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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Just a Thought
Posted: 03-10-04 04:11am
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Have you ever noticed that most all of us
teens that have kids, or are pregnant have
had or are having problems with the father
of the baby? What is their deal?
It's not like we crawled up on ourselves
and got ourselves pregnant. I guess
it's proof that males do mature slower
than females. I think realizing that
your aren't living your life for yourself
anymore, but for a little baby, has a lot
to do with it to. I guess they can't
grasp that concept. Guys are really
self absorbed if you ask me. I wonder
how they'd feel if it were the other way
around and they were the ones stuck taking
care of a baby 24/7 and having sleepless
nights?
Crystal
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JillMarie
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Joined: 24 Dec 2003
Posts: 3022
Location: Iowa
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Posted: 03-10-04 04:23am
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I need to vote 3 times! Lol! Well I
voted for me and jesse! Me and my oldest
sons dad are friends, no problems but me
and the twins dad just talked a month ago
for the first time since we broke up! We
cleared up are pasts feelings of hate/love
but we still aint friends!
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 03-10-04 04:23am
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Lol I agree crystal.....But I can't say
much on this area because when it comes to
this dewitt has a lot of respect for me.
He's cheesy and says that my stretch marks
are beautiful. Lol......When his mom
asked me why I didnt put on a little
makeup he said I was beautiful and didnt
hafta wear makeup. Lol. He can be the
biggest ass but he can also be the biggest
sweetheart. I think all guys need to have
more respect for women. They don't have
to deal with being pregnant and giving
birth. Girls definitely mature faster!
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4922
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 03-10-04 04:26am
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I think for the most part why they have
problems is because some relationships are
taken for fun and they think they are in
love, but once a kid pops up, then lives
get mixed together as well as emotions and
everything so some teens arent as ready as
they thought they were and the parents
dont get along because its a whole new
ballgame now. Thats just what I think
because this one time I thought I was
pregnant a while ago, with my boyfriend I
told him and he turned into a whole new
guy talking about hes not ready and stuff,
and he became a jerk so we ended it and
good thing I wasnt pregnant but it just
changes people
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 03-10-04 05:27am
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I think that it's not that they don't love
you..... Or anything. I mean, some
don't. But some do. They just.... The
reality of "omg, i'm a father" hits them a
little different that it hits us girls!
We are like, omg~i'm a mommy, ok, i'll
deal with it. But guys want to run
because it's what they know to do! I
think that the guys need to grow up and if
you can have sex, you can accept
responsibility! Like you said, I didn't
get preggo on my own!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-10-04 05:41am
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I love the posts girls. I agree with all
of you obviously. Ethan's dad was just
how you said. Before I got pregnant, he
was always telling me how much he loved me
and wanted to marry me and all this stuff
and then when I told him I was pregnant he
was like, "i can't deal with this." he
actually tried to tell me to get an
abortion. I've always been 100%
anti-abortion though, so that didn't fly
with me. Eventually things starting
getting better and he was glad I didn't
get an abortion, but then he changed and
didn't really want to hang out with me
anymore. All he wanted to do was go out
with his friends and he hardly ever
called. I had to call him if I wanted us
to talk and even then, he'd get off the
phone with me with some stupid made up
excuse. We aren't together anymore, but
now he's saying how he wants to change and
do all these great things. All I have to
say is....I'll believe it when I see it.
Crystal
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 03-10-04 06:46am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-11-04 10:05am; edited 1 time in total
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-10-04 08:07am
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Yeah it makes sense. I hope he does
come around, but I don't think we could
ever be together and be happy. Maybe we
could just be really good friends. He
wants a career in the military which means
he would be in for 20 years at least and
he would only have 30 days leave a year.
And I really don't want to live on a
millitary base all my life, especially
with ethan having to live there too. I
just want a normal life. I don't want
to be one of those sad, crying military
wives always wondering if their husband
has been killed. Him and me always got
into a fight over that whole deal.
Crystal
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dominicksmommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004
Posts: 279
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Posted: 03-10-04 14:28pm
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I am torn..... I hate him but we talk...
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 03-11-04 00:24am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-11-04 10:05am; edited 1 time in total
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-11-04 03:49am
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No, ethan and I have been home for more
than 3 weeks now and he's only seen him
twice in that time. If he's not at work
he's usually spending his time at school
in the military program he's involved with
or online talking to people on military
forums or he's playing a military
simulation game. He's the most hardcore
military fanatic i've ever seen. It
starts to get on your nerves after a
while. He has no back up plan either, if
he doesn't get into the military..Like if
he doen't pass basic training, then he'll
be screwed becaues he has no back up.
He's so narrow minded and only focuses on
that. I told him make a back up plan
just incase, but he was like, "no, i'm
gonna do this".
Crystal
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 03-11-04 03:51am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-11-04 10:06am; edited 1 time in total
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-11-04 04:20am
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Yeah, I send him pictures whenever I
upload them to my computer.
Crystal
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 03-11-04 04:26am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-11-04 10:06am; edited 1 time in total
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 03-11-04 04:29am
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I hate to say it but I know
heather, meghan, haley, brandi, and shelly
are 5 girls I know for sure that aren't
with their baby's father. These girls are
18, 18, 17, 17, 15.
It seems like your point is right....
Guys mature slower and aren't ready for
this type of situation! It's sad though,
these poor girls have to raise their kids
alone, although, in some of the girls
cases its prolly better that the father
isn't there!
Love,
chanda
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-11-04 04:53am
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Jennifer: i'll keep you posted with the
details of what's going on.
Chanda: I agree with you, somtimes it's
better for the father not to be there.
I'm not really sure if it even really
matters to aj. Sometimes I think the
only thing he cares about is being in the
army. He's obsessed and I honestly
think he needs to talk to someone about
it. It's an unhealthy obsession and
that's half the reason our relationship
didn't work out.
Crystal
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 03-11-04 04:56am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-11-04 10:07am; edited 1 time in total
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-11-04 05:04am
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This is really creepy, but I think half
the reason is because he likes the thought
of that kind of thing....Guns and killing.
Also, I think he has it in his head that
he'll do something heroic and become this
great well known hero. Which will never
happen. I asked him once why he wanted
to do something where he knew people would
be shooting at him and trying to kill him
and where he'd have to kill other people
and he said because that's the only thing
he knows how to do. That doesn't make
much sense, it's not like he's ever been
there before. I think once he's really
out there like in iraq some where, he's
gonna be scared crapless.
Crystal
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 03-11-04 05:17am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-11-04 10:07am; edited 1 time in total
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004
Posts: 822
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 03-11-04 05:19am
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Yeah, it's really frustrating. And
you're right, that's his biggest
problem...He thinks he's the caca.
Crystal
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