Ok well, im not really sure which thread
this goes into, so i took a shot at this
one. Well to start I am 16, almost 17, and
have a beautiful girlfriend for the past 2
years. My problem may sound pathetic but
its been killing me and i needed someone
to talk to. I constantly believe that she
is too good for me. She is a really
beautiful girl and in good shape and her
family has a nice amount of money and is
very comfortable (moms a doctor), and im
not very good looking and quite chubby( i
weigh around 220, which is alot for my
age) and my family is sort of poor( we
just bought a house because the apartment
we were living in wasnt big enough for the
new baby, and wev almost lost the house on
multiple occasions). I always feel like im
holding her back from something better.
She does nothing to make me think this
way, its just the way i see it. This has
led me to be very stressed out over the
past few months and i cant talk to any1
about this. The littlest thing gets me
angry(i stubbed my foot and punched the
door of the refridgerator) I have been
feeling very depressed lately and i dont
know what to do. If someone could give me
some advice i would be very grateful.
It sounds like you are going thru a really
tough time with your role vs. identity.
This is the stage you are currently in
according to one of the growth theories.
Teenagers often are confused with their
role and who they are and who and where
they want to be. It's not uncommon to feel
stressed out. But please don't be
discouraged because of what you perceive
to be true. You should be proud of
yourself, image wise, class wise, it
doesn't matter. All that matters is that
you are happy to be where you are. If your
girlfriend is great, then what is is that
you're worried about? If she truly cared
for how you look and how much money you
had, then she would have said something,
right? A relationship isn't all about
whether you're good enough for each other
or not. It's about trust and bonding. Tell
her how you feel. She will understand. It
seems to me that you want to stop thinking
the way you do about your relationship.
Why not be open to your girlfriend and
tell her how you really feel?
Whether your 220lbs or 500 lbs. it doesn't
make a difference in the relationship if
neither of you care. There are much more
wonderful things in the world to think
about and do. Don't worry about weight.
Be glad and happy for who you are. If
other people, like your girlfriend, can
accept you. You can work on accepting
yourself for who you are. Not just to make
HER happy. But to make YOURSELF worth it.
The only person you owe anything to is
yourself, no one else.
I hope this helps. If you need to talk,
feel free to message me. Cheers!
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pronetoillness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: san francisco!, california
Posted: 07-17-07 15:36pm
rosalee
wrote:
Hi there,
It sounds like you are going thru a really
tough time with your role vs. identity.
This is the stage you are currently in
according to one of the growth theories.
Teenagers often are confused with their
role and who they are and who and where
they want to be. It's not uncommon to feel
stressed out. But please don't be
discouraged because of what you perceive
to be true. You should be proud of
yourself, image wise, class wise, it
doesn't matter. All that matters is that
you are happy to be where you are. If your
girlfriend is great, then what is is that
you're worried about? If she truly cared
for how you look and how much money you
had, then she would have said something,
right? A relationship isn't all about
whether you're good enough for each other
or not. It's about trust and bonding. Tell
her how you feel. She will understand. It
seems to me that you want to stop thinking
the way you do about your relationship.
Why not be open to your girlfriend and
tell her how you really feel?
Whether your 220lbs or 500 lbs. it doesn't
make a difference in the relationship if
neither of you care. There are much more
wonderful things in the world to think
about and do. Don't worry about weight.
Be glad and happy for who you are. If
other people, like your girlfriend, can
accept you. You can work on accepting
yourself for who you are. Not just to make
HER happy. But to make YOURSELF worth it.
The only person you owe anything to is
yourself, no one else.
I hope this helps. If you need to talk,
feel free to message me.
Cheers!
i agree on that soo strongly.
Those are just things you can change as
you grow older.. you aren't stopping her
from doing anything.. you're supporting
her with your love and care. Also, I bet
you're not going to be poor forever.. it's
just a temporary state darling.. don't
freak out.. nothing is permanent.. if you
feel as if you have nothing else to offer
her.. you obviously do because she's yours
and is into you! soo ... offerings from
the soul and heart are limitless dear.
think positive. ^__^
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mikefred
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 07-21-07 02:59am
thank you guys, if some more people could
respond that would be appreciated
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 07-21-07 03:04am
shes not to good for ya hun
you sound like a smart guy
im 16 yrs old too
:]
and if youve been together for that long
then she loves u and no one can change
that
