Emotional Abuse, What About Me? Posted: 03-10-04 06:29am
The other day when I was talking to my
shrink, we began to talk about my father,
I reverted to a child-like state, I curled
up into a ball and wouldn't look at him, I
just focused on my hands and kept quiet.
I don't remember any abuse in my past but
the way I acted pointed directly at abuse.
Is it possible that my fathers arrogant
presence and physical prowess makes me
feel as if I have been abused, or maybe
his verbal abuse still haunting me, or is
it possible that I was abused and just
don't remember?
~wiltedangel
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
Posted: 03-10-04 08:37am
All these things are possible.... But if
I were you I would look into getting
involved in cbt and a cbt group. It
focusses on learning to deal with your
future as you cannot change what has
happened to you in the past, but you can
learn to deal with things from here on out
and relieve your anxiety and depression.
Plus cbt is the most proven successful
(80-90%) treatment for anxiety and
depression without meds.
Q
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-10-04 08:46am
Yes dear it is possible that just the way
your father makes you feel makes you feel
this way talking about him. And it is
possible that there was abuse that you
blocked out somehow. I agree with trying
to move on and everything, but the truth
is you need to find out what happened
first, before you can move on. With
almost all people who have blocked out
abuse, you will eventually suffer a
breakdown if you do not deal with it. I
would suggest hypnotism. It is the only
thing I have ever heard of that helps you
remember your past.
But if you would rather not know and want
to just try to move past it without
knowing, then I would definately go with
the above advice. I would go with the
above advice anyway, but I think it would
help to make sure you know exactly what it
is you are dealing with.
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Haley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Feb 2004 Posts: 122
Posted: 03-10-04 16:00pm
I was not ever abused but i'm a little
over halfway through a cbt group (8th week
of 12) that meets once a week. We have
several people in our group who suffer
from different forms of health anxiety as
well as people suffering from depression,
sad, ptsd (abuse) and panic (which is
what i'm there for). I'm really starting
to make progress and it's definitely worth
trying.
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deathtouall
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 23
Posted: 05-31-04 15:40pm
I was abused by my (x) father since the
day I was born my twin sister was not in
year 3 half way through some school
holidays I went to visit him my step mum
and sisters when he tried to kill me been
suffering for my entire life i'm getting
counsiling but it isn't working cause all
she wants to do is talk bout my (x) father
to which i'll never do when ever I hear
his name I through or hit something
though wanting it to be a person I know
where he lives in brisbane the problem is
i'm moving there cause mums in the army
and already have planned how to get him
back so he never will forget
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-31-04 18:56pm
I agree totally with purple.
Revenge on him is going to do nothing but
further destroy your life and he will win.
Get counseling and find a way to try to
get over this. Way easier said then
done, I know. But, you can overcome
this. Don't let him ruin your whole
life. Take the rest of your life and
make it wonderful. That will show him
more then any kind of revenge ever would.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 06-01-04 01:30am
How old are you? Do you have to go with
your mum? Is your (x) father the one you
almost killed? _ understandable reaction,
but he is not worth ruining your life over
& what about your twin sister, where's
she? & was she also abused? Is she
someone you can talk to??
There are plenty of places where you can
get counselling here, many covered by
medicare, some require part to full
private health cover though. From my own
life there are a couple of things that I
do not talk about so I understand that
& I believe that you have the right
not to talk about something if it is too
painful etc. But since this did, has
& is destroying your life you need to
make some
decisions>>>>>>>>&
gt;>>>
1) is he worth it? 2) do you want him
to win?? - I mean here, he hurt you, do
you want that hurt to get worse without
his help so that he wins??
3)what choices do you have? (affected by
age, family, friends, location & what
agencies are nearby to assist you).
4) if you could (big ask here I know) get
over/past/through this what would you
choose to do with your life? Where would
you choose to live?
5) do you want to make positive choices
for your future or negative ones that hand
the power back to your (x) father????
6) ask &/or pm me & if you want
some help getting things sorted, figuring
out what you want & where you want to
go & what you want to do - well i'm
here & I am sure that there are
others.
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deathtouall
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 23
Posted: 06-02-04 01:30am
I am 15 and he is not the one I almost
killed I now live with my mum and with me
sister and I would rather be dead than
talk to that lazy health forum!!!!!!
To me at the moment he's winning cause me
step sisters are suffaring the older one
and who knows who else is suffering lets
see where could I choose to live what bout
on another planet? Me future at the
moment is planning to become a forensic
pathologist actually I don't mind talking
bout it it is just with me family or
people who only want to talk bout him that
I stay away from me entire life is ruled
but negative things but I can't help it
thinking positive feels wrong and strange
to me
