Help Me Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 07-16-07 19:02pm
I am about 17 weeks pregnant, and I know I
am going to be judged by some people, but
that is ok.
I am tryingt o decide if abortion or
adoption is right for me.
I KNOW this sounds really messed up, but,
I do not have any emotional attachment to
this child. I DONT want to be pregnant and
was told by the father that he could not
have kids. I understand I still should've
protected myself, but at this point, could
haves should haves and would haves dont
help!
Does anyone have any advice, I need to
make a decision ASAP.
And I am trying so hard to come up with
the cash for the abortion, I was wondering
if anyone knew of any places that offer
any kind of aide....I live in PA
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Tylanas
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Re: Help Me Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 07-16-07 19:11pm
PregandScared
wrote:
I am about 17 weeks
pregnant, and I know I am going to be
judged by some people, but that is ok.
I am tryingt o decide if abortion or
adoption is right for me.
I KNOW this sounds really messed up, but,
I do not have any emotional attachment to
this child. I DONT want to be pregnant and
was told by the father that he could not
have kids. I understand I still should've
protected myself, but at this point, could
haves should haves and would haves dont
help!
Does anyone have any advice, I need to
make a decision ASAP.
And I am trying so hard to come up with
the cash for the abortion, I was wondering
if anyone knew of any places that offer
any kind of aide....I live in
PA
It's not
messed up. You are having perfectly
normal feelings; they're just not often
talked about because the "loving mother"
image is promoted instead.
I'm not sure how to get aid, but Carifairy
can help. What ever decision you make is
perfectly fine.
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Fairy*Godmother
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Hi Posted: 07-16-07 19:12pm
Hi Sweetheart, I am so sorry you are in
such a predicament. You are only 17 and it
seems have the weight of the world on your
shoulders. I take it you don't have the
support of your family? Look in the phone
book in theyellow pages to find the source
you are seeking be it abortion or
adoption. If you decide to keep the baby
until adoption, you will be taken care of,
your meds, and entire pregnancy paid for
through the adoption agency, usually the
adoptee parents. At least thats the case
for my brother when we were blessed with
my nephew. His mother was only 15 eyars
old. I thank God she decided to keep him
and allow my brother and his wife to adopt
him. If you decide to abort, you should be
making decisions soon. Its up to you, but
either way hon, only God can judge you, so
you don;t worry about what others think or
say. This is your life you have to think
about. Another thing, if you decide to
hang on to this baby to allow adoption,
are you going ot become attached to it and
then decide to keep it. Can you raise a
child on your own at 17? So many things to
think about....but the last thing you need
to worry about is someone judging you. I
am always here if you need to talk! Good
luck hon!
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PregandScared
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Hi Posted: 07-16-07 19:16pm
Hi Fairy GodMother.
Thx for your reply, but I am not 17. I am
17 weeks pregnant!
Which makes it worse and makes me more of
an awful person!
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-16-07 19:27pm
how old are ya hun?
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Re: Hi Posted: 07-16-07 19:29pm
PregandScared
wrote:
Hi Fairy GodMother.
Thx for your reply, but I am not 17. I am
17 weeks pregnant!
Which makes it worse and makes me more of
an awful
person!
No it doesn't hun! It's a hard time and
the decisions are hard; no one who's worth
their bread expects you to do it quickly.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-16-07 19:31pm
nobody should make you feel like your a
bad person
its just not the right time in your life
for a child!
and you realize that you should have used
protection! so whats wrong with that?
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Fairy*Godmother
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Sorry Posted: 07-16-07 19:32pm
Sorry Baby Girl, but this DOES NOT make
you a bad person........you are afraid and
confussed....these are normals feelings
and it doesn't make you out to be cruel.
You feel this way becasue you are torn on
what to do. Do you have family back up or
friends for support? Have you seriously
considered adoption? My brother and his
wife could not havechildren, so we have a
niece from Russia and a nephew (I
mentioned earlier)> These are the blest
belssing I could ever ask for. I'd love to
meet the childrens Mother)s) to thank them
and let them know how much love there is
between those kids and our family. YOu are
not a bad person......like OI said its
YOUR body..........
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PregandScared
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Posted: 07-16-07 19:45pm
I am 35........
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-16-07 19:57pm
Age doesn't matter for a woman and her
choices But, it is easier
at your age (I hope) to have money for
abortion or for prenatal care in the case
of adoption.
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matteric
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Abortion And Fear Posted: 07-16-07 20:23pm
Hi there I have been there and done that
is it something I am proud of is something
I cannot answer but I know that it was the
best decision for me and let me tell you
the fact that you don't feel in attachment
to your child is normal, your only 17
weeks and at this point you don't feel
much but probably allot of
uncomfortablness ( not a word). But my
advice is, if you are going to have the
abortion then I would do it soon before
you create that bond which will happen
after time. I am a mother of two and I had
an abortion after my first child and I
felt the same I thought it would be really
hard, but I also just knew so deeply in my
heart that I did not want another child
so soon and that way, me and my husband
were having alot of problems and I raised
my first child by myself and I wasnt ready
to do it all again. Adoption wasnt in
option for me, maybe at the time it would
seem okay but later I would want to meet
my child and see the person they have
become and I know I have never known my
father and I always have that since of
where the other half of me came from and I
wouldnt want someone else to go through
that.
Just so you know the procedure is pretty
simple your asleep and you wake up like
you have bad period cramps.. I do not
recommend the abortion where you take the
pill and do it at home I heard it is very
painful. Good luck to you and I hope that
you chose the decision for you and not
others this is your life and you control
you make apart of it.
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womaninpain
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Posted: 07-16-07 21:02pm
If this is something you truely want to do
then go to a local planned parenthood they
will direct you from there what to do.
They have counseling for this and they
also can tell you of a facility that will
help you if you want to do it because I
think planned parenthood only does it up
to 12 weeks...I wouldnt wait much longer
though if you want to do it. If you don't
adoption is a beautiful thing, there are
SO many families out there that can't get
pregnant and wanting babies. Good Luck.
But, it is easier
at your age (I hope) to have money for
abortion or for prenatal care in the case
of adoption.