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Don't Like Sex? Posted: 07-15-07 16:56pm


Hey everyone, I've been having sex for awhile now..I can't remember how many times I've had it (with only one person ofcourse)..but I have NEVER enjoyed it..I find myself doing it just because my boyfriend wants it..and I want it to..but when I get it I can't enjoy it..I just want it to end almost as soon as it starts!! It's sooo frustrating!! I've never had an orgasm during sex..I'm unconvinced the so called G spot even exists! Different positions don't work..we've tried them all..HELP!!

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Hi Posted: 07-15-07 17:09pm


Wanted to say hello.......I see where lots of people view this post, but no one has yet to reply.....so I will! You did not state your age or if you had any other type of medical problem that may be effecting this. You did mention this was the only guy you'd been with. Feel free to PM me if you would like a more personal response, theres bound to be some negativity here on this question.....but yes, periodically, I have felt this way....several times through several bout in my time (I turned 50 yesterday, but the first time I saw a physican about it was when I was in my early 20's. I'll be happy to answer any wustions you may have if you PM me!

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Re: Don't Like Sex?
Posted: 07-15-07 19:08pm

thelmas4sale wrote:

Hey everyone,

I've been having sex for awhile now..I can't remember how many times I've had it (with only one person ofcourse)..but I have NEVER enjoyed it..I find myself doing it just because my boyfriend wants it..and I want it to..but when I get it I can't enjoy it..I just want it to end almost as soon as it starts!! It's sooo frustrating!! I've never had an orgasm during sex..I'm unconvinced the so called G spot even exists! Different positions don't work..we've tried them all..HELP!!

I won't be negative!

Enjoyment during sex for women is often not an orgasmic one. It's hard for most of us to orgasm just due to vaginal stimulation! I never have!

I personally use clitoral stimulation during sex to orgasm. Most women have to do so.

It is also possible that some women don't have g-spots, or theirs is not sensitive, or who knows what.

Do you do a lot of foreplay? I find sex more enjoyable if the goal isn't actually sex, and just enjoyment.

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Re: Don't Like Sex?
Posted: 07-15-07 21:34pm

Eiri wrote:

thelmas4sale wrote:

not too much foreplay. usually we'll do enough so we're wanting it..but we don't wait to long. i don't believe i do have a g spot..whenever he uses his fingers it just feels like i have to pee!! and i've done it enough to know that its not cum or whatever you guys call it..its just because he's pushing into my bladder. ill have to try the enjoyment approach tho! it sounds promising! thanks a ton

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Re: Don't Like Sex?
Posted: 07-15-07 21:45pm

thelmas4sale wrote:

Eiri wrote:

thelmas4sale wrote:

not too much foreplay. usually we'll do enough so we're wanting it..but we don't wait to long. i don't believe i do have a g spot..whenever he uses his fingers it just feels like i have to pee!! and i've done it enough to know that its not ejaculate or whatever you guys call it..its just because he's pushing into my bladder. ill have to try the enjoyment approach tho! it sounds promising! thanks a ton

Oh man XD You DO have a g-spot!! That feeling of needing to pee is what g-spot stimulation feels like! You've been doing it right all along. Trust me, I don't ejaculate either and it takes a lot of practice vaginally. You have to clitorally stimulate and internally stimulate at the same time until you can orgasm just internally. It feels weird at first but the orgasms I've gotten from the technique are amazing. I haven't made it to a g-spot only orgasm yet.

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Posted: 07-15-07 21:47pm


i agree do it for the enjoyment, i think i like it better when we try not to "follow thru". I guess you could call it the tease approach or hard to get.

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Dont Like Sex? Posted: 07-15-07 21:56pm


are you sure? lol..it doesnt feel good or anything..it just feels like hes trying to push into my bladder. and we've been doing it for awhile. it just continues to feel weird. i've done the whole clit thing. doesnt work during sex..have to use some other sort of stimulation.. and that just adds to my frustration lol

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Re: Dont Like Sex?
Posted: 07-15-07 22:29pm

thelmas4sale wrote:

are you sure? lol..it doesnt feel good or anything..it just feels like hes trying to push into my bladder. and we've been doing it for awhile. it just continues to feel weird. i've done the whole clit thing. doesnt work during sex..have to use some other sort of stimulation.. and that just adds to my frustration lol

No, it didn't feel good at all to me at first. I've hard to discover how to make it feel good during masturbation.

You can't clitorally orgasm during sex? Silly question, but can you orgasm clitorally during masturbation? You may simply need a vibrator.

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Posted: 07-15-07 22:57pm


is it your boyfriend? i'm not asking that to start a fight or quiz you on your feelings for him, because i'm sure you love him. it's just that with my first boyfriend, who i had sex with after two & a half years of dating was good in bed, but i never enjoyed the sex with him. after we broke up, i met my second boyfriend, and he was equally as good, however, i enjoyed the sex with him a whole lot more. i was able to take on a different personality in bed with him. i wasn't shy or conservative, like i was with my first boyfriend. i was able to be dominating & kinky. sex for a girl is said to be more emotionally & mentally stimulating than physically. and it is true that most women do not achieve orgasm via vaginal sex. foreplay is the biggest part of a girl's satisfaction in bed. i have only achieved orgasm during sex a total of - i'd say - maybe seven times or less. i usually get my orgasm afterwards, when my boyfriend plays with me. but that is fine with me because i love satisfying him. sex is what you make it. i can't be with a guy if the sex isn't good, as awful as that sounds. i also need to be completely comfortable around him because i am one to experiment & try new things. sex should make you feel good, both on the inside & the outside. you should be sexy & adventurous, up for anything. perhaps, you just need to sit down & talk about it, if you haven't already. maybe there is something he could do specifically to enhance the enjoyment for you? good luck, hun & have fun! be safe, too.

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Not Having G-spot Posted: 07-16-07 20:26pm


I think everybody has a g-spot, I said so because I thought I did not have it until I did the g-shot. The collagen that the Dr. injected me was definitely in the right spot because after that a new world opened. You should try it.

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Posted: 07-16-07 23:30pm


thanks for what? and yea i probably should sit down and talk to him about it..i dont even think he has any clue that its going on. and no offense taken i DO love him..it just doesnt feel good..and i was curious because you always hear people going on and on about how great sex is..but i dont see where they're coming from. I might need to look into some other sort of method lol..i do want to try more foreplay tho (ill have to let him know ofcourse..because i've tried it before (the whole hard to get thing) and he just gives up and isn't interested anymore) thanks everyone soo much for your comments and advice i do hope things get better soon hes been wanting me to orgasm for so long..and i think hes given up trying..i dont get anywhere lol (and im not pressured to do it either so thats not stopping me from enjoying it) ..i told him i would when i was ready..thanks guys! i appreciate it