yourself daily injections of heparin once
you are pregnant. I am only on the
aspirin. One doctor told me that the
antibody can come and go in your body too!
Typically the miscarriages happen in the
first 8 weeks or so.
MK
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Volaremos
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Aug 2006 Posts: 421
Posted: 07-15-07 01:13am
MK - Your story made me cry. Believe me i
am so happy for you. I'll be praying for
your healthy full term pregnancy.
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girlfromdasticks
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Joined: 26 Apr 2007 Posts: 237 Location: Austin, Texas USA
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Posted: 07-16-07 16:03pm
wow your story is amazing. you must have
alot of patience. hope that everything
goes well for the rest of your pregnancy.
