i knew my girlfriend for awhile through
friends, but we just started dating near
the beginning of june/end of may. well
midway through june her and her family
moved to their beach-house for the summer.
everything was going great from the start,
we went on like 5 or 6 dates before she
left, and after, we would call each other
every night. she was begging me to come
visit her, so i spent $250 on plane
tickets and i went down to see her for a
week. (i just got back)
well she was acting really weird the whole
trip. like when i would sit close to her,
she would tell me im too close. we were
never alone the whole trip, her family was
always around, so i would suggest going to
the movies, or just taking a walk to look
at the stars, and she would just ignore
me, or make excuses. and when they dropped
me off at the airport, all i got was a
hug, no kiss, and i said "ill miss you"
and she just said "aww" when she usually
says somethin like ill miss you too.
the whole trip it felt like i was just on
vacation with my friend, not my
GIRLfriend. her family is really
goody-goody and religious, so i just
assumed thats why she was acting
different.
well when i got home, and went on my
myspace account for the first time in a
week, she changed her status to "single"
and moved me down a bunch of spots on her
"top8" thinger.
im depressed.. i dont understand, i really
liked her. why would she invite me down?
and why wouldnt she just tell me whats
wrong, or call me, instead of just
changing her status on myspace and letting
me find out that way?
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Marfa2107
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 1552 Location: Galena, Kansas United States
Posted: 07-17-07 14:25pm
Maybe you should call her and ask her why
she's been acting weird towards you..?
tell her that you really like her and
that's why you went and spent time with
her and her family, because you just
wanted to see her and she really hurt your
feelings when you got there..
ask her why she changed her status on
Myspace and moved you down her top
friends..
it may be nothing...
it might be because of her family...
i don't know?.. but you'll never know
unless you ask
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
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Posted: 07-17-07 14:31pm
because girls are shallow lol
thats why shes doing this
i think
now dont freak out its just my opinion. i
dont know alot but i do know alot about
the little that i do know and thats
people...plus im a girl so i can tell you
it could be two thing :
1. her family...but why would she do that
to her myspace?
2. shes moved on and doenst care and is
trying to get rid of you.
Maybe you should call her
and ask her why she's been acting weird
towards you..?
tell her that you really like her and
that's why you went and spent time with
her and her family, because you just
wanted to see her and she really hurt your
feelings when you got there..
ask her why she changed her status on
Myspace and moved you down her top
friends..
it may be nothing...
it might be because of her family...
i don't know?.. but you'll never know
unless you ask
yeah im gonna try to call her once my free
nightly minutes start. i called her last
night (before i checked myspace) and she
didnt awnser, but it was kinda late too i
dunno. ahhhhh im so confused!
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Marfa2107
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 1552 Location: Galena, Kansas United States
Posted: 07-17-07 14:41pm
well this time if she doesn't answer
leave her a voicemail..
and she'll have to atleast hear it..
i dono it's just a good starting point..
let us know how it goes okay?
because girls are shallow
lol
thats why shes doing this
i think
now dont freak out its just my opinion. i
dont know alot but i do know alot about
the little that i do know and thats
people...plus im a girl so i can tell you
it could be two thing :
1. her family...but why would she do that
to her myspace?
2. shes moved on and doenst care and is
trying to get rid of you.
i agree with martha though- call her
why the heck would she invite me down
though?? (i bought the plane tickets a
week before the trip.. im out $300 on the
tickets and 6 days of work, which is like
another $300-500.) and she was excited to
see me the whole time leading up to the
day...
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Marfa2107
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 1552 Location: Galena, Kansas United States
Posted: 07-17-07 14:52pm
i'm not trying to be mean..
but girls like to see how far a guy will
go for them..
believe me i've been there and done
that..
they'll try to get you to do whatever for
them whenever they want it..
but like i said just give her a call
tonight and see waht she says..
goodluck hun
and let us know okay?
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pronetoillness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: san francisco!, california
Plane Ticket Posted: 07-17-07 14:59pm
ok..
my point of view.. is that she really did
have feelings for you but the pressure of
moving around made her second guess the
outcome of the relationship.. so she
invited you over to see how it would feel
again. It wasn't what she expected... and
ended up not being what she wanted .. soo
shee cut you out of her life the easy
way..
by not confronting like a real
women/man///person should.
some people just don't know how to handle
these situations but to coldturkey things
..
move on >.<!
if she doesn't call back in 2 days.. ( and
you know for a fact she sees/gets calls
even left msgs..) it's over man..
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-17-07 15:04pm
ohiokid87
wrote:
the_girlfreind
wrote:
because girls are shallow
lol
thats why shes doing this
i think
now dont freak out its just my opinion. i
dont know alot but i do know alot about
the little that i do know and thats
people...plus im a girl so i can tell you
it could be two thing :
1. her family...but why would she do that
to her myspace?
2. shes moved on and doenst care and is
trying to get rid of you.
i agree with martha though- call her
why the heck would she invite me down
though?? (i bought the plane tickets a
week before the trip.. im out $300 on the
tickets and 6 days of work, which is like
another $300-500.) and she was excited to
see me the whole time leading up to the
day...
because she might have wanted to see you
in person to make her final dection
im sorry but girls are friggen wierd lol
we have BAD ways of getting out of
relationshps sometimes...
she was obsessed with me before she left
for her beach house, like leaving 3
voicemails within a few hours asking me to
come over, or calling me if i was a few
minutes late. then all of the sudden BOOM,
she wants nothing to do with me???? plus
why couldnt she just do it over the phone,
or just let me know before i bought the
plane tickets????
she got her cell taken away after she got
caught drinking, so she uses her mom's, so
instead of leaving a voicemail, i just
sent her a message on myspace, but i can
already tell its not gonna turn out good,
cause this kinda stuff never works out for
me.
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Marfa2107
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 1552 Location: Galena, Kansas United States
Posted: 07-17-07 22:32pm
well, i guess just send her a message on
myspace and see what happens..
that's all i can really tell ya to do..
sorry hun..
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pronetoillness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: san francisco!, california
Posted: 07-18-07 00:44am
ohiokid87
wrote:
she was obsessed with me
before she left for her beach house, like
leaving 3 voicemails within a few hours
asking me to come over, or calling me if i
was a few minutes late. then all of the
sudden BOOM, she wants nothing to do with
me???? plus why couldnt she just do it
over the phone, or just let me know before
i bought the plane tickets????
she got her cell taken away after she got
caught drinking, so she uses her mom's, so
instead of leaving a voicemail, i just
sent her a message on myspace, but i can
already tell its not gonna turn out good,
cause this kinda stuff never works out for
me.
if you read what i posted before, maybe
she was just testing the waters.
the moving thing might have to do with it,
i've moved over 10 times already. I'm
still young.
Changing, new school, new people, thinking
about LD relationships and results really
put a lot of pressure on a person. She
might have not had enuff inside of her to
tell you. That's her problem.
if she doesn't reply to your myspace.
ignore her! don't tell me you've never
done this to a gal before? It's just the
way she felt.. accept it and move on
hon..
<3
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Assena
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 328 Location: Georgia
Posted: 07-18-07 00:59am
pronetoillness
wrote:
ohiokid87
wrote:
she was obsessed with me
before she left for her beach house, like
leaving 3 voicemails within a few hours
asking me to come over, or calling me if i
was a few minutes late. then all of the
sudden BOOM, she wants nothing to do with
me???? plus why couldnt she just do it
over the phone, or just let me know before
i bought the plane tickets????
she got her cell taken away after she got
caught drinking, so she uses her mom's, so
instead of leaving a voicemail, i just
sent her a message on myspace, but i can
already tell its not gonna turn out good,
cause this kinda stuff never works out for
me.
if you read what i posted before, maybe
she was just testing the waters.
the moving thing might have to do with it,
i've moved over 10 times already. I'm
still young.
Changing, new school, new people, thinking
about LD relationships and results really
put a lot of pressure on a person. She
might have not had enuff inside of her to
tell you. That's her problem.
if she doesn't reply to your myspace.
ignore her! don't tell me you've never
done this to a gal before? It's just the
way she felt.. accept it and move on
hon..
<3
sweety it was a move to a summer home for
the summer.
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Posts: 697 Location: Barrie, On Canada
Posted: 07-18-07 01:13am
How old are you? How old is she? How long
were you together?
From what I gather from what you had wrote
it sounds like she could've been shy
around her family. What did her family say
about you coming.. Did they know that you
were going there? Maybe she really didn't
think you would actually go there. Will
she be back at the end of the summer? ALSO
how did you find out that her phone was
taken away? Sorry about all of the
questions I suppose I just need to know
before I can really say what I think! Good luck!
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pronetoillness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: san francisco!, california
Posted: 07-18-07 12:31pm
Assena
wrote:
pronetoillness
wrote:
ohiokid87
wrote:
she was obsessed with me
before she left for her beach house, like
leaving 3 voicemails within a few hours
asking me to come over, or calling me if i
was a few minutes late. then all of the
sudden BOOM, she wants nothing to do with
me???? plus why couldnt she just do it
over the phone, or just let me know before
i bought the plane tickets????
she got her cell taken away after she got
caught drinking, so she uses her mom's, so
instead of leaving a voicemail, i just
sent her a message on myspace, but i can
already tell its not gonna turn out good,
cause this kinda stuff never works out for
me.
if you read what i posted before, maybe
she was just testing the waters.
the moving thing might have to do with it,
i've moved over 10 times already. I'm
still young.
Changing, new school, new people, thinking
about LD relationships and results really
put a lot of pressure on a person. She
might have not had enuff inside of her to
tell you. That's her problem.
if she doesn't reply to your myspace.
ignore her! don't tell me you've never
done this to a gal before? It's just the
way she felt.. accept it and move on
hon..
<3
sweety it was a move to a summer home for
the summer.
maybe she's planning to stay permanetly?
Maybe she's hoping to take a break? who
knows.. *shrugs*
How old are you? How old is
she? How long were you together?
From what I gather from what you had wrote
it sounds like she could've been shy
around her family. What did her family say
about you coming.. Did they know that you
were going there? Maybe she really didn't
think you would actually go there. Will
she be back at the end of the summer? ALSO
how did you find out that her phone was
taken away? Sorry about all of the
questions I suppose I just need to know
before I can really say what I think! Good
luck!
haha no prob..
her parents love me, they gave her the
idea to invite me.. i didnt wanna go there
at first, but she kept on me and kept
asking and i finally gave in.. yes shell
be back in august.. and she told me about
the phone thing awhlie ago. im 20 shes 18
almost 19.
she gave me a bunch or crap about how i
acted different and that i was cheap and
she told me to call her. so whatever, well
see.
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Posts: 697 Location: Barrie, On Canada
Posted: 07-18-07 15:21pm
ohiokid87
wrote:
Dale123
wrote:
How old are you? How old is
she? How long were you together?
From what I gather from what you had wrote
it sounds like she could've been shy
around her family. What did her family say
about you coming.. Did they know that you
were going there? Maybe she really didn't
think you would actually go there. Will
she be back at the end of the summer? ALSO
how did you find out that her phone was
taken away? Sorry about all of the
questions I suppose I just need to know
before I can really say what I think! Good
luck!
haha no prob..
her parents love me, they gave her the
idea to invite me.. i didnt wanna go there
at first, but she kept on me and kept
asking and i finally gave in.. yes shell
be back in august.. and she told me about
the phone thing awhlie ago. im 20 shes 18
almost 19.
she gave me a bunch or crap about how i
acted different and that i was cheap and
she told me to call her. so whatever, well
see.
She said that you were cheap.. You just
spent alot of money to go and see her..
You're not that cheap! What a girl! See
what happens in Aug. For now I would
probably start dating some other people
test the feild a bit..
no she actually does know me pretty well,
i am cheap. except when i bought that
expensive plane ticket. i actually said
this to her: "i could fly down there to
visit for a week, or i could wait till you
come home, and we could blow the $250 on
fun stuff, but if i come down, ill prolly
be cheaper than usual when you get back,
what would you rather do?" she laughed,
thought about it, and said to come visit.
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pronetoillness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: san francisco!, california
Posted: 07-18-07 21:19pm
is there a reason why you're so cheap? do
you get a low pay or do you have something
to pay off? Maybe you're being so cheap it
almost comes off as being thoughtless and
effortless. IDK..
and when she saw you, it wasn't as fun. it
might have given her a thought of what
would her arrival with you would be like.
is there a reason why you're
so cheap? do you get a low pay or do you
have something to pay off? Maybe you're
being so cheap it almost comes off as
being thoughtless and effortless. IDK..
and when she saw you, it wasn't as fun. it
might have given her a thought of what
would her arrival with you would be
like.
its not like i wont spend money on her.
its just that i try to find cheap/free
things to do, it was never a problem, she
always thought it was cute and funny, i
dont know why shes bringing it up now.
i have around 9 grand in the bank, 2 cars
and a crotch rocket, and 2 years of
college done and paid for. im getting
student loans for the next 2 years and am
saving up to put a down payment on a
house. my part-time job pays well, so i
guess i have no reason to be cheap, thats
just how i am.
Good luck!