Joined: 18 Jul 2007 Posts: 2 Location: new zealand
Tough Love with Bipolar Person Posted: 07-18-07 04:09am
I have been wih this guy for 3 years and
he has bipolar. He has put me through so
much trouble its not funny. He has cheated
on me, he has hit me more than once and
just recently he broke my arm. As for him
hes now in prison. The thing is he has
only been on his meds for about a year and
he stopped taking them for a couple of
days hence my arm being broken. The thing
is I love this man and I know that some
things cant be helped because of the
illness but what do I do. I cant just
leave him because I have already tried
that and he has tried to hurt himself and
I feel that I will be the one to blame if
anything happens to him please help
me>>>>
What do I do????
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j_j89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 19
Re: Tough Love Posted: 07-18-07 21:44pm
shugarsweetnaz
wrote:
I have been wih this guy for
3 years and he has bipolar. He has put me
through so much health question its not
funny. He has cheated on me, he has hit me
more than once and just recently he broke
my arm. As for him hes now in prison. The
thing is he has only been on his meds for
about a year and he stopped taking them
for a couple of days hence my arm being
broken. The thing is I love this man and I
know that some things cant be helped
because of the illness but what do I do. I
cant just leave him because I have already
tried that and he has tried to hurt
himself and I feel that I will be the one
to blame if anything happens to him please
help me>>>>
What do I
do????
Wow, i definitely feel for you. To know
that you are with a physically abusive man
AND he is bipolar is just beyond words.
Whenever you are with someone that long,
it automatically makes things harder. I
have been through much as well, and it
certainly leaves a person angry and
confused. I would advice you first to seek
the help of a professional for yourself
first and second to get the tools on how
to deal with your man. I would advise you
on the boyfriend/suicide issue, but really
and truly you need to speak to someone who
is trained. That is so sensitive of a
subject that I would really advice you to
seek more professional than forum help
(just on the subject of how to deal with
someone who is suicidal because of a
broken relationship). But the bottom line
here is that you need to care for you. It
is your boyfriend's responsibility to get
help, and you as his girlfriend should
strongly encourage him to get help. If he
stops taking his meds and he can afford
it, you should take that as a sign that he
is not serious about your safety/mental
well being as well as his. Many people on
medication do not like the way it makes
them feel, so i can see wanting to stop
taking them. HOWEVER it is his
responsibility to seek out an alternative
medication/solution so he does not go back
to his old ways which he has already done.
The meds are the lifeline here. I wish i
could help you more, because i really see
how this could be beyond awful. I say all
this to say, Go to a professional and help
yourself and get the tools you need.
Stay well and good luck.
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Defuze
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jul 2007 Posts: 4 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 07-19-07 05:48am
Hello. I am Bi-Polar, and I am/was
abusive, but not physically, but everyone
is different. I hurt my babies mother in
so many bad ways, never hit her or
anything. But things I said and my actions
cost me our relationship. My advice to
you, is to talk to someone who is better
to handle, and give advice on these
situations, depending on how well your
boyfriend takes good or bad news, it could
be okay to leave him, or it couldn't be,
because you conscious will eat you up,
especially if he is off his meds, and it
suicidal. Try to reason with him in a way
that wouldn't get him upset, like a
special treat for taking his meds, yes i
know you cannot live your life giving him
rewards for taking his meds, but if he
does it constantly, it will become
habitual.
Derrick
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shugarsweetnaz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jul 2007 Posts: 2 Location: new zealand
Thanks Posted: 07-29-07 03:08am
hi again i wanna thakyou for all the
advice that was given...
im not to sure how things will pan out in
the future for our relationship but i
think i know what i need to do now... If i
truley love this guy i will let him go,
and hopefully he will seek the help that
he needs....
thankyou once again
