Roomie Is Bipolar . Violant Outburst Towards Me . Posted: 07-14-07 03:20am
Well my roomie is bipolar. We moved in
together In October of 2006 cause were
friends of 10yrs. Everything was fine for
2 months until I started a serious
relationship wit my current boyfriend.
It started with her getting angry cause we
didn't hang out anymore.that my boyfriend
would come over 2 a week and stay over.
Then it got worst. She wanted things done
her way. Dishes were to be cleaned and
dried immediately(I work a full time
lateshift so I sometimes didn't have time
to let alone eat.
I would do my chores Saturday or before my
boyfriend would come over but that made
her mad and she wanted it done at the time
she had posted on this stupid chart she
created.
She wanted to know if I was leaving for a
few days and when I would get back! If my
chores are done;my bills payed and the
cats have food and water why should she
think she has the rite to know bout my
personal life.
3months ago I got a fulltime job and that
made her even more angry..again cause we
didn't hangout. I started thinking she was
jealous that me and my b.f would go out
etc. Her b.f is a loner and doesn't take
her out. She would throw notes under my
door insulting me telling me how
inconsiderate I am that she's tired of
cleaning up after me lol what ever.
So I got tired of the rudeness and her
throwing the notes that the last one she
wrote I didn't bother reading and returned
it to her. That set her off.she slams my
door so hard she messed up one of the
hinges. She lashed out at me infront of
her mother and my boyfriend. Then she
steps forward as to hit me and my
boyfriend stands up glaring at her and she
steps back. She kept raging and cussing me
out.
Angry that I had told my landlord that I
was moving first and not her!
I called the landlord And told her I was
leaving that I felt threatened. So I
didn't spend the nite in my own house
because she got so out of control. I fear
for my kitten who's still at home and my
belongings. What should I do? I go home
tomorrow wit my boyfriend to keep me
company so I can pack some things. But I
fear for my safety any input
will be greatly appreciated
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j_j89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 19
Posted: 07-14-07 13:57pm
Hey there, sorry to hear about your very
complicated situation. I must tell you
though, it is much much harder to be in a
relationship with someone who is bipolar.
So be thankful for that! Its good that you
are moving out though, that will help
tremendously I am sure. Its also good that
you have your boyfriend there to support
you, or stand up for you when you feel you
cannot. It would just advise you to not
play into the games/mood swings. Take
everything for face value and never
analyze, it will never ever make any sense
to someone who thinks normally. Just watch
out for your safety, and don't forget that
many people are dealing with a similar
situation to you. I have been in therapy
for a little while now as my ex is
bipolar. The main thing that I have been
told from professionals is to basically
just stand up for yourself, and continue
to say no. You deserve better than to have
to deal with that. The fact that she is
violent is not good combined with the
normal bipolar symptoms. It is very
difficult to live with someone bp, just be
strong and firm and you will be fine.
People who are bipolar are still
individuals who need love, friendship and
support, but that may not be your role,
save that for someone else who can
actually handle those things. I wish you
well.
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mrsbuzski
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jun 2007 Posts: 103 Location: U.S.A. -- Illinois
Roommate From Hell Posted: 07-14-07 17:35pm
I had a room mate like that once. Oh, my
God! I seriously thought I was going to
loose my mind. No support from the
authorities; meaning advice from Doctors
or the Police, because truthfully what
could they do unless there was any type of
"physical contact or damage done".
I tried incessently to stay calm. I
prayed continually for strength to get
through. ....when my Doctor wouldn't give
me something to relax, I prayed for
patience and called the church
psychologist.
I believe that this person was: self
centered, angry, had an addiction problem,
and a "poor me attitude", and absolutely
no respect for her fellow man! Explained
in one word: Evil!
Bipolar? Who's to say? Don't we all wake
up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes.
Many of us want our own way and
generally see things a lot easier from
our own perspective instead of others.
I'm glad you got out of that situation.
A person that is a control freak should
definitely look into taking some anger
management classes. It takes many virtues
to deal with people like that!
