Did I Do the Right Thing? Posted: 07-15-07 20:27pm
I broke up with my boyfriend a week after
I found out I was pregnant with his child.
We had only been dating for about three
months but we had known each other for
about a year. There were many things (some
illegal) I did not like about him, but I
was willing to overlook them because I
wanted to be with him. We were so happy to
learn we were having a baby, but things
rapidly went downhill after the news. I
did not agree with some of the things he
did in his life, and after a while I
wasn't afraid to let him know it. One
night he said some terribly degrading
things to me, and my conscience confronted
me with the question: Do I leave or do I
stay? My heart was telling me to get my
baby out of the situation, even though he
apologized over and over and wanted to
work things out. My mother had been in a
relationship that had been both physically
and mentally abusive, and I was having
major flashbacks, even though he had never
ever raised a hand to strike me, but his
voice and cruel words cut me to my soul.
Was I being too paranoid? This will be my
first child, but his third and I must say
that his first two children are terribly
bratty, spoiled and jaded and I just
couldn't see myself raising my first baby
in an environment where he/she could
potentially end up like the other two. My
family is supportive of my decision but I
can't help but feel bad for leaving when
he wanted to work things out.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-15-07 20:31pm
you did the best thing hun
listen to your concious and it will help
you through anything
speaking from experience you did the right
thing for you and your child.
It hurts at first cause you love him but
it is best for the child overall.
I too had a similar situation when i had
my first child i to this day still have
feeling for him but i know deep in my
heart that my choice was the best one for
her and me today i am happily married for
going on 7 years with 2 more kids since
total of 3 now please if you need to talk
you can always pm me ok but again
congratulations on your lil one.
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izzysue
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 21 Location: Long Island, N.Y US
That's Nuts Posted: 08-17-07 04:30am
I think you did the right thing by
leaving, I know it must be hard but better
now then later. You don't want you baby to
hear him yelling and saying mean thing to
you. Then there a chance that you baby
will do the same to you and not have any
respect for you. Like you also said that
you don't want the other two kids to
teach your baby to be bratty. You should
just take one day at a time. If it's meant
to be it will be but if not you have to
move on. Also remember he has two other
kids and is not with the mother, There a
reisen for that.
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benc152
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 225 Location: , Australia
Posted: 08-17-07 04:46am
you did the right thing... he will always
be connected in your life though, you have
to realise that and be able to be ok with
it.
if he's too dangerous of course though,
get away, which you've done =D that takes
guts, well done.
