Im Concerned With My First Sexual Experiences Posted: 07-17-07 00:57am
I'm in my late teens,
Me and my boyfriend both lost our
virginity a few days ago
and I've had sex since then about 3
times.
I don't feel pain, but I just don't
feel...much of anything,
even with fast, slow, and deep thrusts.
I want to experience a vaginal orgasm.
Is it normal that it doesn't feel good to
me yet?
Will it start to feel good after
more....practise?
Will textured condoms, and different lubes
help me?
Should I get used to doing it without
'extras' first?
I'm worried that I'll never be able to
have passionate sex
that both of us enjoy.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 07-17-07 01:06am
Most women do not have vaginal orgasms.
It isn't even proven that all of us can.
Women usually orgasm from clitoral
stimulation.
If you are not feeling a lot of pleasure
during sex, it is very possible that your
clitoris is not being stimulated. If you
have never had a clitoral orgasm, feel
around and find your clitoris. Try to
have a clitoral orgasm through
masturbation first so that you can learn
about what you like. That will make it
easier to guide your partner.
The clitoris can be stimulated during
vaginal sex. Some positions naturally
stimulate it. Other times, the man or
woman might use hands to stimulate it.
Toys may also be used.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5320 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 07-18-07 12:58pm
I have to say that I didn't really start
having orgasms until my partner and I had
really spent time figuring out what was
the most pleasurable. Take some time to
experiment, masturbate, figure out what
feels good so you can make the most out of
the time you have together.
Especially the first few times a man has
sex, he probably doesn't last that long
(you know how teenage boys are) and that
might not help. Make sure there is lots of
foreplay/oral stimulation/manual
stimulation before you even start with
sex.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-18-07 13:08pm
I think we also need a stickied topic
about female orgasm!
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thelmas4sale
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2007 Posts: 45 Location: ,
Posted: 07-18-07 18:35pm
i have to say..i have a problem very
similar to yours i don't feel much
when i have sex with my boyfriend
either..
i don't want to tell you the problem will
go away the more you do it because i've
been having sex a few times a week since
january! and my problem hasnt gotten any
better..i've gotten some great advice from
the women on this website
my advice is this...don't try to have sex
to have an orgasm (even thought thats
probably not even what your doing)..but it
won't happen if your trying..slow down and
enjoy the intimacy you two have together
...if you want to
be more familiar with how to pleasure
yourself and bring it to your sex
life..look into masturbation (i suggest a
vibrating "back massager") and see what
you can get from that..eventually you'll
know what feels good and you can bring it
into the bedroom (including your
partner!!)
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victoria16
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Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 451 Location: ,
Re: Im Concerned With My First Sexual Experiences Posted: 07-18-07 18:46pm
kristyn_labelle
wrote:
I'm in my late teens,
Me and my boyfriend both lost our
virginity a few days ago
and I've had sex since then about 3
times.
I don't feel pain, but I just don't
feel...much of anything,
even with fast, slow, and deep thrusts.
I want to experience a vaginal orgasm.
Is it normal that it doesn't feel good to
me yet?
Will it start to feel good after
more....practise?
Will textured condoms, and different lubes
help me?
Should I get used to doing it without
'extras' first?
I'm worried that I'll never be able to
have passionate sex
that both of us
enjoy.
Forplay actually makes sex better to me.
Also try haveing your bf rub your clitoris
before you have sex. Show him were it
feels good. SORRY FOR THE DETAILED
DESCRIPTION DIDNT KNOW HOW TO DESCRIBE
OTHERWISE.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 07-18-07 18:49pm
i think only 10% of womes (please correct
me if im wrong) can actually have an
inetrnal orgasm...
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-18-07 18:51pm
the_girlfreind
wrote:
i think only 10% of womes
(please correct me if im wrong) can
actually have an inetrnal
orgasm...
The statistics are hazy right now, so
there's no way to know for sure. That's
not a bad statistic however.
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i don't feel much
when i have sex with my boyfriend
either..
