Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Saw This Question Somewhere Else Posted: 07-17-07 01:25am
Which do you think is better and why?
Having children young ( 18-28 ), and
focusing on your education and career
later once your kids are all in school
etc.
OR
Focusing on your education and career when
you're young, and having kids at an older
age. (29-30s+)
Whats your opinion/thoughts?
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 07-17-07 15:07pm
You didn't put all at the same time? I
got married in October 2005, graduated
from college in December 2005, found out I
was pregnant in February 2006.
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jenniek
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Joined: 21 Sep 2005 Posts: 692 Location: Salina
Posted: 07-17-07 15:50pm
I agree, add one with all at the same
time.
I graduated high school May 2006 found out
I was pregnant June 2006 started college
august 2006. I then had my baby in Feb
2007 and here I am still trucking through
college, work and being a young mommy.
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Mommy35
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Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 07-18-07 10:15am
I think it's all a matter of opinion and
what you can handle. I had a daughter
when I was 18. For better or worse, I
grew up with her. We had a lot of fun,
but it was a huge struggle financially. I
unfortunately had to spend a lot of time
away with work and when I went back to
college. I missed a lot of firsts. I
have huge regrets about it.
I have a 4 month old and I'm 35. I really
think I appreciate him more than I
appreciated my daughter. I loved her with
all I had and I certainly still do, but
I'm in a completely different place now.
I am able to be home at night to put him
to bed and in the mornings when he gets
up. (yikes, he's in daycare during the
day though
) Yes, I'll be in my 50's when he comes of
age. I won't say he'll have a better
life, because I can't really say that, but
he'll have what he needs and more, where
she always had what she needed, but not a
lot extra.
I probably worded that all wrong. What
I'm trying to say, is having been in both
places, I think it's easier now.
I have to also say that once you have
kids, it's really hard to go back to
school to get your degree. It is possible
and many people do it, but it's hard to
find the time to do your studies and still
balance all the needs of the children who
obviously need to come first
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bernibaby86
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 186 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 07-19-07 15:34pm
I agree...you should add one that says all
at the same time.
I'll be starting my fourth year in
college. I had my daughter on March 15,
2007 and I was able to finish out my
spring semester. I'm a full time student
and a proud young mommy.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-19-07 15:44pm
well i think all at the same time would be
my pick
i "left" highschool in january way before
i found out i was pregnant
im continuing my high school education
through homeschooling. and by the time th
baby is born i will be finishing my senior
year. even though id only be a junior in
public school. i can work at my own pace
and earn as many credits as i want in
howvere long i want so its great because i
can stay home and finish school that way.
ill also still be working so hopefully i
can do school,work and stay home with the
baby all at the same time
however if it becomes too much ill have to
postpone the working part for a while.
after i turn 18 and by then the baby will
be a year old, ill go to community college
or trade school and take some classes for
vet tech.
just a few nights a week or so
and my mom will be abe to watch the baby
for me since she has her own daycare at
home.
so hopeufully i can get all that done and
finished all at the same time?
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 07-21-07 12:06pm
I'm just going to say what i'm doing, my
baby wasn't planned so i had a different
idea of what i was going to be doing but
hey life wasn't meant to be easy. I found
out i was pregnant late october 2006 about
a month after i'd started my last year at
school, i worked through that year and did
all of my final exams. I know have my
daughter and i'll be going to college in
september 2008 and she'll be staying in
the college nursery. it's importnant to me
to go to college so that i can qualify,
get the job i want and be able to help
support my family instead of relying on
Dom and the goverenment because it's my
job too
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kaerbear
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Joined: 10 Apr 2007 Posts: 1557 Location: ,
Posted: 07-22-07 06:27am
i would have loved to have gotten my
education completely done before having
this baby but oops!! oh well. lol. i
wouldn't change it for the world and i
think we will be okay. my child will
always be my top priority but part of that
is making sure i am a good provider which
is why i chose to educate myself in the
first place. my mom did it with 5 kids
and we survived. i think having seen her
do it has made it more important for me to
do also. i think people should just do
what they think is right for them.